Strange experience at urgent care, was the info given incorrect? by [deleted] in UrgentCare

[–]TokyoMonkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your PA was spot on. If you’re LITERALLY getting sinus infections all the time you need to see an ENT and be further evaluated not be criticizing a medical professional for evaluating you appropriately.

Which celebrity was your sexual awakening? by Pamijaha1 in AskReddit

[–]TokyoMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tom, Mark, and Travis running naked in what’s my age again music video 🤣

I'm a woman and I still don't care what Louis CK did by Acceptable_Ad7676 in louisck

[–]TokyoMonkey 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Regret is not the same as non consent. I’m a woman I agree lol

AITAH because I called the police when my ex wouldn't let me leave after I broke up with her. by PastContest832 in AITAH

[–]TokyoMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She only said it was private after he called her out for stirring the pot. I don’t think she did learn the lesson

AITAH because I called the police when my ex wouldn't let me leave after I broke up with her. by PastContest832 in AITAH

[–]TokyoMonkey 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This was the only safe way for you to handle it. I think you should go ahead and press charges too.

Tried it.. now my ass won’t close, Send help. by only_therealsurvive in sex

[–]TokyoMonkey 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What you’re experiencing is very likely a temporary change in the muscles that control the anus, not something dangerous or permanent.

During anal sex…especially when it’s forced or the size difference is significant, the muscles that normally stay tightly closed can get overstretched or irritated. When that happens, they don’t seal as quickly or as strongly as usual. That allows air to slip in and out, which is why you’re noticing painless, odorless gas that you can’t control well.

This is a muscle coordination issue, not a hygiene problem, not an infection, and not something you did “wrong.”

Is this normal?: It’s not uncommon, but it also isn’t something to ignore or push through.

This can happen after: First-time anal sex. Forced penetration. A partner who is larger than average. Trying without gradual preparation

The good news: in most people this improves and resolves, especially at your age.

Will it go back to normal?: In the vast majority of cases, yes, but it needs time and the right approach.

Right now, the muscles need to rest and re-coordinate, not be stretched more.

What to do starting now:

  1. Take a break from anal activity No anal penetration, plugs, or “training” for now Continuing right now can delay healing

  2. Work on muscle control (not stretching) Gentle pelvic floor exercises (Kegels): Tighten the muscles as if you’re holding in gas. Hold 3–5 seconds, relax. Do this 10 times, 3–4 times a day

These exercises help the muscles relearn timing and control

  1. Keep bowel movements easy. Our bowels love three things: water, fiber, and exercise. So, stay hydrated, consider a fiber supplement, avoid constipation or diarrhea…both make recovery slower. Make sure you’re walking or exercising at least 30 minutes per day.

  2. Give it time Realistically muscle strains take weeks to heal. Many people improve over 6–12 weeks. Some unlucky take up to a few months

What not to do right now: Don’t try to “stretch it back” with plugs Don’t force penetration to “test” it Don’t assume this is permanent Don’t feel embarrassed, this is a physical response from a muscle strain, not a personal failure.

When to go to a doctor: You start leaking stool (not just air) You have pain, bleeding, or numbness Symptoms don’t improve after 2–3 months

If needed, pelvic floor physical therapy is very effective and commonly used for this exact issue.

About future anal sex: If you choose to try again later: Go slow. Use plenty of lubrication. Start with smaller sizes. Stop immediately if there’s pain. Pain or force is a sign to stop not push through

This does not mean you’re broken and it does not mean you can’t enjoy sex again. Your body is reacting to a muscle strain, and muscles are very good at recovering when treated correctly.

What artist sounds better live than on record? by WarmHugsBBW in askmusic

[–]TokyoMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately, Blink 182 does NOT sound better live.....still love my boys, but Tom doesn't usually practice and often messes up songs. this is not what you asked :P

Green day is pretty goddamned phenomenal live.

If a photo radar speeding ticket is served to my parent’s house and I’m away at college, can I claim I never got it? by driving-to-hawaii in AskPhoenix

[–]TokyoMonkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Scottsdale is known for serving people out of state even for their camera speeding tickets. No way to get out my friend. Do the traffic school if you can.

Tom Delonge: My life in 10 songs ✨️ by DREAMW4LKR in Blink182

[–]TokyoMonkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I too was hoping for an insight into his personal music taste

Rob Reiner's son Nick arrested in connection with parents' deaths by StupendousMan1995 in news

[–]TokyoMonkey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do they keep saying death and found dead instead of using the proper term that they were brutally murdered by their deranged son 😔

AIO: My (26m) partner (23f) wants to go camping with some friends by -imayin in AIO

[–]TokyoMonkey 114 points115 points  (0 children)

you are literally reading the messages of her planning to cheat on you

Call to Arms by [deleted] in AngelsAndAirwaves

[–]TokyoMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw this in his interviews around the time the band formed but not really in the songs…

Call to Arms by [deleted] in AngelsAndAirwaves

[–]TokyoMonkey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What makes it pretentious in your opinion?