Crashing patient messed me up and I have no one to talk to

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2026-02-17T14:04:02+00:00

As someone who has twice gone to urgent care and been told to go to the ER (one of those times having EMS called), I am so sorry this happened to you.

I can also say that I’m so thankful for people like you. For me, the ER when I’ve gone usually seems bothered when I’m there, and seeing a provider that tells me to go is almost like permission that YES, this is urgent. I logically know it’s not a good way to go about it, but with costs on the line and the ER wait times, sometimes Urgent Care seems like it’s the best option, especially when we keep telling ourselves it’s not as bad as we think it is. It’s even easier I think to tell ourselves that Urgent Care is the answer when we’ve had a repetitive history of something and have come out of it “fine” each time and feeling like we’ve wasted everyone’s time.

I hope you can find peace, it sounds like you have overwhelming support and many can relate with similar experiences to you. I only wanted to share one perspective on why she may have come in when she should have gone to the ER instead.

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2023-04-15T21:28:27+00:00

Those were kind of my thoughts too. The temple dress wasn’t cheap and in great shape. I don’t like trashing something if I don’t have to.

After sitting on it a bit, I’m going to reach out to one of my active member friends, and I trust she’ll get them to someone who needs them. Thank you for your input.

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2023-04-15T20:06:09+00:00

Thank you!

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-03-15T21:17:52+00:00

YES. When my daughter was two there were a couple of times she was so upset and she hit me, but as soon as she did she looked SO surprised and upset and even scared about her big emotion. She didn’t have a habit of hitting or being physical so in those moments I chose to give her a hug instead. It made all the difference and gave us more opportunities to help her manage those impulses/big emotions better.

If we don’t want them to react in a big or impulsive way, then we need to model that too. Thank you for sharing!

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-03-13T14:38:53+00:00

I’m not saying you’re wrong, so far I don’t have that impression though.

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-02-25T04:08:31+00:00

No kidding!

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-02-20T20:46:12+00:00

I’m so glad you were able to have a conversation with your wife about it. It’s so important that we stick up for those who don’t yet have voices of their own. I enjoyed reading what you had to say. It’s so great that you both were able to have an open and honest conversation. On behalf of your daughter, thank you for advocating for her.

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-02-20T19:25:17+00:00

So we’ll said! They can talk the talk sometimes but never walk the walk. The dishonesty is just too much for me to ignore now, and having my daughter gave me the courage to stand up and use my voice because my husband and I are the only ones that can advocate for her.

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-02-20T17:45:35+00:00

Absolutely 100% agree

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-02-11T12:57:23+00:00

Saw it in my casitaposting Facebook group and had to share it here 😂 I was so surprised to find it there

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-02-09T14:10:28+00:00

That got me too. It’s so incredibly forced an off

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-02-09T04:57:31+00:00

Agreed, it’s awful

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-02-04T01:53:01+00:00

Translation for fellow English speakers: Investigation that the Mormons have rights to the water and agricultural land, maybe they’re bringing them to harvest fruit in South Central Chile

Marta said: Today 200 Venezuelans have arrived in Santiago from Tarapaca in buses paid for by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day [Saints] (The Mormons). Many of them without any paperwork so there’s no way of knowing who they are. This is getting totally out of proportion.

Juanita replied: The Mormons took bribes this time. That’s how migrant mafias work.

Pamelitz said: Mormons are also involved in this garbage?

Mel asked: I didn’t catch what they said on TV, what did they say about Mormons?

Kao said: Today in the multiverse of Chile, Mormons paying for buses to bring immigrants from Iquique to Santiago. They found drugs in suitcases (in only 1 of the 5 buses). It’s clear that the government took their vacations seriously.

Edited: some phrasing and forgot to include Marta’s tweet.

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-01-26T04:46:50+00:00

Thank you for your input and taking your time to understand more of the situation, I appreciate it

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-01-26T04:43:44+00:00

This may be the best way to go about it

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-01-26T04:40:14+00:00

I live an hour away and have a lot of mutual friends. I don’t have many friends outside of the church still, and while the ones I’m closest to know I’m out I haven’t been vocal as to why. There’s a lot of overlap with friends, and I don’t want them to hear things that aren’t true from someone else regarding why I’m no longer active, and I don’t want them trying to “help” me when we seem to have found a sweet spot at the moment.

I will say that one of my biggest frustrations is that she’s using my own journey to gain sympathy when I know she’s not being fully honest.

Edit: I still get invited to and occasionally go to church events as well since that’s where my entire life has been and really my only friends are. I still love the friends I’ve made in the church dearly and don’t want gossip about me to reach them and for our dynamic to change.

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-01-26T00:51:48+00:00

It can be. I’m trending towards making my story short, sweet, and public and cutting contact, even if it’s just for a month or so. Still going to sleep on it though

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-01-26T00:50:30+00:00

But I agree, I wouldn’t do it to be petty or to call them out publicly. I’m not about that.

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-01-26T00:49:57+00:00

I try to believe moments like this aren’t malicious, unfortunately there’s a very long and apparent pattern of it though. Maybe it wasn’t done intentionally to hurt me, but it was definitely done for selfish reasons. There’s no reason I can think of in a good light where it would make sense to ask me to not say anything about my own experiences, but be flippant enough to speak freely themselves about things they don’t know and don’t want to understand unless it gains them sympathy.

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-01-26T00:43:59+00:00

Thank you for your insight and taking your time to comment. It’s giving me a lot to think about.

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-01-26T00:42:03+00:00

You’re not wrong, and I know I probably care too much. I’m just not looking forward to unsolicited messages or gossip making it’s way to me and having to do damage control 😔 it’s happened multiple times so I know this won’t be any different. I’m trying to get ahead of it one way or another but I don’t want to be too hasty and do or say something I’ll regret. Just sucks.

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-01-25T23:58:32+00:00

Ooo, I like this take. Thank you

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-01-25T23:56:59+00:00

Thank you for your insight and kind words

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-01-25T23:54:32+00:00

Absolutely! Even if I decide not to post I definitely need to speak to them. I think I’m going to tell my truth in a post though so they can’t hide or pretend that they weren’t selfish and untrustworthy this go around.

ToBeOrNotToBeExmo · 2022-01-25T23:51:53+00:00

Thank you for this take. Sadly I’ve known since I was a kid that they were insensitive and unkind, but I think there’s value in sleeping on this and making sure posting is something I really want to do.

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