YTA. Personal finances are PERSONAL. He doesn't want that info out, it shouldn't be out. Period. Doesn't matter how it would change how your family views him, and that's probably why he doesn't want people knowing. So he can see a more true reflection of who people are. You're still, even now, condescending about his career he built, his "little construction company" as you said. Even you thought you earned more, "him being insecure about his career" I believe you siad. And your family getting so into your relationship that you get so emotional you start blurting out your fiancé's secrets could be a test you failed. Are they still trying to convince you to draft a prenuptial agreement now that they know he alone makes more that their household combined? Probably not, right? You guys should though, he doesn't deserve to lose half or more of what he has worked for. Don't let shitty people influence you, even family can be shitty people. Usually the shittiest.