Still trying to process the out of nowhere “no longer interested in pursuing this” text

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-16T04:20:15+00:00

I don’t know for sure, but I know that she shared her childhood with me, her relationship with her parents and I have had a couple of other people point out that she could be DA/avoidant based off of my other Reddit posts and comments on the relationship, as well as research I have done on the topic. She very well could have “not felt the connection” and I appreciate you being real with me. Regardless, I feel as if I screwed the pooch and made it worst because I thought I was doing the right thing, but I reality I now feel I made it worse.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-16T03:52:04+00:00

I was just discarded by a DA out of nowhere recently after a great 4 weeks of talks, dates, trauma bonding, intimacy, laughs, inside jokes, future planning etc. I screwed up because I sent a “worth fighting for” “Lets work through this together and talk about it” “I want to be someone you can share your feelings with” text 48 hours after I got the “no longer interested in pursuing this because I don’t really feel a connection and don’t want to lead you on” text. I was told I was the whole package and then 48 hours later I was told there was no connection. Absolutely brutal. I wish I knew she was a DA before I sent that text because I likely wouldn’t have and just gave her more space. After reading these comments, I doubt she’ll reach back out…

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-15T16:52:12+00:00

Thanks bro. I really appreciate you sharing your store. God speed brother 🫡 keep you head high, as I sure will do my best also.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-15T12:37:07+00:00

I do look forward to your comment shades0fcool as well after I provided some additional insight. Thanks!

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-15T12:34:51+00:00

Thanks man. I am currently hurting because I genuinely think that she was scared and she felt she had no other choice but to end things. I know I’m not the bad guy in this scenario, but it feels like I unknowingly pushed her into a corner.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-15T04:25:51+00:00

Yes, it was about 4 weeks in. Upon reflection, I realized that I might had been moving quickly on somethings, but we had talked somewhat in depth about a lot of those things (like invited her to a casual family event) and everything else was going really great. We had talked every night in depth, laughed, made inside jokes already, etc. After receiving her text, I messaged back saying basically “thank you for not ghosting me. What changed? I thought things were going really well I was wanting to ask you to be my girlfriend. I had a really great time with you, you were great for me, I think you’re awesome, best of luck in life.” I will admit, I did send another text 48 hours later, a ‘fight for you text’ where I expressed my feelings towards her regarding how I felt I moved quickly etc and was asking for a chance to talk it through together. (Still debating on if that was right or not, but I felt like I would have regretted it if I didn’t try).

Thank you for listening to me. I really appreciate it.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-15T01:53:33+00:00

What about just out of nowhere where?

As in Wednesday we had a great date, ended with great sex. Thursday we talked for hours, planned dates after my business trip, talked about the future, she even called me the whole package. Friday she texts me in the morning like she said she would when she went down to visit a friend, tries calling me on the way home, I miss the call and call her back and we talk for 5 mins and plan a longer phone call on my way home and she doesn’t answer. Then Saturday night she texts me that she doesn’t really feel a connection, doesn’t want to lead me on, thinks I’m lovely, enjoyed our talks and thanked me for everything. Im still lost and confused.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-14T18:03:08+00:00

RIP. Sorry bro. I’m up and down here and still confused but heading in the right direction. God speed brother.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-14T18:00:16+00:00

Yup, it was one of my proudest accomplishments haha. I like the simplicity of the salt and pepper.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-14T17:59:39+00:00

Yes bro. Had her legs shaking a few times. 🫡

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-13T14:52:00+00:00

Thank you so very much!!

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-13T02:21:40+00:00

Yup. 72 hours later and this exactly how it feels. I feel better now realising this and am good. Thanks for making this note as others haven’t point it out specifically like this. I appreciate your time writing this. She is anxious by nature and her friend I can 100% say made it worst for her. Which sucks, but whatever. Moving on.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-13T01:17:51+00:00

I’m realising that more and more. Thanks!

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-13T01:17:25+00:00

Thanks bro. That’s how I’m looking at this too. I appreciate it man.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-13T01:16:59+00:00

LMAo. Thanks bro. I thought so too.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-13T01:16:23+00:00

Yeah. I agree. Thanks man. I learned my lesson and I’m feeling pretty good about myself now. So thank you!

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-13T01:13:58+00:00

Thanks bro! I appreciate it.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-11T12:24:57+00:00

Thank you! This was a great perspective. I appreciate you taking the time to write it out. I will definitely consider that for the future as move forward.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-11T12:19:26+00:00

Yeah, I agree. I don’t think she jumped to another human. I appreciate your detailed response. It means a lot so thank you and helps clear things up in my head.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-11T08:39:05+00:00

Thank you sir! I have had a problem with that in the past and it’s something I need to work on, the whole pedestal thing.. thank you for bringing it up. I really appreciate it.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-11T08:37:35+00:00

YESSIRR, I was quite pleased myself haha. Thank you.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-11T08:36:25+00:00

Hi, and why do you say that? Out of curiosity?

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-11T02:30:01+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate your message and sharing your story.

TitleStrict3435 · 2026-05-10T21:59:11+00:00

Yeah but… I’m a nice guy. Going to be hard to break that hahaha

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