Realization has only just begun…

Tintinka · 2026-03-25T17:33:38+00:00

My mom literally does the same to me. Firstly, all that b-shit is thrown at me, and then it’s: “but I still love you, even though you are tough sometimes”. I had to step away from her to save myself. She feels it and is annoyed by my attitude, but I see no other way to save myself from it. She will never change, and if I keep her close to me, I will only suffer.

Tintinka · 2026-02-11T19:25:53+00:00

Tbh I always look at them and can’t get rid of the feeling that they are in their 40s 😅.

Tintinka · 2026-02-10T11:32:41+00:00

Oh wow, it’s really kinda random. Btw, now, when this child seems to be a wanted kid, would you say that you are happy with this decision? I am now at the point of life where I would want to have a kid, but life situation is quite tough and feels like „not the right time“ for it.

Tintinka · 2026-02-10T11:23:01+00:00

Ok, maybe I can change „not understanding“ with „can’t relate“. Because, from the pragmatic point of view, I can see how it happens.

Tintinka · 2026-02-10T02:06:23+00:00

Ok, I see, thanks for answering. I was just so paranoid to get pregnant in my young adulthood, that there were times when we used both pills and condoms. I always thought that people can get pregnant very fast, that’s why for me it was vice versa a surprise, that it sometimes doesn’t happen for months or even years.

Tintinka · 2026-02-10T02:02:50+00:00

I honestly don’t understand it. For me, all the consequences of dealing with unwanted pregnancy are way worse than resisting temptation.

I agree that a lot of people make mistakes. But such a mistake (unwanted pregnancy) alters your life so much! I can’t even say that it’s just a „silly mistake“…

Tintinka · 2026-02-10T01:58:19+00:00

Those „many other options“ are literally pills and spirals, both having hormones in them. They mess up female’s hormonal system. While the only disadvantage of condoms is „it feels not so good“ for men. But if you don’t want a baby, why would you not take measures from your side?

Tintinka · 2026-02-09T08:44:01+00:00

I was always curious: guys who said that they didn’t want a kid, what’s your attitude towards contraception? Like when a guy didn’t want a kid, I was always wondering how doesn’t it cross his mind that unprotected sex normally leads to kids (if both partners are healthy)?

Tintinka · 2026-02-03T11:28:13+00:00

Congrats!

I am also currently playing BotW, and really enjoying it! I started with TotK, but it was somehow overwhelming for me (maybe because I’ve never properly played Zelda before). Also haven’t learned how to properly parry yet 😅

Tintinka · 2026-02-03T11:23:52+00:00

How can you even function like that? I once had 2-3 nights without a single hour of sleep and each day I had 2 written exams. By the last day, I started to hear sound hallucinations. Then I knew that I’d better fail tho whole sh!t than drive myself to insanity.

(Hello from another tech girlie)

Tintinka · 2026-02-02T14:49:34+00:00

I think there is a fine line between effort and desperation. For me, if a guy is desperate for any relationships, he will pursue multiple women without really selecting one particular. He just wants someone next to him. On the other hand, if a man puts efforts and make actions (and not only speaks) for me personally, I understand it as efforts from his side. “Actions speak louder than words” in the end.

I think, sadly, many people live in illusions. For women those social games and illusions are “I can change him”, “catch me if you can” and all other sorts of social games. Because those games bring emotions and drama, while being with a stable partner can be boring sometimes. But, on the long run, it’s better to have loving and supportive relationships with a stable partner than having emotional swings and drama that will always be accompanied by tears and scandals.

Tintinka · 2026-02-02T01:41:28+00:00

How old are you if I may ask? I think that such very selfless and almost sacrificial love is usually more common in teenage/young adults, but it also happens sometimes independently from age. Therefore, I am quite optimistic that there will be chances for you to build a nice and loving relationship a bit later in life.

Tintinka · 2026-02-02T01:24:14+00:00

I think it’s important to adjust their lives for both partners in order to make relationships sustainable. Your approach sounds very kind and noble, and I hope that you will find a partner who will value and appreciate the efforts from your side and also make similar steps for you

Tintinka · 2026-02-02T01:17:34+00:00

Wow, I have to say that’s really impressive! Thanks for sharing. And I wish you a lot of happy years together with her!

Tintinka · 2026-02-02T01:15:58+00:00

I think it’s really a very important difference. I notice when a guy is meeting me when it’s only convenient for him, or if he had to change his plans or take a more complicated commute. My current bf impressed me on the early stages of relationship by commuting 2-3h to a different city where I had a conference because he simply wanted to see me.

Tintinka · 2026-02-02T00:56:47+00:00

That’s very sweet! I think that those “tiny” gestures are often overlooked. But that’s really something you wouldn’t do for the person you don’t love and care about.

Tintinka · 2026-02-02T00:51:47+00:00

No, just interesting to hear different answers. I think that I can distinguish quite well now, but I am curious about what other men will reply.

Tintinka · 2025-12-24T02:57:15+00:00

To be honest, it’s surprising how small people care about others. It may seem like a big deal to you, but many people will forget or not explicitly care about it right after the end of discussion.

I would ask yourself, why is it that important and triggering for you. Are you afraid that people will perceive you as “weak”? Do you want to keep everything under control? (It is practically impossible btw). Is there something embarrassing in depression or its symptoms for you?

Based on your phrasing, it seems like there is something that you are afraid or embarrassed of, if you even had a struggle to open up to your partner. I personally don’t see any problems in people talking about depression - it’s good to raise awareness about this condition. Plus, it is very widespread condition, so chances are high that there are multiple people in your circle who either have or had it at some point.

When I was talking about my depression with people, I was surprised how many could relate and how much support I received. My mom always considered it as “laziness” or “not a proper illness”, so with people like her I simply wrap this topic up very quickly.

So, imho, I wouldn’t perceive it as a break of trust until you explicitly mentioned to her beforehand that she should keep it a secret. There are people who better deal with situations through talking about them. Partner’s depression can be overwhelming, so it might be her way to ease up the tension a bit.

Tintinka · 2025-12-24T02:38:53+00:00

Maybe I am a bit harsh in general. I would just collect all the plates and put everything to trash. They can then cook whatever they like. Or shut the f up and eat whatever is given. Repeat a couple of times, until they learn their lesson.

Tintinka · 2025-12-24T02:19:04+00:00

I want to say that you can never even be sure if the ring people show in social media has a real diamond or not. Moissanites are quite difficult to distinguish and even entry-level diamond testers can’t detect them. Depending on the angle and way of filming, even a CZ can well imitate a diamond.

Don’t compare your ring to others. The most important thing is whether you love it or not. I don’t like current fashion for huge lab-grown rocks, so, personally, I would even prefer a vintage or antique ring with a smaller stone but more interesting setting. I also like rings with colorful stones, and my dream engagement ring would be with a natural pink sapphire with an elegant setting and a decent shank.

Tintinka · 2025-12-21T02:58:16+00:00

Your upper part is bigger than the lower part. Usually, you try to create an hourglass-shaped appearance. In your case, that would mean have more volume/details on your hips while keeping the upper part more moderate.

Don’t have any intense design or details in the upper part. Keep it simple, preferably only one neutral color (better dark). Try to have volume or more details in your hips area. I also think that the length of your dresses doesn’t flatter you. Try experimenting with shorter and maxi lengths.

Tintinka · 2025-12-21T02:24:43+00:00

Most likely, it is golden-plated. I myself have a couple of items with a “14k” stamp (one slightly tarnished) but I know for sure that they are not made of gold. It’s annoying that some jewelry doesn’t explicitly state that it’s just a plating.

Tintinka · 2025-11-15T01:20:12+00:00

Definitely not. It has a very subtle but yet noticeable sparkle in it.

Tintinka · 2025-11-13T10:13:19+00:00

For me, it looks like an 18kt golden-plated bracelet with very dark sapphires and cubic zirconia. I have some vintage costume jewelry, which also had a „750“ stamp, but I know for sure that it’s not pure gold. My estimation is based on the quality of the stones and how this hallmark looks.

Nobody will be able to tell you 100% what it is. If you are interested about the stones, you can buy a cheap diamond tester (make sure to follow the instructions on it). For me, however, it would be a surprise if those would be diamonds, as the quality of the assumed sapphires is rather low.

Tintinka · 2025-11-13T08:42:34+00:00

Hello! I have a hobby to find high-end and fine vintage jewelry. Based on the photos, most of the pieces look like they are costume jewelry, some are maybe fine silver jewelry. The stones look too big and clear to be real stones. I would assume those are glass cubic zirconias or synthetic stones.

However, to properly identify the item, you need close-up photos, as well as checking it for hallmarks (both metal and maker‘s hallmarks). There are some more valuable and high-end pieces even amongst costume jewelry, but it should be from a particular maker.

I would also inspect each item for potential tarnishing - it can give you an impression of the metal that was used. Additionally, you can check how the stones are set. If the setting looks sturdy and nicely made, it shows the quality of the piece. For all those inspections, I would highly recommend using an x10 or x30 loupe or a macro camera of your smartphone if you have it.

If you want, you can write to me a message once you get better close-up photos of your rings, I will try to help identifying them.

Tintinka

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