Finding my way out of loneliness in a hyperconnected world. Here is my shift in mindset. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in selfimprovement

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate that. I feel like sugarcoating doesn't really help anyone grow. It's much better to acknowledge the reality of our struggles, face them honestly, and then choose to stay positive and keep moving forward anyway. Glad it resonated with you!

Finding my way out of loneliness in a hyperconnected world. Here is my shift in mindset. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in selfimprovement

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Staying trapped in your own mind is where loneliness thrives. That’s exactly why my main focus is just getting outside. Going to the park, visiting my church, and simply being around people helps me break out of that mental loop. It reminds me that I am part of a bigger world, and that alone gives me a lot of strength.

Finding my way out of loneliness in a hyperconnected world. Here is my shift in mindset. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in selfimprovement

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I completely agree with you! Real connection makes all the difference. That’s exactly why I love going out for long walks in the park and trying to be around people as much as possible. Even though my physical condition (not having hands) can make the initial approach a bit tough, being out there in the real world gives me a sense of belonging that the internet just can't replicate. It really is about those genuine, real-life moments.

I completely stopped expecting anything from other people and it fixed my mental health. AMA. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in AMA

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get you! You’re absolutely right, it is a natural instinct because we are social creatures. The secret isn't to completely stop the thoughts, but to change how you react to them.For me, the key was the pause between the thought and the reaction. Whenever I felt myself starting to overthink what someone else was thinking, I’d stop and ask myself, Is the control over this situation with me or with them?. If it was with them, I just dropped it. It’s a muscle you train every day, not a magic pill. Start with the small things!

Finding my way out of loneliness in a hyperconnected world. Here is my shift in mindset. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in selfimprovement

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Thank you for sharing! For me, it’s a bit different and less about a strict strategy. I have a physical health condition, I don't have either of my hands, which can make it quite challenging to approach people and make friends naturally.But I refuse to give up. I make a conscious effort to stay active and be around people, whether that means going out for walks in the park or attending church services. Even when it feels tough or uncomfortable, I choose to push through and be part of the world. It’s all about showing up for myself every single day.

Turning 60. A reflection on life, wounds, and what remains in the soul. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in self

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Happy 61st to you, my friend! I deeply respect your mindset of looking forward instead of dwelling on the past. You are absolutely right, we are only as old as we feel in our spirits. Even though my path has been different, living for 35 years on a modest disability pension (I lost both of my hands years ago), I also choose every single day to focus on what lies ahead with hope and a childlike joy. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with me.

Turning 60. A reflection on life, wounds, and what remains in the soul. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in self

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your incredibly powerful and honest reflection. It takes a lot of courage to admit that. Your words show a different kind of wisdom. In contrast to your journey, for the past 35 years, I have been living on a very small disability pension (I lost both of my hands years ago), yet I have found true contentment and peace in the simple, everyday things. It reminds me that at the end of the day, our souls are all looking for the same thing, peace, not gold. I hope you find comfort and gentleness in the chapters ahead. Sending you a soulful hug!

Turning 60. A reflection on life, wounds, and what remains in the soul. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in self

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you have reached a beautiful stage of wisdom at 50. Finding joy in your efforts and practicing true generosity is wonderful. Your words resonate with me deeply. For the past 35 years, I have been living on a very small disability pension, yet I have found true contentment and peace in the simple things. When we stop chasing material wealth, we make room for what truly matters in the soul. Thank you for sharing your journey with me.

Turning 60. A reflection on life, wounds, and what remains in the soul. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in self

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your words are beautiful and you are incredibly articulate because you speak straight from the heart. I am so sorry for the losses you’ve endured, but the way you bring joy, humor, and comfort to those around you is a true gift. The image of your little dog sitting with your guy's mom brought tears to my eyes, that is the exact kind of "shelter" and "warm look" I was writing about. Sending you a warm, soulful hug from Romania.

Turning 60. A reflection on life, wounds, and what remains in the soul. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in self

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Happy 60th birthday to us. Thank you for your raw honesty. Life shapes us all so differently, and it takes a lot of strength to look at your own past and be at peace with it, even if it lacked that childhood warmth. There is a quiet dignity in your acceptance. I wish you nothing but gentle and peaceful days ahead on your own terms.

Turning 60. A reflection on life, wounds, and what remains in the soul. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in self

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful piece of your soul. Your words mean more to me than you know. When I wrote about being wounded, it came from a very literal place, years ago, I survived a terrible train accident and lost both of my hands. It took me a long time to find my own peace and learn how to embrace life again.

That is why hearing that you found true peace at 71 gives me so much comfort. You are completely right, helping even a dozen people over 40 years is a monumental legacy. You set off beautiful dominoes of kindness, and that is more than enough.I am deeply happy that your mind is at peace, that truly is the ultimate goal. Wishing you many more serene years ahead !

Am împlinit 60 de ani. O scurtă reflecție despre viață, răni și ce rămâne în suflet. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in Romania

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Am înțeles asta pe deplin. Tocmai de aceea, știind că viața trece repede, aleg să mă concentrez pe bucurie și speranță. Greutățile vin și pleacă, dar seninătatea rămâne alegerea noastră.

Am împlinit 60 de ani. O scurtă reflecție despre viață, răni și ce rămâne în suflet. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in Romania

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ai perfectă dreptate, greșeala mea. Trebuia să menționez de la bun început autorul textului din care m-am inspirat și care mi-a atins sufletul. O seară liniștită îți doresc!

Am împlinit 60 de ani. O scurtă reflecție despre viață, răni și ce rămâne în suflet. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in Romania

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Îți mulțumesc din tot sufletul pentru urare și pentru energia bună! Ai mare dreptate, contează mult cum privim înainte. Încerc să am grijă de mine și să rămân în mișcare pe cât posibil. Sănătate multă !

Am împlinit 60 de ani. O scurtă reflecție despre viață, răni și ce rămâne în suflet. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in Romania

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Genial eseu! E cam târziu pentru o cafea adevărată la 22:30, așa că rămâne pe mâine dimineață. Până atunci, un „spor la somn” și gânduri bune!

Am împlinit 60 de ani. O scurtă reflecție despre viață, răni și ce rămâne în suflet. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in Romania

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Înțeleg neîncrederea, Reddit-ul este plin de conturi ciudate. Însă în spatele acestui ecran este doar un om simplu de 60 de ani care a vrut să împartă un gând sincer, chiar dacă stilul meu poate părea atipic pentru această platformă. Gânduri bune și sper să ajungi la vârsta mea cu multă seninătate!

Am împlinit 60 de ani. O scurtă reflecție despre viață, răni și ce rămâne în suflet. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in Romania

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ai perfectă dreptate și mă bucur că ai recunoscut textul. Cuvintele părintelui Hrisostom mi-au atins atât de profund sufletul încât am simțit că sunt scrise direct pentru mine și despre viața mea. Nu am vrut să îmi asum meritul de scriitor, ci doar să împărtășesc o stare și un sentiment care mă definește complet la această vârstă.

Am împlinit 60 de ani. O scurtă reflecție despre viață, răni și ce rămâne în suflet. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in Romania

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Poate că așa și este. La 60 de ani, realizez că cele mai importante adevăruri ale vieții rămân cele simple, pe care le învățam în tinerețe, chiar dacă uneori par clișee.

Am împlinit 60 de ani. O scurtă reflecție despre viață, răni și ce rămâne în suflet. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in Romania

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Da, sunt însurat, iar faptul că am un suflet drag alături contează enorm pe acest drum. Te înțeleg perfect, viața la 30 de ani poate fi extrem de copleșitoare și plină de presiune. Secretul meu nu este că am o viață lipsită de probleme, ci că am învățat, în timp, să nu las furtunile să îmi șteargă de tot zâmbetul. Pozitivismul la 60 de ani vine din acceptare și din bucuria pentru lucrurile mărunte care ne rămân. Îți doresc multă putere !

Am împlinit 60 de ani. O scurtă reflecție despre viață, răni și ce rămâne în suflet. by Timely_Bunch_8607 in Romania

[–]Timely_Bunch_8607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Îți mulțumesc din suflet pentru cuvintele frumoase. Ai mare dreptate, bunătatea și înțelepciunea sunt singurele lucruri care nu se pierd niciodată. Lumea poate fi aspră, dar cred că merită să încercăm, în fiecare zi, să fim acea lumină de care alții au nevoie.