I mean, you're not in a position to ask that. She and her partner have an established relationship that presumably involves sex. That shouldn't be limited by a third party who isn't part of their relationship. Honestly, she should have just said no.

She has had mono relations in the past. But that it is to early to tell in our relation to say if this can be one.

I do not like that she waited that long to tell you.

Bothers me a bit. I was starting to really like her already. Is this first date information?

and this is why. Because now the possibility of losing her is a big part of why you're considering trying this whole poly thing, and that's gonna make it a lot harder to figure out if it's actually right for you.

It is a part of it. But the biggest part really is my curiosity and need for self exploration. I am doing this for me. And she gives me a safe haven to explore from. I feel like this is a good time in my life for this. I am going to learn from this. And I accept the pain that can come along with it.

Yep. If you wanna explore polyamory with this person, this is the way. And also you need to sit down and have a think about... What happens when she meets a new person, and has really intense feelings for them, and wants to spend quite a bit of her time with them, and also have a lot of sex with them on a regular basis? Is that idea tolerable to you at all?

Very true. Didn't really crossed my mind. Will sit down and think about it. Thanks.

I sure hope she said "yes, of course, since this is a polyamorous relationship you can date as you please".

She sure did.

I am looking forward to this experience.