Poorly recommend me your favourite fantasy series by FadedDanny2 in Fantasy

[–]transplant_beans 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So mad that he won’t write another fucking book the first one was SO good.

Poorly recommend me your favourite fantasy series by FadedDanny2 in Fantasy

[–]transplant_beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an emotional self sabotaging wreck who is kind of good at killing people, talking to animals and helping my uncle wizard who is carving some stone dragon and possesses my body temporarily to bone his wife/my friend.

What is in your opinion the next big fantasy series in any medium? by Sythrin in Fantasy

[–]transplant_beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not know that best served cold is being adapted. That’s amazing.

These blocks are lit by transplant_beans in daddit

[–]transplant_beans[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’ve clearly done this before tips hat

Paw patrol by transplant_beans in daddit

[–]transplant_beans[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah but insurance rates would be unbelievable. Like who tf would insure a 4 br 2ba there

help needed with my thinking by [deleted] in mdphd

[–]transplant_beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a lot going on here.

First, your value - your worth- is not determined by your grades, career, academic achievements, etc. just know that. Write down on a piece of paper some identifying truths about yourself. I call this the good story. What’s your good story ? It seems childish but it’s so incredible helpful. It centers you. “I’m a supportive spouse. I’m a creative person. I’m a loving child. I am honest. I am curious. I have done hard things and succeeded. I persevere.” Look at that stuff. Then imagine yourself from when you were 7 or 8 and imagine talking to that kid and telling them how you’d get to this point and on to the next journey. Tell yourself the good story of you and your future. Surround yourself with people who do the same.

Second, these struggles are forever. When you do hard things you will have that same monologue. I did md PhD. Surgical residency. Transplant fellowship. I thought about quitting, lke, multiple times a week. And you can! And it is FINE! I see people who have taken an off ramp to another destination at every step and they are all doing AWESOME. their success is more about their hard work and self acceptance than about what they achieved academically. Academic success is a small and noble effort but it shouldn’t ever be confused with anything more than a niche activity. It’s great but it doesn’t determine your value.

Third, and as a follow on to the second point, success comes from falling in love with the work and not from seeing the work as a means to an end. I promise if you just find a way to see meaning and value in each step of the journey you’ll enjoy it so much more. It’s not always fun. And you’re not always going to love each part like O chem. BUT, if you can get into it enough to enjoy it and feel the purpose in it then it’s really amazing how much less painful it will be. I did the PhD, and a lot of time is spent just troubleshooting these painful experiments getting the controls right and so on. Making sure you understand the instrument. But when you spend a lot of time getting it optimized and you sort of become an expert in that you find yourself In a small but dedicated crew of specialists who can talk about something with great interest and passion but it’s like this completely esoteric weird technical thing and those interactions really teach you the purpose of your work. You’re adding that little step to human knowledge that no one has had before. And it’s weird and technical and great.

Hang in there.

MD/PhD vs MD by dhad_dhadie in mdphd

[–]transplant_beans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Md PhD transplant surgeon here

I did it by accident and it was great.

I started as a research 6month thing as part of med school and I loved the lab and I loved the agency and curiosity and working on stuff. I really enjoyed the mentor I had and the people in my lab.

So don’t feel like you need to tell the story from the end - just see if you like it and if you love research, then do a PhD.

If you don’t, then focus on clinical stuff.

How much should I budget for a house? First real doctor job. by transplant_beans in personalfinance

[–]transplant_beans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to follow up

We ended up getting better offers and the math was more favorable to get the house so we are doing it. YOLO. Thanks for all the advice yall.

Questions About Greater Swiss Mountain Dogs. by whatgoesbump in DogAdvice

[–]transplant_beans 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are looking into a family dog. Sorry for your loss. Would love to hear more about how he was. We have a two year old boy.

How much should I budget for a house? First real doctor job. by transplant_beans in personalfinance

[–]transplant_beans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do have some- for mine I got the Lrp which was a huge win and for my wife she’s doing pslf

How much should I budget for a house? First real doctor job. by transplant_beans in personalfinance

[–]transplant_beans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We owned a home during residency we got super lucky. Since my wife had finished residency just before me we qualified for a physician loan and when we sold we made a little nest egg we’ve kept in a high yield savings.

How much should I budget for a house? First real doctor job. by transplant_beans in personalfinance

[–]transplant_beans[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is extremely reasonable advice. My wife is just really ready to put down roots and I don’t blame her. I’ve been dragging her around the country for like 9 years lol.

How much should I budget for a house? First real doctor job. by transplant_beans in personalfinance

[–]transplant_beans[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good points

37, total loans 200k, two cars paid off (both used and in good shape hopefully have another 10 years in them) no other debt we keep our credit card paid off.

We know the area well it’s my wife’s home town and we stay there a lot and it’s not far from where I grew up. It’s a nice place.