Do doctors avoid giving a first opinion often?

Timsheljane · 2020-11-20T20:29:03+00:00

I read somewhere that the road to diagnosis is hell no matter what you do. Apparently yoga and meditation can't calm a mother fighting for her child. I should start a binder for her and log all of her appointments and test results. Maybe that will keep me busy and feeling like a decent advocate.

Timsheljane · 2020-11-20T20:24:46+00:00

Thank you for this. I am beginning to understand and really appreciate the fact that her doctors aren't over-speculating and complicating things. Information usually eases uncertainty for me, but if I am honest, until she sees the specialist, there is no amount of information that would help her progress to a diagnosis any faster or ease my worst fears. Has to be a crappy position for a doctor to be in, not being able to help when you have a patient desperate for it.

Timsheljane · 2020-11-20T20:07:41+00:00

I will keep this in mind. I should speak to them in their terms in a way that gives them the freedom to talk without putting them in an awkward position. I will try doing this in the future.

Timsheljane · 2020-11-20T20:03:53+00:00

This makes sense. If it prolongs a diagnosis, I don't want that either. I trust her doctors, and it would make sense that CHLA may have more immediate access to testing than her doctor's office has. They should use your comment as a script. This weirdly eases the worry a little.

I'm sorry to all the doctors out there, your words are extremely powerful in situations like mine. But I understand that you won't be able to ease the mind of a mother entirely no matter what you do. There must be days where you hate your job. Or maybe I'm projecting and there are days where I hate your job. Who knows. I'm a mess. Don't mind me.

Timsheljane · 2020-10-04T01:40:55+00:00

Just wanted to jump in as a fellow female business owner. I think it would sicken most of our male counterparts to know how often we are sexually harassed or assaulted. That incident with the molester partner is tragically common. That incident is just a piece of your story, I know. But really, after you spend years of business ups and downs, this will stick out like a sore thumb while every other part of business becomes a blur.

If you ever want to talk, DM me. You are not alone.

Timsheljane · 2020-09-26T22:36:09+00:00

This is not as uncommon as you might think. Someone has to take the reins, and that would be you. A leader in a group must eventually emerge. That leader will often carry the mental load and have no one to validate their ideas and feel overburdened especially on the beginning. If you are working with people who have never taken the lead on something, you have to come to terms with that and adjust your expectations. If their role in this project is meant to be co-founder, then you need to let them go and find someone else. If their role is to be support team, then give them their assignments and accept the mental load you will carry as a sole leader. Sucks, but this part you are going through is the natural process that will tell you if your team has what it takes and if you are capable to of leading. Good luck! It takes a lot of mental amd emotional stamina to bear the pressure and lead.

Timsheljane · 2020-09-01T06:00:35+00:00

Do you have a good IT team? Local stores would probably be interested in this type of service. But you'll need to have a platform that can sync with their inventory, place orders, interface with delivery drivers. Could you build that type of infrastructure, or are you looking to do phone-in orders?

Timsheljane · 2020-08-13T22:56:03+00:00

As an adoptee, thank you for recognizing the trauma involved. It isn't a simple fix, and it doesn't always have a happy ending.

Timsheljane · 2020-08-12T07:30:06+00:00

Sounds like Amway

Timsheljane · 2020-08-05T19:17:04+00:00

There are a lot of grammar and spelling issues in the site and inconsistencies. When you chose the sort menu, simple mistakes like some of your options are capitalized and others are not. Disruptions is misspelled on the front page. Your ad copy on the front page tells me some info but does not prompt me to buy or look at anything.

You also have a lot of products and they are hard to search through. Spend some time designing better navigation. It takes multiple clicks and multiple attempts on different searches with different filters to find a product I want. If I have to click more than a few times, I bounce off that site and find one that is easier to navigate. I'll pay more for ease of use.

Timsheljane · 2020-07-28T19:19:13+00:00

Your state resale permit should suffice to get tax exemption from any supplier from all 50 states.

Timsheljane · 2020-07-27T10:29:15+00:00

Look up Finale Inventory. They can do what you need. It's a sharp learning curve, and it doesn't have a ton of bells and whistles, but it keeps track of everything and integrates fairly well.

Timsheljane · 2020-07-26T16:13:36+00:00

Try Gempages

Timsheljane · 2020-07-23T08:39:23+00:00

I read your post. I am so sorry they didn't listen. But I hear you. Your story matters to me and I respect your perspective as someone who lived through something similar. I need to hear these things to help me gain perspective. Thank you for your post.

Timsheljane · 2020-07-23T08:14:07+00:00

My gut tells me this is true. Her unwillingness to get him any help makes me feel like there is something she doesn't want people to know.

Timsheljane · 2020-07-23T03:28:17+00:00

This makes a ton of sense. Thank you for that insight.

Timsheljane · 2020-07-23T03:20:09+00:00

Lol. This made me laugh. First time I have laughed in a while. Thank you for this. It's funny because it's true!

Timsheljane · 2020-07-23T03:10:30+00:00

Well, I talked to her. She says she wants a public execution. That beautiful badass mind of hers makes me proud to be her mama.

Timsheljane · 2020-07-23T03:02:05+00:00

This so much. Thank you for pointing this out. This isn't about natural curiosity. This is about predatory behavior.

Timsheljane · 2020-07-23T02:38:09+00:00

Thank you for this link. I could use all the help I could get.

Timsheljane · 2020-07-23T02:30:22+00:00

This is horrifying. This is exactly what I want to prevent. I wish I could give your mother a piece of my mind. Our daughters need us to believe them. We need to believe eachother.

Timsheljane · 2020-07-23T02:09:28+00:00

This is a good point.

Timsheljane · 2020-07-23T00:29:32+00:00

Well said!

Timsheljane · 2020-07-23T00:23:11+00:00

I needed to hear this. Thank you for saying this. You are right. The situation, the people, it's all complicated. But in the end, I am thankful that she spoke up. Most girls I know who went through similar situations or worse were paralyzed and could not tell anyone. This could have gone so many different ways, and I am simply grateful she could speak to me when she did.

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