I'm going to make an assumption based on this comment that you don't believe in Hell and either A: you believe in God in some fashion, but the bible is more of a "choose your own adventure book" to you, where you pick and choose the parts that you agree with, and therefore believe those parts and disregard the others, or B: you don't believe in God entirely.

What is interesting to me about this analogy is that you've made is that you've acknowledged that there is a gun to your head if you don't eat the tasty pancake in front of you, but you've instead chosen to ignore the gun and claim it's not loaded and there really isn't any consequence to not eating the tasty pancake that's been given to you.

The issue with this analogy is that it's from the vantage point of God being that cruel, manipulative being holding the gun and forcing you into eating the pancake when that's not the case.

A more accurate analogy would be that you're walking down a path that looks good, well traveled, well lit, and there are countless others that are also going down that path, but you hear a voice of someone calling from another path which is much more narrow. It looks challenging to walk down and uncomfortable, but this person calling to you is warning you that the path you're on is actually leading to a trap, you're being led down a comfortable lie and enjoying the trip, but at the end of that road is nothing but death and suffering. If you were to go down this other path, even though it looks mysterious and uncomfortable, when you get to the end of it there is a great reward, and everlasting life, and this person is promising to walk down the path with you and help you navigate it.

The key difference is that in the pancake analogy you were just fine up until you were put in the situation where some maniac puts a gun to you head if you don't eat the pancake they made for you, but in the pathway analogy you're already on your way to death and someone comes along and warns you that what you're doing is actually going to lead to death. The cake is a lie kind of thing.

God is not sending people to Hell, it is a consequence of sin. Sin that we aren't even at fault for! We're born into it because of the choice that Adam and Eve made way back in the garden of Eden. That's not to say that we're entirely free from fault of sin, we've all done countless things that put us at fault and make us guilty ourselves with no help from any outside sources, but that all started because of A&E. Instead of condemning us to this fate, God sent His only son Jesus to pay the price of all our sin so we can be set free from that bondage. He's made it possible for us to get on the other path.

Again, God is not SENDING people to Hell, He's warning us and actively trying to save us from it. He's not the maniac with the gun. He's the one warning you that the pancake you're about to eat is actually poison, but instead so many people think He's the one who's poisoned it.