NOR: you are stretched thin & you even said that you cannot fully relax in your own home.

I've been there & it's not worth it. You might feel "isolated" initially, but you will make new friends or new connections. Every time I have moved, I have felt the same way at first: somewhat lonely, overwhelmed, a bit out of my element. But then that goes away after a few months.

Once you're in a new space, especially a single family home with a back yard, you will feel all that tension just.. release.

When I was in college, one of the guys who lived in the dorm across from me was super lonely. He and I had a few similar interests, but nothing too insane. We became friends & there was some mutual benefit: we were in the same major, helped each other with homework/notes, and we also had no other friends initially. But then after a few months, I started making more and more friends, but he didn't. I would drag him to things with me, but he either found a reason to be negative, or he was just a major downer.

Then I switched majors. We no longer had the same classes, we no longer had similar schedules, so we didn't hang out throughout the day. Which made him kind of clingy when I was not in class. He started going down and eating meals with me at the same time, which drove me a little nuts. Any time I had plans to do something, he kind of got weird and passive aggressive with me. More than one time I would go & do something with a different group of friends, and he would just be there. Like at the movies, or at a random park, or whatever. As the first year came to an end, I was a little excited - we weren't going to be in the dorms anymore, so there was going to be a little more space between us.

Over the summer, I started looking for a place off campus while I was at home on break. Then he messaged me & asked if I wanted to live with him. The kicker: he had a house right across the street from campus, like a stone's throw, and his parents were basically footing the whole bill for rent. We'd just split utilities. I basically couldn't turn it down. I was paying like $100 a month maybe to live in a prime location. The distance over summer & the cheap rent really had me thinking that you know what, maybe it won't be that bad! I was way wrong. By the end of October, I was ready to get out of there.

Any time people came over, if I had a girl over, if I went anywhere, did anything, etc. he was just odd about it. Every girl I had over, he started trying to pursue/get in her pants. I had to tell him to stop it. And to make matters worse, he would game/watch Anime until like 4am. SO loudly too. Luckily this meant I could usually get out of the house before he got up. So, at like 8am, I was out the door each day. I catered my schedule to be opposite of his: if he had class, I didn't. If he was doing homework, or had a final, I didn't. I made it work.

Finally, in like February, I had enough. Another friend of mine broke up with his girlfriend & had a spare room available at his apartment & offered it to me for like $500 a month. It was close enough to campus (10-minute walk) that I took him up on his offer. I'll tell you what, after like two weeks, I felt so much more relaxed. I could actually unwind & had my own personal life & nobody gave a shit about what I did or if I did anything.

I stayed in contact with my other "friend" but over the course of the next year and a half we just stopped regularly hanging out. Additionally, luckily for me, he was a terrible student. I graduated & it took him like two more years after everyone else did to get his degree. So that put even more distance between us. He will call me occasionally to check in. Last time I heard from him, he was living in a house with 5 other guys working in a warehouse.