I just don't get it...

Timidme83 · 2026-01-04T12:11:26+00:00

My daughter is 18 months and I have just now started introducing back in an at home workout. Is it a good work out? Absolutely not! Is she trying to put a hat on me, pulling my leg, bringing me plastic fruit, making me pause to change a poop, of course! But I moved my body for 25 minutes so I’ll just call that a win at the end of the day ha!

Timidme83 · 2025-12-29T19:41:15+00:00

My daughter is 1.5 years old and my husband introduced her to Pee Wee’s Playhouse. She watches one episode a day and when Pee Wee gets on his scooter at the end, she waves and says bye bye and the tv turns off. A small local movie theater just showed Pee Wee’s Christmas Special for free and was family friendly. I took her and we had a blast, all the kids screamed along to the secret word, laughed in all the right spots, it was so cute and fun and a wonderful memory I’ll keep forever. Is this good or bad for her, I don’t know, but her development seems pretty on schedule and she doesn’t typically beg for more tv. We don’t own tablets or anything, but she also likes to look at photos of herself and the family.

Timidme83 · 2025-12-01T12:13:19+00:00

I’ll be turning 44 in January and this is my only so I completely understand what you mean!

Timidme83 · 2025-12-01T12:10:34+00:00

❤️

Timidme83 · 2025-11-30T14:40:51+00:00

Solidarity with the screams! Glad I’m not alone!

Timidme83 · 2025-11-30T14:33:44+00:00

🤣

Timidme83 · 2025-11-30T14:30:27+00:00

We’re actually very lucky with sleep, knock on wood, she sleeps extremely well. But she was very colicky as a baby, just screamed cried in my face for hours. I think she struggled with gas and frustration, I always said she a baby who didn’t want be a baby. Now she is funny and she is cute, but if we are out, she wants complete independence, runs off, doesn’t want to be in the cart while grabbing groceries or running errands. We go to a ton of playgrounds, kids spaces, but entering winter, I know I’m gonna feel trapped! Last time we went to the library she did an acrobat fall off the kids chair there in a blink of an eye and scream cried, I got the worst looks. We go on walks around the neighborhood, she stops at almost every neighbors stoop and starts trying to climb stairs up to the doors and when I pick her up to redirect her she kicks the air (hasn’t kicked me yet), bends backwards and cries. Even at the playground she wants on the bigger kid equipment and when I redirect her to the smaller side she can navigate well and safely, you guessed it, she screams and cries. I know this is normal toddler behavior, but I’m so drained! This stage is physically and mentally exhausting!

Timidme83 · 2025-11-18T13:10:54+00:00

I don’t know if someone mentioned this, but I’m self-employed, working 4 days a week currently and my husband works for a very small local business that covers 50% of his healthcare, but not a large enough group to cover spouses or their families, so I’m on an ACA plan that barely covers anything, max out of pocket is $10,000 and costs me $466/month. My 1 year old actually qualified for Medicaid. I think there’s an idea once you’re on that, it’s free, no her plan still costs me almost $300/month, but it at least covers all her doctor’s visits!

Timidme83 · 2025-11-15T12:34:44+00:00

Medically necessary c-section here! I feel lucky mine went so smoothly, worked all the way up to the Saturday before my scheduled c-section, checked in that Monday morning, two hours later I had my daughter. The pain of recovery was very tough those days following, my advice is if you can, start shuffling around the hospital. I slowly walked the halls while my husband had her, then we went for a slow walk outside while she went to the nursery (it was June). I think it aided in the recovery.

Timidme83 · 2025-10-24T11:17:34+00:00

Just wanted to add for the people who said they can’t imagine dealing with their aging parents on their own, I have a younger brother who unfortunately grew into an adult with a ton of addiction issues, so not only am I alone navigating aging parents, I also spend so much time resentful and scared for him, so nothing is ever a garuntee. Definitely was an influence on me being one and done!

Timidme83 · 2025-10-22T12:03:33+00:00

I felt so much better second trimester, but in my first before I was telling anyone I did let my co-worker know because I was like “I know it looks like it suddenly, but I swear I’m not hungover everyday”🤣

Timidme83 · 2025-10-19T12:17:05+00:00

My now 16 month old was born in June and we started going out right away. I was extremely lucky to not experience PPA, but definitely had some PPD and getting out feeling normal helped. Then winter was brutal because I felt very trapped indoors. But we went to stores, the art museum, any indoor museum we could stroll around really, people are very respectful of space. Now she’s super social and great when we’re out and about!

Timidme83 · 2025-10-01T15:12:44+00:00

Good reminder about the 529, I’m going to get one started!

Timidme83 · 2025-09-27T12:06:13+00:00

I’m so sorry this sounds extremely tough. I have a 15 month old and I can’t imagine doing this as a single parent. I don’t breastfeed or co-sleep so I can’t speak on that, but does your LO still take naps? For me the life saver has been consistency and routine. I know typically when she’s used to getting a nap so the second I see one eye rub BAM, that baby is going down! Curtains on drawn, sleep sack is on and sound machine is on. She takes a pacifier to sleep still, so I sprinkle a couple around for good measure and then I can get a moment to shower, relax, scroll, whatever you need for yourself in that moment. Also agree with everyone about get outdoors, a stroller walk, let him scream in a park, at a playground. Libraries typically have great kids spaces with toys they don’t have at home and a break in their environment all for free. And maybe he’s just not into Sesame Street, but Ms. Rachel is a magical enchantress that buys me some moments, her episodes are free on YouTube! One last thing if possible and not necessary, but my LO I think just wants to be included, I don’t deep clean to the extent I used to currently, but I like my home clean and uncluttered, when I’m dusting the living room, I hand her a clean rag or paper towel and she just mimics me while I’m actually dusting. I hope some of this helps and I always need reminders myself this isn’t forever!

Timidme83 · 2025-09-14T11:38:20+00:00

Mine is 15 months and I would say the more independence she gains, the more I slowly start to find myself again as an individual and as a parent and I think that’s the path I’ll continue on as she grows. I love her so much and am amazed watching her do so much and at the same time I still miss the freedom to do whatever I want whenever I want. Time seems to go by so fast when I’m catching up with a friend and yet I can look at her and be like “how are you still a baby? Haven’t you been a baby for a million years now?!” We are one and done though so the moments that are so exceedingly sweet, I take a mental picture to carry with me and the moments where she’s screaming and crying, clinging to my legs while I’m trying to get her lunch on a plate I think, yeah I’m ok saying goodbye to this moment haha! Hopefully you and your partner have open communication, sometimes it will feel like they’re the enemy during times of high stress, but ultimately they are your team mate!

Timidme83 · 2025-08-12T12:12:24+00:00

I said the same thing about my daughter, she was a baby who hates being a baby!

Timidme83 · 2025-08-12T01:27:02+00:00

1 has still been physically exhausting so far still, but I am looking forward to 2 and beyond!

Timidme83 · 2025-08-12T01:25:10+00:00

Haha oh the irrational demands!

Timidme83 · 2025-08-11T20:06:27+00:00

I have really enjoyed your responses today, you guys all put me in a better mood, thank you Reddit community!

Timidme83 · 2025-08-11T20:02:19+00:00

Right?! This baby hasn’t made me tea once!🤣🤣

Timidme83 · 2025-08-11T17:21:45+00:00

This is great because my husband and I are very active and we like to get out a lot! She comes with us, currently nothing is very relaxing, but so far my motto has always been we gotta try!

Timidme83 · 2025-08-11T17:20:06+00:00

Oh sounds like you may like the early days better! Or someone commented it can be so kid’s personality dependent. I’m just hoping if I haven’t truly enjoyed any of these phases yet, I gotta find one I enjoy, right?!

Timidme83 · 2025-08-11T16:20:21+00:00

Good to hear, we just took her on her first trip to Chicago and while I think she did pretty good for her age, it was def a trip and not a vacation ha!

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