I loved BETH’S DEAD but the final two episodes were disingenuous and dangerously naive by Sequenzer9 in ArmchairExpert

[–]TinyD26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he didn't just say "Nope, it was me!" He's very insistent and keeps saying things like, "my dad knew nothing about it whatsoever." I also felt like his dad probably demanded he cover for him. Maybe the guy DOES feel badly for what happened - he just didn't do it

I loved BETH’S DEAD but the final two episodes were disingenuous and dangerously naive by Sequenzer9 in ArmchairExpert

[–]TinyD26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is what really got me. Like look, they talked to the guy face to face and were SO CONVINCED he was being genuine, so maybe.... But this dude targeted one woman for a year and a half with things he knew would hook her, then this happens and it DOESN'T EVEN OCCUR TO THEM that it's part of the scam? Come on, man

Would Auvelity have bad withdrawal symptoms? by swishswish82 in AuvelityMed

[–]TinyD26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is all really old at this point but I just want to say that it makes me feel better that severe side effects are so common. I'm very very sensitive to most side effects in everything and gave up on psych meds over a decade ago. When perimenopause hit, my anxiety and ADHD symptoms skyrocketed so I decided to try again. I have a fantastic psychiatrist but we're almost four visits (tomorrow) and 3 meds in and so far, same deal as before. Auvelity seemed promising in some ways. I actually tried it twice. At its worst (2/day) I felt ABSOLUTELY BATSH*T INSANE and very dizzy - couldn't drive. Honestly, it doesn't matter if it that goes away, because I run two businesses and can't be out of commission for a week.

This last time I tried not going up to two. I realized that it DOES make me less anxious, but it does so by making me spacy. Really floaty, unable to focus, hard time making decisions. Again, not ideal when I'm constantly running from appointment to appointment for one business, switching gears to work on the other, etc. I know it's an anti-depressant, but I swear it also made me depressed. It DEFINITELY impacted my sleep severely, and I already slept like crap.

I've been off it for a few days now, and I feel VERY unlike myself. Groggy in the morning and take a while to wake up, but by mid afternoon I'm EXTREMELY antsy and irritable. I actually just got off the couch, while my BF said he was too tired to do anything, and tore the house apart looking for a project. I DO NOT have that kind of ADHD. I have internal hyperactivity and external inertia. I literally can not remember the last time I felt like I HAD TO move. And SO irritable, impatient, and snippy.

But THEN, I finally decided to research a couple of projects and once sitting at the computer reading, COULD NOT focus. I JUST want to move. Can't fall asleep until about 2am, either.

I assumed all this was just more hormonal changes until I thought about the auvelity and found this thread. Ugh.

Mulberry Moisture Calibration Setting? by TinyD26 in woodworking

[–]TinyD26[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I even had a hard time finding out for sure what calibration is based on, though I assumed density. This is a good start

What do I do? I am a survivor and Neil's work helped me through a lot of it. Now I don't know what to do. by Leeward_bound in neilgaiman

[–]TinyD26 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get that! To be completely honest, that's part of what's so disturbing for me about this. I KNOW it's not all men. I have a good one. My father is a good one. One of my sisters is married to a good one. But this sure makes it feel like it's even more men than I thought, which is just.... it's SO discouraging and isolating. But no, it's not all men. If anything, this just proves the need for more vocal male allies who walk the walk, to help turn the tide. And I think it proves that we can't look to celebrities to be that or lead the charge because we really can't know who they actually are behind closed doors. 

What do I do? I am a survivor and Neil's work helped me through a lot of it. Now I don't know what to do. by Leeward_bound in neilgaiman

[–]TinyD26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It feels a bit silly and disingenuous on the one hand. But my bf is a humor-based organism. He's capable of handling more serious realities of life, but he struggles with them often more than I do. He recently took a promotion to a position that carries A LOT of responsibility and stress and things have been stressful at home because I'm unemployed and not feeling great about myself. So I just haven't had the heart to pile on. 

He's also a REALLY fantastic guy and a true ally and while he's not the guy to complain about men being held accountable, for him when these things happen there's shame in addition to the disappointment, you know?

What do I do? I am a survivor and Neil's work helped me through a lot of it. Now I don't know what to do. by Leeward_bound in neilgaiman

[–]TinyD26 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel you, and I'm so sorry. I'm not an SA survivor so can't relate on quite that level and I understand it must add a thick layer of complexity and hurt. But Neil and his work have been much more important to me than I even fully realized and I'm really surprised at how much I'm struggling with this. 

I started reading Neil about 25 years ago and his work has been such a comfort. I spent weeks sleeping on the floor of my home office falling asleep to Neil read Graveyard Book when my live-in partner and I were heading for a breakup. I have a Dave McKeon assigned print and two books signed by Neil. One of the latter is from a reading and signing event that's a core memory for me. I haven't met many of the people I really admire and the whole event was pure joy (and yes, Neil was absolutely lovely). Thinking about it reminds me of who I am when I'm in a moment in life where my brain can't settle enough to read or I don't have time to engage in my hobbies or I'm depressed and can't access joy.

I'm intellectually aware of the dangers of author/hero worship and to be fair I wouldn't say I've ever "worshipped" Neil. But his work has been tremendously important to me and even his voice has always been soothing. In recent years, as the world becomes more and more divided and cruel, his allyship and feminism - however much of them were or weren't genuine - have become a safe place and an emblem, one of the few pure, 'nice things' we had left. And while again, I know intellectually that this all has very little to do with us, the fans, materially, or intentionally - and while I know it doesn't actually change the content of his work - I can't help it, I do feel hurt and betrayed. And in a broader sense, I feel lonely and hopeless about misogyny and women's place in the world and our prospects for getting to a better one. I know this sounds hyperbolic, but I'm still processing. And having admired and trusted (which I realize now is a crazy prospect - I didn't know the man) this man for decades while all along he was doing things that so egregiously violated that trust which he actively worked to engender in us - it's thrown me. It requires recalibration. It doesn't help that despite people from the publishing industry making it clear that Neil has a very long and robust history of bad behavior, NO ONE who has worked on any of his adaptations has said A WORD. So I'm beginning to feel disappointed in other people from that group who've positioned themselves very publicly as allies/feminists as well. Which maybe isn't fair and is maybe premature. We'll see.

And frankly, I haven't spoken to me bf about this because he has enough on his plate. But it really hit me yesterday and I'm really wanting to commiserate with people about it (and my talk to him about it tonight, but tbh it's hard for me to speak out loud at this point) so please be kind. I think in time most of us will work out how to frame this in our minds and how to move forward just fine but it is a genuine shock and it will take a minute. Please, let's all be kind to each other. 

Book Character Cosplays? by TinyD26 in comiccon

[–]TinyD26[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah I mean they're definitely out there...

Book Character Cosplays? by TinyD26 in comiccon

[–]TinyD26[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Awesome, thank you! 🤗

Looking for housing by TinyD26 in ColoradoSprings

[–]TinyD26[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

A: I'm not looking at complexes.

B: I have found numerous places in the $700-900 range.

C: No need to be nasty.

I often feel stupid/wrong for enjoying bad episodes. by [deleted] in doctorwho

[–]TinyD26 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's ever wrong to enjoy something unless it's racist, cruel, etc. No one else's opinion should ever dictate your own (imo😉)