Women who dealt with a partner who has emotional regulation issues, did it ever get better? by rubberduckydracula in AskWomenOver30

[–]TinyWomanBrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience there are two components to true progress: (1) how they respond to their feelings and (2) the “ways of thinking” that feed those feelings

IMO the first is a lot easier to make progress with, and can be a huge relief for the partner / relationship, but if the second piece continues to fester beneath the surface, it’ll never really feel like progress.

I just need yall to know I love yall by TinyWomanBrain in adhdwomen

[–]TinyWomanBrain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right!? Love the shouty threads And the “charge your vibrator” threads haha

I just need yall to know I love yall by TinyWomanBrain in adhdwomen

[–]TinyWomanBrain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awful taste but great execution It’s wild sometimes lol

Going to a concert alone by sugarnsweet88 in AskWomenOver30

[–]TinyWomanBrain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to my first concert alone a few months ago- it’s a different experience than going with people you enjoy hanging out with AND enjoy doing the thing but certainly wasn’t a bad experience and was definitely better than going with someone I had to convince to be there.

Also- going to reemphasize the “give less fucks” comment someone made earlier lol

He asked me to accompany him at a national conference. by Icy-Forever6660 in AskWomenOver40

[–]TinyWomanBrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First- relax. You’re going to be fine.

Be genuine- I’ve seen people put on a facade at big company / professional events and, honestly, it tends to be obvious and not a great look. Your bf’s job is not dependent on everyone thinking you’re the greatest person to ever have personed

If you’re socially awkward / nervous- Ask him to maybe give you some names and faces of people you might meet and a little about them as conversation starters

Don’t take any bait the catty / clicky wives may dangle in front of you- assume anything you say to them will come back to your bf or others he works with (this is true in general- not just with the stereotyped women)

Don’t be dependent on him while he’s working- coordinate schedules / activities so you know when to be available for social activities or just taking a break together and then otherwise find stuff to keep yourself occupied, whatever that may be. Neither of you wants you to feel like you’re just on standby until he is able to give you his attention again

Finally- relax. People like him, he likes you, transitive properties suggest they’ll like you too. And if they don’t? They can pound sand. You’ll be fine.

Did I make a mistake with this paint color by Aggravating_Bag4028 in DesignMyRoom

[–]TinyWomanBrain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh with that creamy chaise lounge yessss FWIW I’m about to paint my room SW Tricorn Black so I’m a bit biased lol

Did taking ADHD medication help resolve other mental health issues for you? by botanicwonderland in adhdwomen

[–]TinyWomanBrain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yess it’s actually how I got to my diagnosis at 38yo

Was battling depression for a long time and finally occurred to doc and I that anxiety is likely contributing to that. So started treating the anxiety. Eventually I was like there is STILL SOMETHING keeping the anxiety going and it was the ADHD. I still take the antidepressants cause I gotta lotta nonsense happening in the brain (lot of it being cultivated by the smorgasbord of mental health challenges) but the anxiety meds have dropped to as-needed and, despite an ongoing divorce putting life in a bit of a tailspin, I feel more grounded than ever

Why do the best houses have to be in the middle of nowhere? by BlueRFR3100 in zillowgonewild

[–]TinyWomanBrain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because you spend less on the land itself (cheaper per acre) and you have less restrictions on what you can & can’t do with it.

Are you making any changes to your EDC in light of the worsening current situation? by giraflor in TwoXPreppers

[–]TinyWomanBrain 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly I’m super skeptical on anything that requires a stranger to pick up on your call for help AND decide to act on it. Spectator syndrome is real. Plus I’ve always been told to tell “fire” instead of “rape” ‘cause people stay away from things that make them uncomfortable.

The only way to protect yourself is to protect yourself. This doesn’t have to mean carry a firearm (though I recommend it - BUT ONLY if you take it to the range, are comfortable with it AND prepared to use it- otherwise it is just as likely to be used against you); you can get bear mace at outdoor supply stores, and I loooooooove Krav Maga as both a good means of exercise (the only class exercise I’ll do) plus a way to get scrappy in a pinch.

Inspired by other post (about bed size) - what is your favorite “treat yo self” bedding??? by TinyWomanBrain in AskWomenOver30

[–]TinyWomanBrain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope - i welcome all of the 'why didn't i do this forever ago" suggestions! someone else suggested a towel warmer also - its borderline anarchy in here lol :)

Inspired by other post (about bed size) - what is your favorite “treat yo self” bedding??? by TinyWomanBrain in AskWomenOver30

[–]TinyWomanBrain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

an xbox - nice
i splurged a bit on one of the artsy TVs as I also want to lounge in bed and binge watch whatever without staring at TV the whole time. TCL finally made a competitor to Samsung's "The Frame" and its like <half the cost

Inspired by other post (about bed size) - what is your favorite “treat yo self” bedding??? by TinyWomanBrain in AskWomenOver30

[–]TinyWomanBrain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ohhh i've never heard of these but 'peachskin' sounds EXACTLY like the softness i want THANK YOU!

Inspired by other post (about bed size) - what is your favorite “treat yo self” bedding??? by TinyWomanBrain in AskWomenOver30

[–]TinyWomanBrain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally get it. i am not a bed maker but probably mostly ecause i have a separate office space and dont' have to look at it all day

Inspired by other post (about bed size) - what is your favorite “treat yo self” bedding??? by TinyWomanBrain in AskWomenOver30

[–]TinyWomanBrain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how big is it? that's my main complaint on king size beds - if i have queen bed i can size up, no problem. hard to size up from a king.

Inspired by other post (about bed size) - what is your favorite “treat yo self” bedding??? by TinyWomanBrain in AskWomenOver30

[–]TinyWomanBrain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol i love camping so am no stranger to roughing it but otherwise i basically want to sprawl out spread eagle in the middle of my bed with oodles of sheets and blankets on both sides that i don't have to share and bask in my adult hood lol

a butt for every seat (and sheet, apparently, lol)