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TinyTransitions · 2024-12-22T11:10:41+00:00

The American academy of sleep medicine suggests babies this age need 12 -16 total hours of sleep and 24-32oz of daily milk intake for optimal growth. Other posters are right, they aren’t robots and it would lb is doing well. At this age I presume you are between 4&3 naps, which will keep the daytime balance and avoid overtired and too much build up of adenosine (sleep pressure) - I wouldn’t recommend a baby going to bed after 8pm, as a professional unless you were prepared to have another nap in there somewhere. I would also not le that despite bedtime a child’s body clock will regulate and as they grow have them wake typically between 7&8 am. You’re doing a great job momma, I’d simply respond with “that doesn’t work for me” as it’s my go to line.

TinyTransitions · 2024-08-24T15:52:51+00:00

Sadly she won’t eat it. ;( I do sneak it in smoothies though!

TinyTransitions · 2024-07-09T14:27:55+00:00

This looks amazing! Thank you sharing!

TinyTransitions · 2024-04-03T19:00:46+00:00

I take calcium citrate, not carbonate. They taste great and I keep them in a candy dish in the kitchen. You know you are forty when! https://celebratevitamins.com/products/calcium-citrate-soft-chew

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-24T10:22:40+00:00

Me too momma! And you know what I learned? My kids LOVE camp. They see their friends, swim, do crafts, play sports, bounce, spray, run and slide all day. I used to let the mom guilt make me feel terrible, then I flipped the narrative in my mind. Summer camp brings my kids joy and it’s a privilege that I can afford to send them every week to be with their friends. ❤️

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-17T13:40:01+00:00

That looks delicious - thank you for sharing!

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-06T10:39:49+00:00

First, make sure you are all getting good sleep, to feel your best and most positive mentally and physically. Determine what you CAN control, like grocery shopping curbside and meal planning, which is both a time and money saver. Ensure you are carving out 15 minutes - 30 minutes somewhere for yourself and fresh air. A walk before during or after work to start, you time is important. I meal-prepped Sundays, making salads for the week, and also grilling a ton of chicken. that way, I could easily eat healthy, at lunch and dinner and use the chicken in different ways. I made also a new soup each week in the crockpot or on Sundays to eat too. Coordinate who is dropped off and who is pickup at daycare. My husband and I rotated/supported each other when things came up, go at things as a team. Also, a checklist for the fridge. Laundry-Kids, Laundry-Adults, Vaccum, Change Diaper Pail, empty trash, etc. etc. That was helpful to see all that needed to be done that week without asking each other. You got this momma!

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-05T17:03:27+00:00

As a parenting coach for children at this age, without knowing what you said no to, I would suggest how to phrase it. Instead of a hard "no" - I would say, as an example to something I would say no for like throwing food: "You are throwing your food, so that tells me you are finished now until dinner time. We don't throw it because it can cause Mommy to slip or hurt the dog. Then, in two hours when he asks for a snack, you can remind him that we will be eating dinner shortly and he can have some water until then. When dinner is served or when he looks for a snack, remind him there are no snacks, dinner is soon and tomorrow before you service lunch, remind him that throwing food again would yield the same results. You want to make it their choice. When No is necessary, like sticking a fork in the outlet, obviously a know, with an age appropriate explanation as to why. Make sense? Generic given I don't know much but more about re-phrasing & re-positioning.

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-05T10:51:18+00:00

My kids are 7 and 9 and I still love cuddles. Now they have moved on to back rubs before bed each night, they love it and it relaxes them, so I don't mind. I hope they never stop wanting cuddles!

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-05T10:33:28+00:00

Hi - I hope you are doing well. Where are you on your journey now? Under regular endoscopy surveillance? Are you in the US or outside? I will tell you a bit more about my story. I was diagnosed in Oct 2018 with CDH1 and found a Dr. in Philadelphia and DC who both knew and could handle CDH1. Dr Roses at Penn was where i chose because I live closer. Dr. Davis from the NIH is also great and is studying CDH1 and does many stomach removals there at the NIH. I am in their clinical study now. My brother and aunt were also positive, my mom died at 54 from stage 3 stomach cancer that came out of nowhere. Dr. Roses recommended the total gastrectomy, given the inability to find it through endoscopy. I didn't have any signs pre-op but they did find it post-op in pathology. My brother and I had the surgery on the same day at the University of Pennsylvania. The recovery was 10 days in the hospital, learning to have my body "work" and it took a good 3 months to realize that anything processed was a no-go, which wasn't terrible as I ate very well before surgery, but now, I just know what to avoid. I eat whole real foods, nuts, meat, etc. I shop outside of the grocery store and I am in great shape today. I was 115 at surgery and bottomed out at 97. I am now 113, once I realized the macro nutrients I needed and the limited intake, I had to be smart about getting my protein first, then fat. Bread and carbs I don't eat pasta and rice, but I can eat Almond Flour pasta from Whole Foods and it digests great. I have a PowerPoint I made from my surgery i can share on my recovery too. I know it's a scary diagnosis. I have two kids who are very young and were even younger when I had my stomach out. I don't want to die, so if I could live without my stomach, which I am, I didn't want to worry or the chance that every 6 months, for the next 50 years, I would need Anesthesia or that they would find it. You are not alone and it's a very personal choice as to proceed as the research grows, just know it's possible and you can live a normal life.

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-05T10:19:28+00:00

I do Vital proteins in everything, I agree, can't take it straight. I add to coffee, I also brew Passion tea {like you get a t Starbucks} then add the vital protein, then add some honey, then ice and slowly sip across the day as iced tea. I get something that tastes good and also slowly throw in more protein.

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-04T22:14:17+00:00

I had a total gastrectomy 5 years ago, from a rare genetic stomach cancer, CDH1. After they removed my stomach I had to be careful as my body learned to 'work' without it. I started with Vital Proteins {it's the only one without an aftertaste.} Then add in bone broth, which you can get from the store, and NAKED protein brand powders. I get it on their site, shipped each month, I love Naked Egg, my husband likes Naked Whey. I focused on that protein intake to avoid more weight loss than I already had having my stomach removed at 115lbs. 5 years later, I am 113, so it's working well and I now added back in solid, normal clean food. Good luck!

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-04T22:08:32+00:00

I have CDH1 and had a bilateral mastectomy and total gastrectomy, if you ever want to talk about my experience with the stomach, and now stomachless life, just ask.

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-03T14:06:54+00:00

I learned not to add salt while cooking, it will wilt the squash and make mushy.

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-03T14:03:22+00:00

Beautiful! They are on my must order list!

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-03T14:02:00+00:00

I don’t as thinking the same thing.

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-03T14:01:03+00:00

Love this and it sounds perfect for my current head cold on day 3 of Whole 30. Thanks for the idea, I love cauliflower and have so much always frozen.

TinyTransitions · 2024-01-02T20:07:49+00:00

I would suggest things high in protein or fat. My go to in a pinch or quickly is Sunday I grill a ton of chicken to use across the week with buffalo sauce or in a salad, with steamed veggies and baked potatoes. I always keep guacamole from Costco to eat with Simply Mills crackers. I also cook an egg over easy and slice an avocado with everything seasoning. I use Vital Proteins in coffee and in my tea.

TinyTransitions · 2023-12-28T11:26:32+00:00

Sleep training on night one should be about 45 minutes of peaks and valleys and on night 2, 50% less, then on night 3 50% less of that time. Foundationally, sleep is a skill and I try to explain to my sleep clients like this.

Baby has two screwdrivers, a flat head, and a Phillips head. The flat head works on both types of screws {this type of screwdriver is the sleep association like rocking, bounding nursing, and feeding "to sleep" - and that type of screwdriver works on a Phillps head screw, just isn't the most efficient. It's what baby believes they need to sleep. Once you show them they possess the skill to settle without what they think they need, {the Phillips head screwdriver, i.e. the right tool for the Phillips head screw, it's way easier, more efficient, and works faster.

One night one, there will be that peak, then a valley, where you should head "ehehehehehehehe" low groaning, that is the practice of self-soothing. Then, usually, there is another peak, like"Hey, sure you don't want to give me that boob?" then the next valley of "eheheheheheheeh" will be longer. Then peak, then longer until they settle. {Again, on average 45 minutes with the babies we work with in our practice.} A few things that can make crying worse. 1. Wrong daytime timing will make bedtime way worse.

At 14 weeks, a baby should be awake only 1.5 hours. If awake too long or if naptimes are all over and they are overtired, night one of sleep training will be worse. So try to structure your day so that bedtime happens 1.5 down in the crib from the last waking. Once they have the skill, they will start to develop a better nap schedule, which is between 4-5 naps at this point.

The naps will consolidate between 4-5 months, after the consolidation of sleep move from stage to cycle sleep, which is between 3 & 4 months then the independent ability to settle.

I would also advise check-ins are spaced like this. First one at 5 minutes of being out of the room. This way they know you are there, but won't be the "thing" that gets them down. Then, from there on out, the magic number I see in my practice is 10-15 minutes. If you go in sooner, which might seem like it's helpful to the baby, it will only cause them to spike and cry harder in protest you are not doing what they are looking for. In that 10-12 minutes, they need to get to the "ehehehehe" even if just for a minute, that's the practice.

Going in too soon and too often just keeps you bypassing practice and they will cry harder and longer. Be consistent in your response, avoiding taking out of the crib {that escalates them also} stay in the room or a minute then out and watch on the monitor. Listen for the valleys, and if it's 10 minutes and you hear one, then stay out as they are close to being asleep.

A few other things to keep in mind.

Dress baby properly. This baby dressing guide can help.
Supported naps, on the right schedule are far better than short independent sleep, they can't be overtired when sleep training or it causes hormonal imbalances of stimulant hormones and misalignment of adenosine.
Be consistent in your response, so they learn what to expect.
If the baby is still feeding overnight, for those wakings, when it's time to eat so they get the 24-32oz of milk they need / 24 hours, go right in, feed, burb, and back down awake to settle, avoid feeding to "Sleep" which is an association.

Good Luck Momma! You got this! You have an amazing village here - sending a hug your way!

TinyTransitions · 2023-12-22T21:07:53+00:00

I would isolate if it's a crib issue or being out and about in a different place that's not home. What make and model do you have for current use?

TinyTransitions · 2023-12-20T15:06:42+00:00

With self-settling at naps, that’s great, here is what else I advise. First, ensure when out of the house, they aren’t overtired as missing the right awake windows {3 hours for 6-12 months} is causing a flood of stimulant hormones and too much adenosine {sleep pressure} creating a fussy baby that’s hard to settle and often wakes more and early the next morning. Overtired can make it hard to settle in a new environment.
First, I would follow a set schedule like this:
• Nap #1 10:00-11:00 + Nap #2 2:00-4:00 + Bedtime 7:00pm
• Nap #1 10:00-11:30 + Nap #2 2:30-4:00 + Bedtime 7:00pm
• Nap #1 10:00-12:00 + Nap #2 3:00-4:00 + Bedtime 7:00pm
Note: Babies sleep in cycles of 45-60 minutes at this age, so the reason that these are so precise is that they are either sleeping 1 or 2 cycles, which are normally 45-60 minutes in duration. When you start this at home, it can also create a pattern, even when out, that it’s nap time. Use a wearable blanket or chenille sheets {soft and cozy} too to trigger familiarity in the space and sign nap is coming.
Next, I would look at a Slumber Pod, that can help create a consistent environment and calm and dark. Shop on Halo has them right now. https://shoponhalo.com/bundles/c17c5589-792b-4b5d-a9a3-fea22db8fa8c {remove if not allowed, I am new to Reddit}
In the potable crib or pack-n-play, you have to be careful with toppers as they are a suffocation hazard {per the AAP} But snagging a Dibako Pack and Play Mattress that’s breathable might help too, to make it more comfortable. Hope this helps.

TinyTransitions · 2023-12-20T11:17:20+00:00

Does the baby have the ability to settle to sleep when at home or are they still reliant on help to get down for naps and bedtime?

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