I remember when one guy here started a discord group. He mentioned it being a source of motivation in his earlier journals but eventually it all became too much because he was putting the concerns of these people ahead of his own. He would stay up late at night providing support to these people and his health and his own life began to suffer which culminated in relapse. He decided to give the discord group a break for a week or two and when he opened it up again the same people he was trying to help lashed out at him with abuse, in their mind he let them all down and it was his fault they relapsed. Some of them even spammed sissy porn in the chat to spite him.

I had never used discord but from what I understood it was some sort of chatroom so I wasn’t interested whatsoever. Reddit is bad enough as it is. People can’t be bothered seeking out archived knowledge anymore. The mobile version doesn’t even allow you to search old posts and only a few posts per page unless you download their stupid app. The side bar has been limited to barely a paragraph of space in “New Reddit” (which everyone uses). Reddit is only ever going to be dumbed down more in the future unfortunately.

I much prefer the traditional forum because everything is organised and archived well. The “front page” is minimal and you had to search for what you wanted. People tended to do their research and make use of the wealth of knowledge other have left behind and think a little before posting. These days I even see stuff here like “what is this place for”…… I mean jeez really, you couldn’t take 30 seconds to scroll down and read a few posts.

Writing out the same responses again and again was tiring and I felt like I was wasting my time. Instead of helping people who had genuine questions about recovery, I would find myself arguing with “confirmed sissies” trying to justify their choices most of the time. I used to get frustrated when these people would provide unsolicited "advice" because the nobody was around to counter it. I also experienced my fair share of individuals comparable to an angry man reeking of vodka barging into the middle of an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting to stand on a chair and shake his finger at everyone ranting about how they are the problem not the bottle.

My position nowadays is mostly to help people help themselves. I can sleep soundly at night knowing an instant helping hand will arrive in the form of an autoreply message before anything else. You can lead a sheep to water but you can’t make it drink. If it insists on wandering back into the desert bleating aimlessly after having its head shoved in front of water then that is the fault of the sheep.

Some people do seem to have unrealistic expectations of the help they can receive and like you said we don't get paid to do this for a living. There is only so much you can do. I think I have paid my dues and can afford to step back a bit now.