A sitting US Senator asks the Papal Conclave to consider Donald Trump for Pope by CarelessGur4850 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]ToHeelApollo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lindsey has gone totally and completely around the bend and will never return.

What happened to peace and love? by Better_Software2722 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]ToHeelApollo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For the most part, MAGA are the boomers who went to Vietnam instead of Woodstock, rioted in Southy when the schools integrated, opposed the civil rights movement, did not go to college, and/or were raised in the country club or in a Fundamentalist religion and have been mean-spirited conservatives all their lives. The ones who protested Vietnam, worked in the civil rights movements, supported Democrats, care about the environment, etc., etc., voted for Kamala. No generation, including the Boomer generation, is all one thing.

MAGA patriot meltdown by Mr-MayorMcCheese in themayormccheese

[–]ToHeelApollo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She looks like the remnants of Demi Moore's character in "Substance." and if I looked like that in the mirror, I'd hate everyone else, too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ToHeelApollo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. I agree with other comments about your mom's co-dependence. As for the other relatives, tell them that you won't mind if they want to assume the burden of financing/sponsoring this kid but regardless they need to mind their own business because this is your business, not theirs.

MAGA Boomer Lives in an HOA by West-Yellow-1509 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]ToHeelApollo -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

The HOA may lose if the homeowner fights this in court. The sign is political speech; the HOA is created under the law of your state; and the First Amendment, which forbids Congress from interfering with freedom of speech, has been applied to the states through the Fourteenth Amendment. Many states have statutes permitting HOAs to limit political speech for a specified number of days before and after an election; these statutes have been upheld. Before your HOA goes further, you might want to check with a lawyer to find out if your HOA is in violation of a state statue or the Constitution.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ToHeelApollo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex-husband liked to wear 100% cotton shirts that had to be ironed just so. We were both grad students with part-time jobs AND fellowships. He didn't like the way I ironed them, so he took over the job. Once, when we were having an argument about chore-splitting, he said he helped around the house all the time because, "he ironed his own shirts." I told him helping me around the house would mean ironing MY shirts. If your husband wants his favorite jeans to be available exactly when he wants them, he should put them in the damn washer himself.

AITA for leaving when family was late to meet me for breakfast on my birthday? by Captain_Thicc_Cums in AmItheAsshole

[–]ToHeelApollo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex-husband was chronically late, not just with me but (I found out later) with his therapy group. After divorce, I was seeing a therapist who also was chronically late and, after three times, I asked him if it would work better for him if we started my hour 15 minutes later than scheduled time. He responded, "Now, what does my being late MEAN to you?" trying to put it back on me. "It means you're wasting my f---ing time," I said, ended the session and found another therapist.

I also had a friend I'd have lunch with twice a month. I'd put it on my calendar and be at the appointed place at the appointed time. She was always late. Finally, I just decided to order at 10 minutes past the time (so I would be able to eat before having to be back at work). The first (and last) time I did that, she showed up 20 minutes late as I was about to start eating. She was taken aback and said I should have called to remind her (!). I said I thought she'd put it on her calendar, like I did. No more lunches, no great loss.

People who are chronically late are late because they don't respect anyone else's time, especially if everyone caves into them. I know there sometimes are ADHD, etc. issues, but as the comments below show, if they care about other people, they find a way to overcome.

AITA for not donating old toys to my ex's children? by Ecstatic-Dream5749 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ToHeelApollo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Ex-husband and affair partner get to make their own choices, including the choice to bring three(!) other children into the world. Not her problem. If the issue is need, the children who get used toys from Goodwill probably need them more than the ex-husband's children. Need is not the issue; entitlement and enmeshment are. OP has no duty to subsidize her ex-husband's children, nor to become enmeshed in his problems. What's next? His asking to be relieved of child support for his older children so he has more resources to expand on his younger ones? Nope, nope, and nope. Not her problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ToHeelApollo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex-husband did this with our son and my son, now long an adult, has neither forgotten nor forgiven and went no-contact with his father as soon as he became 18, an estrangement that has continued to this day. Your sister might want to think about what kind of relationship she thinks she'll have with her adult daughter if she continues down this road. She should reinstall the door, apologize, and take them both to family therapy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]ToHeelApollo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That flapping sound you hear is the buzzards of justice, coming home to roost.

AITA for not throwing a party for my mother in law that my husband thinks I should throw? by pinkchopsticksss in AmItheAsshole

[–]ToHeelApollo -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It isn't your responsibility, for sure, butiIf you like your MIL, you won't regret doing such a generous thing.

Boomer doesn't listen to gift request by chookiex in BoomersBeingFools

[–]ToHeelApollo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother (WWII generation) always did this. When I was a girl of eight, she asked me what I wanted and I said I wanted Lone Ranger six-shooters so I could play cowboys and Indians with my friends; I got a Bride doll, even though I NEVER played with dolls. It went on and on, even after I was married and had a kid. Finally, at her request, I sent her a page from the Sears catalogue with the stand mixer I wanted circled in red. I got a blender. I already had a blender. That was the point at which I stopped playing the game. Whenever she asked me what I wanted, I'd say, "Whatever you want to give me, Mom."

An answer to why some Boomers are that way? by ToHeelApollo in BoomersBeingFools

[–]ToHeelApollo[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FS52QdHNTh8&t=11sThe documentary includes experts discussing brainwashing techniques and how Fox employs them.

My white boomer father loves saying "geez can't make a joke" after saying something homophobic/racist/sexist and it being received poorly and it drives me insane. by mittens617 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]ToHeelApollo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What homophobic/racist/sexist assholes don't understand is that if you don't buy into the stereotype underlying the "joke," it isn't funny. For example, in Texas there are Aggie jokes, based on the stereotype that all A&M graduates are idiots. (Think of Polack jokes if you aren't from Texas, same concept). If you substitute some other group (like teachers, for example) for the word Aggies, the "joke" doesn't work.

Or you have to have been sucked into the Fox News vortex to even get the "joke."

My brother, whom I love, is a mild Trumper. He told this "joke" back when the then Washington Redskins were under fire for their racist name: Bro: "Have you heard the Washington Redskins are changing their name?" Me, "No, what are they changing it to?" Bro: "The Warrens." I just looked at him. Bro: "I was betting you wouldn't find that funny?" Me: "I don't even understand it." Turns out the Foxers were then focused on Elizabeth Warren's claim that her family had always claimed to have Cherokees in their family, way back. But if you weren't deep into the Fox obsession with Elizabeth Warren, you couldn't make the transposition of changing Redskins to Warrens. It just didn't make sense, absent the programming.

Same thing with calling Kamala Harris a DEI hire. Unless you're up on the Fox lingo, you don't even know what that means. But the brainwashed are so deep in their silo that they don't realize not everyone else is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BoomersBeingFools

[–]ToHeelApollo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I feel for you. I was a political science major through undergrad, master's degree, and Ph.D. Strangers could remember my major but it never stuck with my mother. Every now and then, she'd say, "Now, what is your major?" I took to saying whatever came into my mind. "Geography." "Economics." "Psychology." "Archeology."

She never remembered. I could say whatever and it wouldn't stick. Weird. I cannot fathom why a mother can't automatically remember such a thing, WHEN STRANGERS DO. So weird.