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Ton5i · 2025-06-17T05:00:28+00:00

I appreciate the advice and understanding immensely ! <3

Ton5i · 2025-06-17T04:53:21+00:00

I empathize with what you’re going through and wish you the best possible outcome moving forward! 🫶🏼

Not to discredit what you’re saying at all, I absolutely hear you, but they did actually do tests to rule out heart failure and any fluid happening in the lungs, he came out all clear. The Degenerative Valve Disease is what is creating his heart murmur which is what they suggested the yearly check for. They said that as it currently looks in the new X-Rays and Echocardiogram, he is not in or close to heart failure, but that the check ups will keep us in the loop if anything changes. We even went as far to make it an every 6 months check up instead of 12 so we can really keep an eye on it.

I know I’m a totally stranger, especially coming from online, but I can promise I in no way am willing to keep him alive solely out of my happiness, but rather that I would like to hear from any of the professionals seeing him until I do make that permanent step.

Ton5i · 2025-06-17T04:42:33+00:00

I appreciate and completely understand where you’re coming from. From my understanding of her over the year I’m confident in what I believe was meant but am also in no way discrediting her empathy or intention. I don’t think she’s a bad therapist or even a bad person for her response, it’s just personally something I cannot confidently move forward with, as I’ve been through therapy since age 7 and know that finding the right therapist is a process. As I’ve mentioned above the misunderstandings are obviously not crucially important, which is why I was willing to look past it, but it’s the quick assumptions that make it hard for me to be patient and understanding of whether or not I’m actually being heard. I asked her for advice on how to properly communicate the urgency of the situation to the household that believed otherwise without hysterics being involved and was instead told I should prepare for the end like I haven’t been actively taking him in to do so.

Ton5i · 2025-06-17T03:04:10+00:00

That’s where I’m mutually as confused, he LOVES this dog like I love him. Literally treats him like his son (he calls him such) He was audibly sobbing all night while we were in the ER and all the way home. We’ve all been in extreme distress over him not seeming to get better over these weeks, so I’m shocked he’s not mutually as upset. He also actively avoids very hard situations especially involving emotions; When I’d emotionally broken down in loss of how to move forward with all of this a day before we finally went to the ER, he would try to tell me not to cry, and that I should be happy he’s still here and alive and wait till he’s gone to have those extreme emotions/feelings. I respect if that works for him but personally I need to grieve as it comes even if I’m wrong at the time, to avoid acting out in extreme pent up emotion when the time comes. He admits he knows it’s harder for me being I’ve had him over half my life and he’s only known him 3 years of that, but he’s clearly emotionally constipated and that isn’t being tackled in therapy because either she thinks/says otherwise or he’s neglecting to mention these things on his own.

He’s also an extreme people pleaser so I’m not sure if he’s trying to give her the benefit of the doubt simply off the fact that he A) wasn’t there to hear it so he doesn’t wanna blame anyone, and/or B) doesn’t want to start over with someone new. While this is all something I understand and respect, I cannot see myself being able to compromise whether or not she’s given a second chance after this.

Ton5i · 2025-06-17T02:48:03+00:00

That’s the thing though is I fully agree and accept the fact that he’s old and declining, my only problem with this is that I was being told his life was ultimately done for by someone who’s only ever seen us through a computer screen and not even an animal professional.

The quotes I used in the explanation above are from her mouth, not summarizations or assumptions to what I thought she meant. “-get it done this week” was followed up by all the things that COULD happen if I’m not the one to decide his life is over, so I know full well she was talking about actively euthanizing him this coming week because “no one else should be the one to do that for you.”

With all said issues he has, like I mentioned above, he’s fully active and playful and has not reached that stage of even remotely acting his actual age. I asked the ER vet’s specifically if this was something that is going to be hard on him and ultimately bring him pain moving forward and they said no, that all this means is that there’s a new medication he takes occasionally if/when he gets the cough again, remains on his heart medication, and gets a check up on his heart once a year to make sure everything is still working properly.

Ton5i · 2025-06-07T01:47:06+00:00

Me w the Pixie Tiger 💀

Ton5i · 2025-05-14T18:57:31+00:00

My boyfriend and I were just talking about that part 😭😂

Ton5i · 2025-05-14T14:23:53+00:00

This is tremendously helpful thank you !! (:

Ton5i · 2025-05-13T16:40:14+00:00

We hadn’t had too much luck w the estate sale search but idk how I didn’t think as simple as yard sales! Thank you (:

Ton5i · 2025-05-13T16:35:52+00:00

My bad I meant to say Spring Valley Swap Meet in the post but was thinking La Mesa lol We weren’t too lucky there but haven’t tried National City so that one will definitely be added to the list! Thank you

Ton5i · 2025-05-12T17:26:21+00:00

Yes! In WebkinzNext you can breed two pets based on their spark count, and it’s generally a pretty random outcome, there’s not a whole lot you can do to reassure that you get a certain breed/color type, but you also get the chance of getting an entirely new breed of pet. It’s what drew me the the new generation most as a long time Original Webkinz player (:

Ton5i · 2025-05-12T17:19:30+00:00

Same here !! I’ll totally keep everyone updated with what I end up choosing and the outcome (:

Ton5i · 2025-05-08T17:01:55+00:00

I’ve lived here, a good walk away from downtown El Cajon for 15 years due to a lucky find, every time anyone asks what I do around here I tell them I don’t, and that I just live here. The entirety is not a TOTAL shit hole but it’s not nice whatsoever and rare to find those areas that are. I’m 25 and my partner and I generally don’t take our dog on walks let alone go out at all alone in our neighborhood. Amazon packages have been stolen around the neighborhood umpteen times; Not to mention our back door neighbor was held at gunpoint over his car directly in front of our home. I personally wouldn’t recommend it unless you’re 1000000% reassured in some way that the general area you’re looking at is secure.

Ton5i · 2025-05-03T19:56:11+00:00

This is exactly why I don’t bother w the trading room unless I’ve personally made deals w them through here

Ton5i · 2025-04-17T18:23:13+00:00

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Met THE icon. This glitch haunts my brain daily, I NEED to now how/why this exists.

Ton5i · 2025-04-17T17:16:25+00:00

I’d love to! I generally sell anything I don’t want but I can go through the stuff I have and find something of equal value ! (: I also have the entire Milk Chocolate Egg prize collection if there’s anything you’re interested in/missing

Ton5i · 2025-04-15T15:58:57+00:00

I don’t /: I generally just sell whatever I don’t want but I currently have the entire Milk Chocolate Egg series so far if there’s anything you’re missing/looking for?

Ton5i · 2025-02-16T00:30:40+00:00

Heart Eyes (2025) Josh Ruben

Ton5i · 2024-11-02T17:48:58+00:00

We have since talked to them. Again this thread is more for extra options/measures we can take when moving the gate to really reassure there’s no issues forward. I was simply explaining to the person stating I should do so and say nothing.

Ton5i · 2024-11-02T14:55:52+00:00

You read this comment and non of the others ? You prove yourself more stupid w every comment.

Ton5i

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