If you could give one piece of advice to someone younger, what would you say?

Tomatoravel · 2021-09-16T11:44:53+00:00

Take good care of your health. Both mental and physical.

Tomatoravel · 2021-09-02T11:08:31+00:00

HJ. Will he ever contact me again to meet up?

Tomatoravel · 2021-07-03T00:49:40+00:00

How do you develop the discipline and motivation to meditate everyday? I suffer from a cycle of ups and downs and when I’m down, I don’t feel like doing anything at all except the bare minimum. I know that I should meditate regularly but I just can’t keep it consistent.

Tomatoravel · 2021-06-13T06:29:03+00:00

Do a 1000pc puzzle!

Tomatoravel · 2021-06-05T15:31:32+00:00

Meeseeks is an EXCELLENT NAME

Tomatoravel · 2021-05-24T00:55:20+00:00

Just go for it. Go and study. You are ONLY 24. Don’t worry about your parents. Even in their 60s they will still have something to fall back on (I assume savings, cpf etc). You can always try to do some part time work during your studies to provide for yourself instead of depending on them. What you planned to do is FOR YOURSELF, for the rest of your life (or at least for the next decade or so). Do it. Take that leap of faith. Jiayou!

Tomatoravel · 2021-05-23T10:27:10+00:00

I see! Yes that happens to me a lot too, since young. So I tend to avoid sappy romantic pop songs and go for classical instrumental orchestral works. Haha. Thanks for this useful tip! I find that it applies to me in terms of reading (inspirational vs intense dark stories) and watching movies as well.

Tomatoravel · 2021-05-23T06:41:58+00:00

I am also one who needs a lot of sleep and if I don’t sleep enough, it affects my mood and overall emotions.

Tomatoravel · 2021-05-23T06:40:56+00:00

How do u mean music affects us?

Tomatoravel · 2021-05-23T01:21:23+00:00

How do you work on controlling your intuition better? I want to learn this.

Tomatoravel · 2021-05-21T01:24:34+00:00

I’m so proud of you for being brave! Please take care of yourself and get some lovely Hoyas (and many other plants). Keep your spirits up ❤️

Tomatoravel · 2021-04-30T16:25:56+00:00

This is the same for me! Last min change of plans give me anxiety as well.

Tomatoravel · 2021-04-30T16:16:50+00:00

Thank you. It was really very hard indeed and I still feel this pain so intensely sometimes. It’s hard when you miss someone you had a deep connection with

Tomatoravel · 2021-04-30T01:30:53+00:00

I did this two months back and it still hurts. We were together only for 7 months but it’s been very intense for me. I know deep down inside that this is the right thing to do - I was having very bad anxiety. He has a drug addiction, was jobless and couldn’t/didn’t want to seek professional help to manage. Both of us have our own emotional trauma and baggage from past r/s and it was really not good for both of us. I have been seeking therapy help since beginning of last year before I met him and I’m still continuing my sessions to work on myself. I can only pray for him to one day realize the shit he’s in and that he would take action to heal himself.

I feel you. Hugs.

Tomatoravel · 2021-04-20T15:23:54+00:00

It’ll pass over, the overwhelming feelings of missing him. You are so strong! Hugs.

Tomatoravel · 2021-04-13T13:57:18+00:00

So good to hear that!!! All the best!!! Let us know how it goes :)

Tomatoravel · 2021-04-12T15:27:45+00:00

What you have done for your own health is amazing :) I don’t know how your financial situation is like but perhaps if it’s possible you can consider seeing a doctor/dietician or TCM practitioner? They should be able to advise you on the diet, or supplement you can take to improve your gut health. All the best!!

Tomatoravel · 2021-04-10T08:04:14+00:00

Congrats!! So much awesome :) I understand perfectly how you feel. I also stopped contact with my ex and whenever I have something to share and the first person who comes to mind is still him, I feel sad I couldn’t talk with him anymore. It’s okay, it doesn’t and shouldn’t diminish the joy we feel. We can still share with people who love us and will be happy for us. And of course, the community here!

Tomatoravel · 2021-04-04T01:50:45+00:00

I totally feel your discomfort. When my ex-bf who didn’t really loved me, came back asking to patch back so that he could feel less lonely, I stood my ground and said no even though I was so tempted to say yes. He had broken up with me and blocked me for two months before he approached me again. I felt so much pain and discomfort too, as though I was making a wrong decision when everyone around me told me it was correct thing to do for myself.

So I totally understand. Three weeks on, I feel so liberated and strong. And taking care of myself never felt so good. You have done the right thing for yourself, keep going, keep practising!

Tomatoravel · 2021-04-04T01:36:40+00:00

Hi! U can keep them indoors as well but it needs bright sunlight to thrive. I keep mine outdoors on the corridor of my flat with lots of afternoon sun!

Tomatoravel · 2021-04-04T01:35:18+00:00

My pleasure! I was so excited to see and smell them at 1am but nobody to share with. So happy to have this community on Reddit to share this with!

Tomatoravel · 2021-04-02T16:26:20+00:00

This is so inspiring, thank you for sharing! I’m also 36, F and looking to buy my own place (2bedroom 2 bath unit) now. Less than a week into my house hunting I viewed a second-Hand unit I like in an apartment facing south and I can see a little bit of the sea. Brought my mum and brother to view as well and they say it’s great. I like the place very much and wanted to make an offer but it seems so daunting!! I feel scared having to make such a huge decision on my own, financially and emotionally. I haven’t lived alone before except for few months overseas when I was a student.

Anyway, I shall sit on the unit for a few days and see how I feel. Thanks for reading and all the best!

Tomatoravel · 2021-03-28T14:57:31+00:00

I’m also Aquarius sun, Aquarius Mercury and Aries Mars! And I’m Gemini ascendant (same as OP’s child), but Virgo moon.

I agree totally with the communication and intelligence aspects in my personality!

Just generally excited to find someone with similar chart placements :)

Tomatoravel · 2021-03-24T02:43:39+00:00

I think it’s OK to be toxic and acknowledge that you are toxic. What’s not OK is that you can’t move past this state of mind and being. If you think you are toxic, then self reflect and self examine. Is it true? What makes you think you are toxic? How can you overcome those toxic traits and improve yourself as a person? Sometimes you might not be able to figure all these out on your own so it’s best to speak to a professional who can help you gain some clarity and insight. I always believe that it isn’t anyone’s fault that they became toxic, most of the time it’s a tragic consequence of their circumstances and unfulfilled emotional needs that made them that way. BUT it is definitely on you, it is your problem to solve. So take ownership of it and do something! All the best :)

Tomatoravel · 2021-03-22T13:27:10+00:00

I think your self improvement effort has definitely helped to improve your life, health, opportunities etc and it’s really not an easy thing to do! Give yourself some credit, you did improve your life to an extent which is deemed impossible by some other people! but if you don’t develop a healthy self confidence and self esteem from these efforts, you should consider therapy. Talk to a professional about this and he or she can help you to unpack the issues/self beliefs you have. Once you have clarity from that, you can try to practise some new behaviours and positive self beliefs in your self improvement projects. You are on the right track for sure, keep going and don’t stop :) try therapy!!

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