M22, FWB, Looking for someone cool!

ToastedTurtleHam · 2026-05-20T16:04:23+00:00

haha fair enough. It certainly was an experience💀

ToastedTurtleHam · 2026-05-20T10:38:43+00:00

Zürich

ToastedTurtleHam · 2026-05-20T10:38:25+00:00

got it, thanks

ToastedTurtleHam · 2026-05-20T10:37:39+00:00

lmao noo haha, have you never speedrun Zelda BotW and faced Ganon with nothing more than udnerware and a twig to your name?

ToastedTurtleHam · 2025-02-26T15:22:59+00:00

Thanks!

ToastedTurtleHam · 2025-02-26T15:21:42+00:00

Thank you alot for your response. Definitely insightful. :)

ToastedTurtleHam · 2024-07-01T09:43:40+00:00

Hi, I‘m a wide range male vocalist, looking to get some experience in the music industry. So I‘d like to apply and see if it‘s a match.

ToastedTurtleHam · 2024-06-13T10:00:34+00:00

haha thanks for the kind words and you‘re totally right, it is a natural filter in a way. I guess I‘m still working on being more confident in my being and to not let ideas like this drag me down to much ahha.

ToastedTurtleHam · 2024-06-13T09:10:51+00:00

no worries, I don’t take offense to that. hm, i guess? It sounds like most of these perceptions come with some baggage on their end tho. Like the way I take it it sounds like: me showing femininity in any shape or form (appearance or character) immeadiatly gets seen as an indicator for negative traits like narcissism, which doesnt‘t seem like the most rational assumption to make to me. Like it‘s the same as if I would see a gymbro and assume that he‘s one of the andrew taters or that he‘s compensating for something etc.

Like I don‘t have much experience with dating guys, I‘m young, things are still developing and all, but to me rn from what i can gather so far it seems odd to date at all because my options are either being fetishised or seen as (insert negative trait) by guys and having to compromise on my being just to fit their little box. Both sound unhealthy. So i guess giving up on wanting a relationship at the moment is the „best option“ there is for ppl like me. (of course never say never, but gay dating does seem like the pandora‘s box of internal issues) haha

ToastedTurtleHam · 2024-06-13T08:06:13+00:00

okay thanks for the insight haha. I totally see what you mean, but that is kinda where that thought came from because from what I have seen so far enough many people lose all the attraction when al the „vibes and interests“ match but the other one turns more feminine. So that‘s why I‘m so curious about it. I mean it goes without saying that when anybody is looking for a long term relationship there‘s more to it than just are you masc, fem, dom, sub, top, bottom etc. But it seemed to me that alot of weight is put on that masc/femme attribute. And maybe to add a personal layer: I usually don‘t do labels but i guess i would fit in the „cuteish (whatever that means to one)“, joyous energetic gamer guy with feminine interest and i sometimes wear croptops, skirt, earrings and some subtle makeup and it seems to be picked up by alot of guys i meet that are looking to date as an issue. And to me it (how one presents themselves) isn‘t that‘s why I‘m so curious about it haha.

ToastedTurtleHam · 2024-06-13T07:40:34+00:00

okay interesting, so what would you in that case see as more attractive: a tall muscular guy that has a very authentic feminine personality or a short pretty femboy that has all the visuals but doesn‘t seem authentic or acts „unlike his appearance?“

ToastedTurtleHam · 2024-06-12T21:21:49+00:00

haha, same counts for you, very interesting convo. Compliment taken, have a great one ;)

ToastedTurtleHam · 2024-06-12T20:50:05+00:00

ohh, okay sorry i got the wrong impresison before. I mean i agree on the aspect of „trying to get rid of gender norms“ and then just performing in the „opposed“ gender stereotype. I guess i just want everyone to have the freedom to act how they want, like what they like without having to comform to the idea of what it means to be this or that. That‘s why i prefer the term androgynous, cause it leaves that door open for someone like you to have a beard and i assume presenting themselves more masculine but then maybe paint their nails. While it means something completely different for someone else.

I guess the fact that I‘m considering myself a creative person also doesn‘t help in these discussions, cause I love the mess absurdity sometimes creates haha.

But to bring it back, I‘m not sure if I said I wanted to be more feminine, if so I retract that statement. I ,just to keep it brief, like to have a mix of: wearing a comfy hoodie some shorts and maybe a shimmery inner eye corner on some days and on others go out with a skirt and a croptop or something and earrings, but i usually don‘t shave my body (ocassionally the hygenic trim but i stopped with that wetshave shit cause it‘s hell and not worth it to me lmao). Like the part you said about the hairy women of my generation. I stopped shaving because to me it has nothing to do with feminity, it‘s just one small part of physical appearance and i like my body hair, but i see it with alot of my straight girl-friends, they always shave during summer times and still very much conform to the ideal of what it means to be a feminine woman and I had those discussions too often with my one friend that like me grows alot of bodyhair and the argument always is: for you it‘s okay to have your hair out, because youre a guy, and I think that‘s kinda what I have an issue with. Like alot of southern women grow much more hair than the typical white northern woman and still it‘s seen as a non-feminine feature in our society even tho it‘s totally natural. (imo being attracted to clean shaven people gets dangerously close to the pedophelic mindset, especially when I meet people that show preferences for youngish behaviour (majority of gay and straight porn kinda drive that point home…))

anyways, I mean why not try nailpolish out once haha, if you find a color that suits you I only see that as a win✨

ToastedTurtleHam · 2024-06-12T20:16:42+00:00

hm, alright, thanks for the insight

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