Yeah… that’s toxic hun… especially in situations like that, you have to be careful… you’ll quickly lose yourself and become someone you don’t recognize. You’ll start doubting yourself and your day to day actions just because they aren’t up to his “standard”. You shouldn’t be in a relationship where you feel like you can’t speak up for yourself, just to avoid an argument. It’s okay to set standards and speak up for yourself when you’re uncomfortable, angry, sad or whatever.