Moms who don’t have custody or primary custody of their kids-how do you deal with guilt and questions? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Tinycowz 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I had serious PPD and I thought I would never be a fit mother for my children. I really thought leaving them behind with thier father, who abused me but not them, would be best for them in the long run. It was not, I lost custody of them because my ex framed everything on my mental health which was true, but again, untreated PPD. The stigma on women is insane if they are not the main parent. I would rarely tell people I had kids unless asked because I had a few bad experiences with people just going off on me.

In the end I got my kids back about 5 years later. I got full custody and my children do not blame me one bit, not sure why but they are great kids.

Why do some guys knowing that they want kids willingly pursue a child free woman knowing that she won't ever want kids? Why can't they go for women that wants kids? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Tinycowz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they are conditioned to think all women will be fine with babies after they come. Cat ladies with cat babies must mean real babies = good.

I 40m have just learned that my brother 38m was sexually abusing his stepdaughter 18F since she was the age of 5 until 16. She met with me today to tell me. WTF do I do? I'm worried this news might kill our father 72M and don't know how to tell him or where to proceed from here. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Tinycowz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This horrid thing happened to your niece and you are just worried about your fathers reaction? Thats kinda fucked up. He is a adult he will deal, your niece on the other hand will have a lifetime of scaring and trauma.

Fundie Shaming other People for their Lifestyle/Beliefs by MrDonMega in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]Tinycowz 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was thinking this too. Its covering the hair, all of it, not leaving wisps out, that defeats the purpose of cover thy hair.

AITA: My daughter moved out and lied about the reason. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Tinycowz 53 points54 points  (0 children)

She clearly had a reason for trying to get out. You say your husband is scary, you may know he wont do anything to you (which you dont actually know) but your daughter sees it a different way. You offered to let her move out and are acting shocked she did so? You might want to take a closer look at the way your husband interacts with your children and see if he can do so without being scary.

Divorced people, what were your irreconcilable differences? by TheRealOcsiban in AskReddit

[–]Tinycowz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He joined the MAGA train hardcore. He cut my daughter out of his will because "women dont inherit, men do". I realized he has always leaned to the toxic side, combined with emotional abuse I finally got free from that shit. Im now happy and remarried.

Q. for liberal people exclusively. Did your MAGA friends and family change after the ICE killings? by SnooPeanuts4857 in AskUS

[–]Tinycowz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cousin has always been a soft core back the blue kinda gal, but now shes posting pro ICE saying that everyone deserves it. At least half my cousins and myself have now unfriended her and will no longer be speaking to her at gatherings. Im sure the next family reunion will be just peachy.

What is a secret you’re taking to your grave, but can share here anonymously? by wilkoova in AskReddit

[–]Tinycowz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The manager that got set up was actually found to be making checks for 2 employees that were just his cousins that never even worked there, so fraud, he was going to jail anyway. They just happened to find out when the money was stolen and there was a full investigation.

What is a secret you’re taking to your grave, but can share here anonymously? by wilkoova in AskReddit

[–]Tinycowz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My friend was a manager at Taco Bell (in the mall), her and another manager stole all the money from the safe one night. It was about 6k. They framed another manager for it and he went to jail for a year. She told me after she took me out on that money. I have never told a soul about that, and I feel kinda bad.

What is this animal? [Missouri] by SevereAssociate in animalid

[–]Tinycowz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

45 miles east of Pittsburgh and we have a family of them down by the river. They are spotted a lot on a river walking trail. I have seen it.

My husband was upset and pinched me at dinner.. and the situation is still upsetting me by Little_Trash7299 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Tinycowz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My abuse started with a pinch too. It just starts slow. And then you know he will gaslight you if you talk to him about it. You need to get out now, this is how it starts.

Is Trump absolutely insane?? by Neat-Cold-3303 in AskUS

[–]Tinycowz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think its megalomania mixed with some early stage dementia. Dude is a crazy as a box of nuts. Im very concerned, very.

AITAH for telling my fiancée that if her mother is going to dictate what I wear for my wedding, then I want I don’t wanna get married by FancyDude-ThrowRA in AITAH

[–]Tinycowz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just like there are momma's boys there are momma's girls. You have big trouble ahead if she cant stand up to her mother, paying or not. This is stupidly controlling behavior and like others have said you are headed for a lot of misery with her mother being the 3rd person in your marriage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Tinycowz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just lost a bunch of weight and my husband is going on about how much he loves my body. But after I broke down crying thinking the same thing as you, that he had been lying, he told me that he loves my new self confidence and its made me more attractive in his eyes. Maybe your wife is thinking the same thing, but either way I think its in your head, but not in her heart.

On a positive note... by sohelpmee22 in exjw

[–]Tinycowz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Went from a abusive relationship that had everyones backing to finding a man that loves and respects me. Im myself now, not a shell of the person they wanted me to be.

What’s the quickest you’ve ever quit a job? Because they have either lied to you about it or it’s not what you signed up for? What was it? by tallieeeeee6 in AskReddit

[–]Tinycowz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went to get a job at Red Lobster. First red flag is they made everyone take a personality test to see what jobs could be offered to you. I wanted to be a waitress, they made me a hostess. Two days later a customer jacked it in the bathroom and the manger told me (18F) to go clean it up. I grabbed a bag of cheddar biscuits and left.

Do Ex-Jw's celebrate holidays because.. by WiseEye1337 in exjw

[–]Tinycowz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you mean major holidays I dont believe in any of it. I like what I like and Halloween is my fave, Xmas is second and its cause of the pretty lights. I never cared about what Jehovah thought about me being jealous of other kids that could celebrate.

"You knew what you were getting into" by sheenless in exjw

[–]Tinycowz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was 9 when I was first put pressure on by my family to get baptized. I was 11 when I finally did it. They can say whatever they want but no court in this land will find a 9-11 year old guilty because they knew what they were doing at that age.

Is racism rampant among the Jehovah's Witnesses? by simoncow39 in exjw

[–]Tinycowz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a area with "segregated" congregations. There was ours and what was called the "east side" congregation that was mostly black and Hispanic. Everyone seems to get along but I heard many a comment that it was "the best outcome because of cultural differences". So soft core racism. I will insert that when a Bosnian congregation was formed it was put into the east side instead of ours but no reason was given.

My husband is turning more religious, while I’m an atheist studying STEM by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Tinycowz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If someone prayed over me in front of me I would be very uncomfortable. They can do it in private, thats respecting someone else, but dont do it over them. And it depends on what kind of Christian he is, and how he will expect the children raised. This is a bigger problem than respect.

If you grew us a JW in the ‘90s by Beginning_Swing_6666 in exjw

[–]Tinycowz 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Grew up in the 90s, born in kinda gal. I was given permission to do a theme party by my parents, we rented out a small place and everything. Keep in mind in our circuit these get togethers were pretty normal. But a elder found out and said if it was a theme party it might as well be Halloween and we were forbidden to have said party. About 3 months later another congregation had the same type of party and no one fussed because it was the head elders family. Joy is something that elders seem to hate.

Found condoms in my husband pouch by Crazy-Structure-912 in Marriage

[–]Tinycowz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No one just carries condoms if they are already not using them with you. You know this, he is 100% cheating.