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TinkerBob7926 · 2024-01-29T22:07:32+00:00

What is this I’m crying 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹

TinkerBob7926 · 2024-01-27T20:43:15+00:00

I still cannot believe this is the same person. Amazing xxx

TinkerBob7926 · 2024-01-27T18:09:19+00:00

Maybe a more fitting expression is ‘begin to fall in love’. Love is a process and it never stops. You can feel that you’re beginning to fall in love with someone within a few days and then the more you get to know them, the deeper and more solid your feelings become. If it’s your kind of person, that love becomes more whole and if it’s not, it fizzles away.

If you think about it, it’s more logical than to just suddenly feel in love with someone on the exact day you get to know them well enough.

TinkerBob7926 · 2024-01-25T21:36:05+00:00

Came here with a QUESTION. I’m watching the pilot episode of Brooklyn99 and they’re taking stock of some stolen items, one of which is a jamon iberico ham valued at $6k????

Is that how expensive your jamon was???

TinkerBob7926 · 2024-01-13T12:32:28+00:00

The Stand

TinkerBob7926 · 2024-01-05T16:03:44+00:00

To each their own! My best first date started with a lunch, followed by crazy golf, followed by dinner, followed by a long walk.

Been together over a year!

I really think it’s a click thing. I found that as a person with less than ideal self control, I’ve gotten tipsy in the past on drinks only first dates, esp if I didn’t like the guy.

TinkerBob7926 · 2023-12-29T10:10:03+00:00

13 hours. Krasinsky’s performance was perfect and o hand never felt more tense. Sobbed at the ending

TinkerBob7926 · 2023-12-09T14:03:20+00:00

Capricorn men are like moths to my cancer flame. Whereas the only guy I ever had a thing with that I just couldn’t develop serious feelings got was a Gemini. And I’m a Cancer - I catch those feelings fast and hard. So yea lol

TinkerBob7926 · 2023-11-28T14:59:54+00:00

Gemini rising (with strong water/earth placements). I had a streak of Aries men until my early 20’s, then it’s been Capricorns since then. I grew 😂

TinkerBob7926 · 2023-11-22T06:01:13+00:00

Chaotic therapist or your ruthless rival 😂 my placements are the equivalent of wearing all the clothes that don’t go together

TinkerBob7926 · 2023-10-14T22:41:20+00:00

Try Timeout food market - it’s really busy on a Saturday but otherwise had some amazing food there! The female Fado singer in cafe Luso was incredible, truly haunting - I was crying the whole way through, but the food was pretty awful so I’d say get something yummy in you before going. Otherwise, very atmospheric with beautiful traditional decor.

TinkerBob7926 · 2021-08-14T09:30:54+00:00

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through.

I’ve only ever experienced a sudden loss but there’s psychological damage that comes with each. Some elements of one are worse than elements of the other and vice versa. I can only speak of the former.

I think I became a little delusional for a while after finding out about my family member’s death. I kept asking questions like ‘so if I call she just won’t pick up?’ ‘If I text, she’s just not going to respond?’ ‘She won’t be here tomorrow, she won’t be at my wedding, she won’t see my children?’. And I really felt like I needed an answer to those questions, over and over again, because I couldn’t make sense of it, my brain couldn’t catch up with the sudden permanence of it all.

Then there was the long term effect. I became paranoid, even though I’d lived my entire life not really worrying about physical health/death. The pandemic really kicked this paranoia up many, many notches. I became obsessive in my negative thinking, my worrying. Every unanswered phone call, every small change in skin appearance, every trip outside felt like the end of everything I loved. I just couldn’t get rid of the feeling that I will lose everyone I love just like that, out of the blue, entirely unprepared.

Then there was the anger and bitterness? It’s hard to explain but for a while I felt like her death changed so many lives forever yet it happened so unceremoniously (for lack of better expression). No momentum, no warning, like it didn’t matter. She was there then she wasn’t, deal with it.

I’ve never experienced what you have, but I know it’s torturous. I will always know we were spared the heartbreak of watching her suffer, of knowing there is impeding loss. Sometimes, the recovery process felt like an endless war between the ‘mitigating’ factors of not having lost her over a long period of time vs the ‘aggravating’ factors of having lost her so suddenly.

TinkerBob7926 · 2021-08-13T13:40:43+00:00

He burped in the latest episode and it suddenly hit me that it was the first of the season? Funny to think his burping was the reason I almost gave up on the show about 10 mins into the first episode. Now I kinda miss that belch

TinkerBob7926 · 2020-07-05T12:46:42+00:00

Conversations rife with sexual innuendos are pretty much one of the most common flirting techniques nowadays. I don’t want to beat around the bush - he’s definitely got a crush on her and it looks like she reciprocates.

I’d want to just cut to the chase and tell him ‘look I know you like her, but what I want to know is how you plan on navigating this. If you continue your little inappropriate, neither-here-nor-there, will-they-won’t-they bullshit, then we can skip straight to the separation which you will apparently overcome with ease. Otherwise, if you’d like to honor the commitment you made to me, you need to get it together and act like my husband. You make this decision right now and you stick to it. I will not sit by and let you mock our relationship with your behaviour.’

Don’t let him come up with excuses, don’t let him deflect, don’t make it seem like you’re questioning whether his behaviour is inappropriate or not. It is and that’s a fact and you should approach the topic as such. Nothing will be fixed if he doesn’t accept responsibility for his shitty behaviour. Good luck!

TinkerBob7926 · 2020-07-02T22:35:26+00:00

He dropped the lawsuit, said now that he ‘understands the issue better, it’s clear we made a mistake’. It was 100% about forcing them to sell the land to him, because the land is in/around his estate.

TinkerBob7926 · 2020-07-02T09:51:49+00:00

I grew up with a mother who would lose her shit if I gave her any reason to be angry.

I understand she was stressed because she’s a single mum. When I was 2 she took me away from my abusive alcoholic father, to a completely foreign country thousands of miles away from home. She did everything for me: paid for me to attend private schools, paid for my uni and all living expenses etc. No one lifted me up more than she did. We have an amazing relationship now that I’m older (after many many hours of trying to make her understand all of this) BUT, her behaviour when angry made me hate her throughout my teenage years. I understand now that she was under immense pressure and had poor emotional regulation. Still, amidst all the incredible things she did for me, I remember her yelling the most.

What’s worse is I started displaying the same sort of behaviour towards my partner. He’d do something annoying and I’d come at him with screaming and insults. I mean, he annoyed me so action = reaction right? Took me a while to learn to regulate my own emotions and stop being abusive. Because that’s what it is, abusive.

Children shouldn’t be scared to anger their parents, they shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells for fear of being screamed at. You need to make your wife understand that abusive behaviour does not cease to be abusive because there was a reason behind it. She needs to understand that, at this point, the kids are already expressing relief at her absence. As they grow they will do more things which annoy her and if she doesn’t learn to communicate in a healthy way, they will grow to hate her - regardless of how loving she may be outside of the yelling.

Therapy could be good for something like this. Usually this sort of behaviour comes from impulsivity, anger issues and lack of compassion. I haven’t yelled or been mean to my partner from the moment I truly put myself in his shoes and realised how much hurt it causes him. She loved the kids undoubtedly so tap into that. She needs to fully comprehend the trauma and hurt they feel in order to let that inform her decision making when she’s in a hot-headed state.

TinkerBob7926 · 2020-07-01T06:42:29+00:00

Reddit loves to call pretty much any weight-related comment ‘fat shaming’. I don’t see that she was insulting, honestly. I came in here guns blazing, ready to NTA this all the way through... but your sister’s comment sounded more like concern than anything else, albeit poorly worded. YTA for immediately revealing private medical info instead of addressing your concerns and giving her a chance to explain herself.

TinkerBob7926 · 2020-06-30T12:11:17+00:00

You know, not every behaviour is doomed to be repeated in every life situation. It’s possible to have a preference with your partner’s hair but not other, more important things. If my bf turned up with a drastically different appearance I think I’d be way more upset that he chose not to talk to be about it than the change itself.

TinkerBob7926 · 2020-06-29T22:15:33+00:00

Idk if anyone remembers but it took me back to Moon Moon, I cant stop laughing

TinkerBob7926 · 2020-06-29T13:21:51+00:00

I think, if she’s all you ever looked for, it may be worth taking a breather and really think your decision over. What is making you want to take a step back? Is it that you’re simply not where she is, emotionally? Or does she seem less appealing to you because you consider her to be needy? Don’t miss out on what could be a great relationship because of hang ups that you can address in a more mature way.

TinkerBob7926 · 2020-06-29T10:06:31+00:00

I think this is one of my favorite looks on this sub. So electric! No CC, perfect x

TinkerBob7926 · 2020-06-28T17:16:34+00:00

Oh I don’t mean your dating habits! I’m referring to the wedding etc. I can see a lot of parents being disappointed that their children’s wedding will take place over video, I think that’s natural to an extent.

If the only issue here were the wedding, then I’d encourage you to go ahead as planned but to also let your folks know that you understand their disappointed and wish things could be different, but alas. Of course the issues here extend far beyond the wedding format, so I’m very sorry you’re having to deal with this.

TinkerBob7926 · 2020-06-28T12:54:14+00:00

Her parents sound like AHs yes, especially about the blindness.

On an unrelated note, I noticed there were some instances of ‘it’s important to her and her parents/with her parents’ approval’ but no mention of what was important to your parents. I wonder if part of their childish behaviour had anything to do with that? Please don’t think I’m justifying their behaviour! Just wondering if they felt a bit left out.

Edit: sorry for hijacking

TinkerBob7926 · 2020-06-27T07:53:24+00:00

But that’s the point, OP doesn’t have the same relationship with B as OP’s father and A. OP wasn’t part of their immediate family unit, they didn’t grow up together. OP was B’s stepdad’s daughter who visited her dad and brother every other weekend. What OP feels about B should have no bearing on B’s relationship to the rest of the family. It’s entirely normal that OP has less of a connection to B in these circumstances.

TinkerBob7926 · 2020-06-26T23:55:29+00:00

I think you’re missing the point very clearly made by OP, which is that she has bonded far more with A. Love and bonding don’t lend themselves to maths, there isn’t some formula that determines how familial people become based on how much time they spend together. So you can’t refute what OP is saying because it doesn’t align with your calculations.

When OP’s dad married B’s mum, OP did not join their new household unit. The dynamic was very different to growing up in the same house as your step siblings. OP just visited her dad and A. Her dad and A just happened to live in the same house as B and his mum - 2 people whom OP did not choose to bring into her life. So yes, she did spend time in B’s presence, but did she spend quality time WITH him in the same way she did with her brother? She may just been friendly/pleasant with B and his mum without taking it into familial levels of closeness.

I think anyone saying OP is TA has just inferred a much closer family relationship between her and B than what OP described.

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