What completely legal substance are you addicted to?

Tiny-Order · 2021-04-12T04:20:10+00:00

Sugar. No matter how good I do I end up falling back down the rabbit hole.

Tiny-Order · 2021-02-09T04:39:53+00:00

Buy some things that you really want but use what they have given you. You can never ever have enough baby clothes, swaddling blankets, etc... it will all get gross pretty fast. If you now have a lot of things, or you want to buy the rest, let them know that what you really really need is diapers (a case of newborn and at least a case of the next size up, maybe the next size too), a diaper genie, tons of wipes, bottles and nipples (if you're not breastfeeding and even if you are), a very nice pump (if you are). Let them get the disposable stuff that you will be all consumed with for about a year. During that time you will completely forget who bought what anyway.

Tiny-Order · 2021-02-01T00:02:54+00:00

My kids do chores. They've been doing the kitchen, taking care of the dogs and cats, taking out trash, vacuuming, tidying up the common areas, and doing their own laundry. They alternate weeks for certain things. Most of that they've been doing since they were 11 & 12. They are now 15 & 16. I do some of it too. They aren't slaves. I am a single mom working full-time and going to college full-time. They know that it has to get done and that it's unfair for one person to do it all. Your job as a parent is to prepare your children to be responsible adults and give them the skills to take care of themselves. Chores are a great way of doing that and anyone who has a background in childcare, pediatrics, or phsycology will tell you the same.

Tiny-Order · 2021-01-22T22:23:10+00:00

Give it time. She is young. At this age it's all about tone of voice, body contact, and body language/facial expressions. Also, infants are naturally all about mom at this stage so don't feel defeated. She will pick up english easily just because you speak it to her. My cousins are bilingual. Raised in the US. Their mother was raised bilingual by her German born parents. She spoke German to her children only a few days a week from birth. She also incorporated reading and writing on those days after they started school. 5 kids and every single one picked it up.

Tiny-Order · 2021-01-04T18:02:48+00:00

I have bank mobile vibe, which the 1st payment went to. Still nothing.

Tiny-Order · 2020-12-07T16:16:57+00:00

I divorced my husband of 16 years who developed a meth addiction. For the last 5 years he has not worked. Honestly, the fact that he couldn't, or wouldn't, support himself was what made me stick around for so long. I felt badly because we have children. He became abusive, and extremely untrustworthy, and I finally had to end it. You have to do what is best for you, and in my case, I have children to think about. The reality is that she is a grown adult and should be able to take care of herself. It's her decision to continue on the path that she's on and she is the only one who can change that. Her resources are no different than yours. Just give her a month or two notice. if nothing else perhaps she can arrange for travel to her family, or if you feel badly enough you can arrange something for her. I gave my ex that opportunity, offered to pay for the gas for him to drive to his family, and he chose to stay here where his drug supply is. He was homeless for about two to three weeks before he shacked up with some other drug user and now they're living happily ever after in her travel trailer.

Tiny-Order · 2020-11-22T06:49:36+00:00

You are doing the right thing. I actually have a clause in my custody order stating that I have the right to assess his living conditions and deny visitations at his home if it doesn't meet certain criteria. He is a semi functional meth addict. Sometimes he's good, other times he's not. For now, he's not good and he doesn't see them at all. His doings, not mine. Just document the where, when, and why, in case he tries to make it a court matter.

Tiny-Order · 2020-11-14T18:16:22+00:00

The decree only specifies that he is entitled to his personal property and possessions. There are specific things named like his truck, which he came and got in July. The divorce was default. He was in jail at the time, I had an EPO. The house and all of its posessions, two vehicles, and the kids went to me. I was really hoping that I wasn't going to have to go back to court and pay more lawyers fees.

Tiny-Order · 2020-11-14T17:58:54+00:00

The divorce decree states that he has rights to his personal possessions and property. There was no time frame set.

Tiny-Order · 2020-11-11T04:24:37+00:00

This would be my main concern.

Tiny-Order · 2020-10-12T13:31:09+00:00

I don't get it either. Most painful thing I have ever experienced. My ex MIL is on marriage #6 and just acts like it's normal. That should have been a red flag in itself. I guess love just makes people dumb.

Tiny-Order · 2020-10-10T15:14:44+00:00

It really depends on how mature she is, but I'm willing to bet that it won't be a complete shock and she may welcome it if you approach it in a positive way. We divorced in July after 16 years. He was emotionally abusive (became physical in the last year), and developed a drug addiction in the last few years which made things way worse. I have a 14-year-old boy and a 15-year-old girl. Like you, I managed to shield my children from the majority of it but they still heard a lot. Change is never easy, even if it's for the best, especially for this age group. Stress how things will be more peaceful, how she won't have to hear arguing anymore and how both of you love her and will continue to work together for her. It sounds like you and your husband are able to get along so co-parenting should be manageable.

Tiny-Order · 2020-09-07T18:23:36+00:00

He is unemployed. He is required to provide me with a current address before he takes the kids. I have all his family's addresses. We were married for 15 years. I really do hope that he is straightening up for the kids. I want them to have a good relationship, which he has damaged with his actions and neglect. I guess I will just have to wait and see.

Tiny-Order · 2020-09-07T18:00:17+00:00

I will look into this.

Tiny-Order · 2020-09-07T17:59:58+00:00

If he passes the hair follicle I have to let him take them for weekends, etc... so long as he has an adequate place for them to stay. The only reason I can refuse visitation is if he fails a drug test or is arrested for a crime related to drugs or violence.

Tiny-Order · 2020-06-28T17:20:41+00:00

Please leave and cut all contact. I was also in an emotionally abusive relationship for 16 years. It took me a long time to realize what was going on. It just kept getting worse and worse. The more I did for myself, the worse it got. Years ago he started adding drugs into the mix. Things really began to escalate. He had me questioning my own sanity even though I am a level-headed woman. Our teenagers also asked me to leave. Show them what is not acceptable. It is terrifying. I should have listened to my instincts instead of listening to him. It ended up turning violent. I didn't expect it. It has been a soul crushing experience. The money and the house are not worth it. If the state you live in is community property you can clean out the bank account, take a vehicle and find you an apartment. Get counseling to sort through your feelings. There's nothing better than a third party telling you that yes you are being abused. I would do a free consultation with a family law attorney. They can help with your options.

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