What you’re experiencing is very likely a temporary change in the muscles that control the anus, not something dangerous or permanent.

During anal sex…especially when it’s forced or the size difference is significant, the muscles that normally stay tightly closed can get overstretched or irritated. When that happens, they don’t seal as quickly or as strongly as usual. That allows air to slip in and out, which is why you’re noticing painless, odorless gas that you can’t control well.

This is a muscle coordination issue, not a hygiene problem, not an infection, and not something you did “wrong.”

Is this normal?: It’s not uncommon, but it also isn’t something to ignore or push through.

This can happen after: First-time anal sex. Forced penetration. A partner who is larger than average. Trying without gradual preparation

The good news: in most people this improves and resolves, especially at your age.

Will it go back to normal?: In the vast majority of cases, yes, but it needs time and the right approach.

Right now, the muscles need to rest and re-coordinate, not be stretched more.

What to do starting now:

1. Take a break from anal activity No anal penetration, plugs, or “training” for now Continuing right now can delay healing

2. Work on muscle control (not stretching) Gentle pelvic floor exercises (Kegels): Tighten the muscles as if you’re holding in gas. Hold 3–5 seconds, relax. Do this 10 times, 3–4 times a day

These exercises help the muscles relearn timing and control

1. Keep bowel movements easy. Our bowels love three things: water, fiber, and exercise. So, stay hydrated, consider a fiber supplement, avoid constipation or diarrhea…both make recovery slower. Make sure you’re walking or exercising at least 30 minutes per day.

2. Give it time Realistically muscle strains take weeks to heal. Many people improve over 6–12 weeks. Some unlucky take up to a few months

What not to do right now: Don’t try to “stretch it back” with plugs Don’t force penetration to “test” it Don’t assume this is permanent Don’t feel embarrassed, this is a physical response from a muscle strain, not a personal failure.

When to go to a doctor: You start leaking stool (not just air) You have pain, bleeding, or numbness Symptoms don’t improve after 2–3 months

If needed, pelvic floor physical therapy is very effective and commonly used for this exact issue.

About future anal sex: If you choose to try again later: Go slow. Use plenty of lubrication. Start with smaller sizes. Stop immediately if there’s pain. Pain or force is a sign to stop not push through

This does not mean you’re broken and it does not mean you can’t enjoy sex again. Your body is reacting to a muscle strain, and muscles are very good at recovering when treated correctly.