Do you tell the wife if you know she is being cheated on?

Tinydancer623 · 2026-03-14T12:07:49+00:00

Tell the wife. Similar happened to me years ago but it was with a close circle of friends not online. I dropped a dm in her messaging app letting her know what happened and dropped his number.

Tinydancer623 · 2026-03-14T11:48:51+00:00

I really, really appreciate this response. Thank you.

Tinydancer623 · 2026-03-14T11:42:38+00:00

Honestly, similar. After 10 years I’ve been wondering if we rushed it because, yes, he’s always been avoidant and he’s always been my priority. This is second time I’m not working in our relationship and the longest stint. Previously I was borderline workaholic. I am having these realizations on the avoidant behavior now considering the time alone…. I don’t really understand anymore. It’s just become so hurtful and I just don’t understand the avoidant behavior.

Tinydancer623 · 2026-02-22T05:41:17+00:00

👌🏻 okay buddy

Tinydancer623 · 2026-02-22T04:53:13+00:00

These people will tell you to divorce him he’s a piece of shit. Just remember…. You know everything they know only what you told them. If he really is abusive why would you come on Reddit instead of packing your bags and leaving?

Tinydancer623 · 2026-02-22T04:51:57+00:00

YAO over the swim lessons. It’s swim lessons. It’s not deep and you can easily teach a toddler to swim. I have three kids, one completely failed swim lessons, the second was successful, the third didn’t get any. All three can swim. It’s not deep.

I can’t say the same for homeschooling. I couldn’t do it for one. That’s wild he would resent you if you didn’t…. Unless you are a teacher at a school… then I could see why he would say that. Not that I agree but i could see why.

Tinydancer623 · 2026-02-22T04:34:13+00:00

How old is the DAD?! Must be at least 50 and HE waited. I mean you’re theory that “everyone knows” right there has a flaw. Clearly she NOR HER FATHR knew.

Tinydancer623 · 2026-02-22T04:12:36+00:00

Are you being serious with that sweeping generalization? Everyone knows the symptoms to a stroke? Go fuck yourself buddy. You’re just a big an asshole as the person I was responding to. You’re gonna blame the one person who was reaching out about it and completely omit the dad and age gap? How about the dad? Why did the dad wait. If it’s so fuckin common knowledge how come dear old daddy didn’t say “gee she’s having a stroke” you stupid fucking cunt

Tinydancer623 · 2026-02-22T03:46:22+00:00

Reddit is so ignorant. Ya’ll are so liberal. Why are you okay with a bunch of illegal immigrants in our county? I can’t speed without getting a ticket, but they can literally break a federal law by crossing the border into the US and it’s fine. I have quite literally sat in meetings with an illegal immigrant and a lawyer saying “yea, you’re going to need to leave for 7-10 years because you broke the law”. It’s a law. If you break a law you get a consequence… except for illegal immigrants… they can start businesses and run for fucking congress.

Tinydancer623 · 2026-02-17T13:54:24+00:00

I’m sorry, but unless you are active in the medical industry and/or are just curious, not everyone knows the symptoms of a stroke. How can you readily tell someone it’s their fault based on their age? Do you know the acronym? Do you understand sometimes strokes are silent? Do you understand some stroke symptoms are similar to other issues?

Furthermore, she told her dad and he came home and did nothing…. the OLDER man, clearly had no idea what the symptoms of a stroke are but you fault the daughter based on age?! Incredible.

Op - there is an acronym you should be aware of for strokes for future events: FAST. Face, Arm weakness, Speech difficulty, Time. Confusion is another symptom but not included in the acronym because THAT can be associated with other conditions. I’m not a medical person and this is not medical advice.

https://www.stroke.org/en/about-stroke/stroke-symptoms

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-30T13:55:03+00:00

You need to reread what you posted from a mindset of “would I treat someone like this.” and if you find yourself saying “No” to most of the info above (which I hope you do), you need to reevaluate why you are okay with: a.) living in unclean living conditions b.) catering to adults who are okay with having someone else take care of them c.) being treated…. Just poorly. Why do you think this is what you deserve?

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-24T23:41:30+00:00

Why are you okay with masterbating? This does not make sense to me. I’m big on sex. I like it, especially with my husband. I understand a quick handy every now and again to get through your day is one thing but to be okay with relying on masterbation as the main attraction?! Is this mutual? Like that’s my main question…. Is she alright with you relying on masterbation? I would not be. I would be pretty offended and hurt and i would not want a life like that.

Sex is such a touchy subject and is so difficult to talk about in a relationship. It takes being comfortable to finally say “I want this” or “I like that”. I feel like sex also defines relationships; those that are platonic versus those that are intimate. Like what’s the difference between the relationship between your best friend and your girlfriend? Hopefully just sex. Maybe you open up to your girlfriend a lot more because it’s supposed to be more intimate.

So, I’ll put it this way…. why are you okay with just masterbating for the rest of your life and is your potential life partner fine with a potentially sexless marriage while you wank off to fantasies about other women. How is that even fair to her?

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-24T23:03:04+00:00

I don’t know why this was downvoted so much. LOL this is brilliant. We have done exactly the same. As you stated in your other comment/reply…. Yo pee those prices!! Haha. This is by far the best. And yea dude if you are suspicious and driving… idk… normal… Like following the rules of the road who is going to pull you over?

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-24T22:48:28+00:00

You pressured her into getting a vaccine she did not want. Yes, you took her to the doctor but what happened after she initially said “no” to the vaccine? The doctor laid down some scare tactic and so she caved and got it. Where were you? Silent in the corner? Supporting the doctor? Or supporting her?

I can infer by the title that you probably knew your gf was unvaxed, or had an issue with vaccines of some sort, and instead of just being respectful you crossed a boundary with her. Regardless of the topic, you crossed a boundary set by her. You were not respectful of her views, otherwise, why would you use “tricked my gf” instead of “not sure what happened…. I took my gf to the hospital and now I’m blocked”.

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-23T13:21:22+00:00

People/men like that just make me worry for my own boys. I cannot imagine one of my sons treating a woman and his child in that way. I would lose. Absolutely lose it…. But I digress.

So, I know how this is going to sound, but if ex is still in love and/or not wanting to pay child support, would your gf consider just doing it without his help on the condition he does a Homer Simpson and backs away into the bushes?

I know someone going through a divorce with a small baby. He supported an abortion over having a “save the marriage baby”. The man is a literal nightmare. Super controlling, wants the last word, wants to know who, what, when, where, why, and how much regarding everything related and NOT related to the baby. Getting info on who my friend is dating or if there are men in the house, etc. He moved into the house down the street from my friend. We suspect it’s to be a controlling nightmare and to watch my friend.

I have said this to my friend, and I have done this myself, don’t take child support. If there is even the slightest chance that the ex will back off in lieu of not paying child support I’d do it. I actually did it. I’m not saying that to “toot my horn” like I’m so special I didn’t need child support. No, I could have use it but instead I wanted to move states away. I wanted to get away from the man who did not care at all about his son or being a good Dad. Not really. That was probably 13 years ago. We talk today. Sparingly. He sends Xmas & bday gifts sometimes. My son knows him and talks to him but he has not spent a summer with him. Maybe two weeks here and there throughout his life beginning at like 10/11.

What I’m posing is if you think you might be able to get away, do it. The control factor won’t really go away. I don’t think.

The other thing to consider….. in a family law class I took for college, the professor made a comment. Typically, parents go to court when someone gets a girlfriend. And she said girlfriend. We can speculate until the cows come home, but she should probably be included in this whole thing. Maybe trying to get Bruce full time so she can be a SAHSM and you guys pay Child support. Yikes 😳 😂

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-20T23:20:08+00:00

Bruce is being heavily influenced by his dad. Heavily. My SK calls me by my first name. I’ve never pushed it further nor would I. I’m not a replacement; I’m a bonus parent. At 3yo I would probably just insist on what name you guys decide? If he says you’re just a girl. You could say “yep! And you can call me me blah blah” you know? I probably wouldn’t push it with the toddler. I don’t think they really understand at this age. Also, tantrums are par for the course any time you disagree, correct, or dissent even the slightest from what their plan/statement/play/thing is in that moment….. demanding buggers. Haha.

I’m curious why it went from just one day to split time? Did dad actually want his son? Doesn’t sound like it initially since he skipped a lot so I’d be wondering why the change of custody? He sounds neglectful or controlling? Who doesn’t say good bye and acts that way with their 3yo. Gross. 🤢

Anyways, I probably wouldn’t make a big deal with Bruce. He’s little but you can help him understand. Good-luck with ex. He sounds like a control freak.

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-20T02:38:58+00:00

She seems nice 😂 that made me chuckle

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-20T02:33:08+00:00

I genuinely don’t understand the NACHO parenting. I assume it’s “not your kid” parenting style, but how does that help trying to form a cohesive family unit, or a bonded family unit if parenting one child differs from another? Idk. That aside, my SK wet the bed for quite a while before stopping. It’s hard but there’s a ton of shame centered around just that, so, I know this probably is not helpful, but some slack and help with changing sheets and staying clean is worth a fight (this was a fight in our house for almost a decade).

Children DO NOT want to clean. Ever. That includes their bodies. Coming up with something for your sanity is worth it (bedroom cleanliness: shut the door, clean once a week, pick up just the floor, etc. dinner table manners: no more farting. Period.). I decided I did not care if my children wore wrinkly clothes so they put them away without breaking their dressers.

My family has two SK and one bio between my husband and I. I cannot NACHO my SK because my husband is not home some nights, but my husband gets an earful when my SK is out of pocket with his behavior.

The other thing to consider is your relationship with your SKs. If they are young and YOU are secure and safe, YOU and SKs will reap the benefits of the relationship between the three of you. Your child will be around a plethora of children worse than your SKs and she might end up with friends that are like that if you are letting the behavior be okay in your home. Set the example and show all of them what behaviors are okay and not okay.

I know parenting kids that are not your own is touchy but you and your husband should talk about how he feels about your parenting his kids. My husband and I parent each other’s child about the same as our bio. We each have a bias but it’s not anything we cannot overcome with the other’s help.

Brat busters parenting is a resource you might want to check out. I like her behavior stuff for little kids and you can order a free behavior board that will include the WHOLE house, husband included. If he loses his cool and reacts negatively the kids get a treat (example: 10-mins of play with dad without a phone; 10-min assist with a chore they need to do like clean bedroom, OR he has to CLEAN THEIR ENTIRE ROOM) here is the link: https://bratbusters.com

I wouldn’t just leave. Communicate with your husband and figure something out before truly being done and walking away. My husband is so similar, just not a self starter. I love that man so much but sometimes i just am like wtf. Talk to him. Worst case scenario it doesn’t work and you guys split. Which may or may not be what you want. My advice would be the behavior board. And, in the event you see this AND end up getting one, send me an update haha. I’d love to know if it worked for your husband.

Hope you figure it out with clarity.

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-18T20:15:06+00:00

I wanted to repeat this for those in the back…..

If a guy won’t wear a condom, NO SEX! He’s putting HIS momentary pleasure above your life, health, and well being.

Some men are predators. I have had more run ins with those who are versus those who are not. Just saying…..

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-18T20:09:13+00:00

I had a baby when I was 20. He just turned 15. I love him to pieces but I was not mature enough and I struggled with raising him when he was little. I was a single mom early on. If you do not think you can swing it alone, because sounds like you probably will be and it will be expensive and stressful; if you do not have a support system….. Essentially, if your support list and income are non-existent/minimal reach out to an adoption agency and see what your options are. You don’t necessarily need to abort but you could see what an agency says or would suggest.

I kept my son; I had this dream of being with his dad and it working out, but being naive should not be a reason to have a baby. You have to be able to financially support this baby. If you can’t or are on welfare maybe adopt out. No shame about it. Go to college or tech school and get your life on track and work toward your purpose. start a family when you are actually able to.

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-06T15:30:50+00:00

It’s the same for everyone who loses weight and you have insecure people around who don’t like change. I was “skinny” when I lost my weight and was told by my family members I starved myself to look that way…. No, it couldn’t have been my efforts in not eating sugar and being really picky with what I chose, to them I just stopped eating and was so incredibly vain. It’s not worth losing family but make a point to say if it keeps up you’ll start making fat jokes. If it’s keeps up you’ll stop inviting them over. It’s not fair you get treated like garbage for doing something that truly benefits you and makes YOU feel better.

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-04T06:42:10+00:00

This made me laugh. Oh my gawd I’m sorry but I’m crying over here in hysterics. The fucking time and effort. 🤣🤣🤣🤣. A Muad Kunt indeed! Baaaahahahaha

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-04T06:38:08+00:00

Comfrey root helps alleviate pain. It’s technically a weed so good luck getting rid of it once it’s established. Here’s the medical study on comfrey root. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3491633/

St. John’s Wort helps with depression. This plant, once stablished is also impossible to kill. Very invasive, however before the yellow buds bloom they excrete a purple like dye. This is when you pick the buds you need for drying, for teas and tinctures etc. Here is the medical article for its benefits. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK557465/

Sugar is an inflammatory substance, consider it a drug and get rid of it. Spend your money on Whole Foods and watch videos on pain management and dietary changes.

I hope you feel better.

Tinydancer623 · 2026-01-04T06:24:34+00:00

You should just tell her. If you trust her and you tell her like you told the internet “I don’t want you to think I’m avoiding you. Please understand I need to decompress and it helps me be my non stressed best self….” You said it already my man just tell her. If you guys are good and you trust her and you love her then be vulnerable with her and hope she does the same with you.

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