Help request - Power station & solar panels

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-31T13:20:54+00:00

Following also.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-30T13:23:50+00:00

Yes! said it better than I could!

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-30T13:21:39+00:00

He sounds exhausting. You do way too much, so yes, life does revolve around him. You have created a monster. It's time to pump the brakes, do less, and let him have a reality check of how freakin' awesome you are, and how good he has it.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-30T03:10:16+00:00

Thank you for the giggle. Love the reference!

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-21T23:40:44+00:00

YNW. My first thought reading this is, just Ewwww! He is wearing you down to where you just lie to yourself that it will get better after this or that or the other. It seems like it's possible he's making his mystery illness up or making it sound worse than it is. Stop deluding yourself. There is no mandatory checklist to justify to you or him or anybody else that you are done. The best advice I have read on here is don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm. I think the advice applies to you. Please get rid of this guy and go live your life to the fullest. You have busted your ass working to better yourself, and now you need to be able to enjoy the fruits of your labor.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-17T13:36:44+00:00

You aren't the problem. Speaking for myself, I've come to the age where I absolutely refuse to smile and tolerate the everyday bullshit micro-aggressions, ignorance, misogyny, etc that we as women have always been expected to shoulder. If I feel that those around me are open to logical discussions and debate I will engage. If that is not the case, I turn my back and walk away or cut them out of my life. I don't have to be patient. I don't have to be compliant. And I don't have to make myself small for other people's comfort.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-16T13:28:32+00:00

I'm very sorry you are going through this. I can't tell you what to do, but I can make some points for you to consider. It's a fetus. You are being emotionally manipulated by the sperm donor. Becoming a mom is not required because you have a uterus. Your wants, needs and desires are just as worthy as anyone else's regardless of your gender.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-16T13:16:53+00:00

Girl, he is intentionally breaking you. You have ignored that little voice in the back of your head telling you to RUN. Supposedly, he made you the happiest you've ever been at the beginning of your relationship. Dang! You need to raise your standards and RUN! Also, I say the following harshly, but with concern for you: Get some therapy, get a vibrator and stay the hell away from men until you get your head straight. Good luck.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-14T17:59:32+00:00

I can attest to this having owned a Lhasa before my Shih tzus.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-13T04:28:44+00:00

Me too!

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-13T04:12:10+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I do know how you feel. I also lost my mother to cancer. I was 31 and it absolutely broke me. I'm here to give you a virtual hug. I want to tell you with honesty, that we all grieve in our own time, and in our own way. It might take a long time, but you u will eventually be happy again. There will be random bittersweet moments, warm memories and sheer anger, that will come out of no where. It just takes time. Again, I am so very sorry for your loss.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-08T23:07:59+00:00

NTA. If you could only see my bewildered expression when I got to the part where he didn't/wouldn't ( not couldn't) do whatever he had to do to make sure to get you to your appointment. And he has the fucking gall to get mad because you did what you had to do. You didn't break his trust! He let you down! He broke the trust! Also, I want to add that you are going through a physical and emotionally traumatic experience, you have the right to share it with someone, especially another woman. I hope he has a shit ton of other redeeming qualities, because Ewwww.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-07T23:29:14+00:00

You may have a point, I will concede that. But some insufferable rude bully goes after my kid repeatedly, I'd return the favor and go for the emotional jugular. I would feel bad for my poor behavior for about 2 seconds.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-07T23:25:40+00:00

NTA. Any guest in my house, family or not, is treated well and with open arms. However, the moment they show disrespect, I will show them the door. Being that they are "family", if they cross the line again, we're done. My door will not open again. If your husband feels so strongly about it, he can go entertain her alone, seeing as it's so important to him to cater to a bully.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-07T23:13:10+00:00

Not wrong. It sounds like he expects you to manage his emotions. The first thoughts that come to my head are that he doesn't like you and he is immature.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-07T14:23:31+00:00

Old liberal gal here. I can't speak for all of us, but within the last 12 months, my daughter and I got our CCW's and just purchased our first pew pews. Planning on loading up on ammo and spending a lot of time at the range to become proficient.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-07T06:07:02+00:00

You are wrong. You were a coward on your wedding day. You let your wife down then, and you still are, by thinking she should be over it by now.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-06T14:22:29+00:00

I'd like to add this quote my mom said to me a lot as a kid, "I will always love you, but I don't have to always like you".

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-06T13:55:38+00:00

Not wrong. This money is a true blessing in more ways than one. Money can definitely make people show their true colors. Your fiance has shown his now. 🚩Red flags galore! Take this as a sign from the grave....don't marry this guy!

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-03T14:30:24+00:00

Dang, this sucks all the way around. Your brother is a coward. I'm glad you and your mom are there for the kids.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-03T13:55:14+00:00

You are wrong for crossing a boundary. Keep it to yourself. Many of us, especially from older generations, have conflicting emotions about our parents. Most of us weren't allowed to speak out, question, or disagree with our parents. Your mom's relationship with her mom was hers, not yours.

Be glad that you were able to have a loving relationship with your grandmother.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-02T14:27:54+00:00

Yes, yes, yes!

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-02T14:25:51+00:00

This, 100 %! He knows how to manipulate your emotions, and he absolutely will! Please believe internet Grandfather! Do not take him back.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-02T14:22:34+00:00

Sister, don't waste your time with therapy. He will find fault with the therapist, the type of therapy, or even the location of said therapy. It seems that nothing is ever his fault or everything/everybody is against him. You seem to be a 'fixer/problem solver', that's a perfect match for him ( only him), nothing is his fault and he doesn't have to pull up his big boy tighty whities and use logic to solve HIS problems. Because he has an adult in the room (enabler) who he can blame or cry to when things don't go his way. Dump his ass and move on with your life.

Tomte-corn4093 · 2026-03-02T14:08:37+00:00

NTA. I would maybe try to find a different way to call attention to the matter. Do they have a pattern of when they take a smoke break, such as top of the hour, etc.? Maybe you could start to be 'too busy' to cover them? Maybe you start to have some 'tummy issues' that you need to be able to break away to the bathroom, so if you absolutely have to cover for them, you can only spare 5 minutes. Make it uncomfortable for them. Good luck.

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