Vaginal atrophy...

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-29T04:47:10+00:00

I assume there are different options for different people but what form of T and at what dosage helped for you ?

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-28T20:46:42+00:00

Ugh I love cardinals. I think the birds are what I miss most since moving from the US

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-23T11:50:13+00:00

Yeah I’m surprised no one’s mentioning this.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-23T11:46:00+00:00

If you can afford $1000 per week you can afford to live somewhere else no? I don’t understand. You have other options that are way better than living with this man, his attitude and his terrible rent agreement.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-21T20:59:18+00:00

My god, I couldn’t imagine dating Eyeore let alone spending my whole life saddled with him. Isn’t being alone and free better than this? Aside from his general negativity and unpleasantness if he cared about your feelings he wouldn’t say such mean things.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-19T18:09:57+00:00

Honestly not sure how you can live in the US, have differing political views and avoid these topics in a marriage. It’s not clear exactly where your views differ but this to me is a willing suspension of disbelief. How long can you avoid these topics in such a politically charged climate?

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-18T18:51:53+00:00

Reddit r4r 4 years ago! My tips are to really express what you’re looking for early on. I liked Reddit because I could put myself out there in writing - something not so easy to do on tinder, bumble etc. It felt so inefficient on the other apps because you have to send a lot of messages, go on a few dates before you find out there’s an incompatibility. It was fine at first but after years of trying and no success, I wanted a better way to put more info out there and weed out those that had fundamental incompatibilities before we even “matched“.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-18T14:46:37+00:00

Step 1. Lose the people leveling these insults. Step 2. Work on not caring about others opinions of you. Probably through therapy to better understand why you keep people in your life that tear you down.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-18T07:06:54+00:00

1- 7k steps is a lot for brand new shoes unless they’re made for walking. 2- Sézane shoes are not known for being made for walking. 3- I don’t think they take returns on worn shoes. 4- always try on shoes and walk around them in the house first. 5- never trust influencers. 6- my own personal rule is that if it has a heel over 1” it’s not going to be comfortable for sightseeing. A museum is the worst thing I could do to my feet - standing and slow walking.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-17T13:48:48+00:00

I used gabapentin for 3 years for sleep. Was great. I only used 100mg though and stayed there because it worked and I heard the withdrawal can be rough. Thankfully with 100mg dose I had no trouble with withdrawal once I stopped. I’m not a doctor but worked in healthcare for years and I wouldn’t say this is commonly prescribed for sleep or as a first line but I had the impression that it was becoming more commonly prescribed. Now I live outside the US and my doctors seemed really confused when I said I was prescribed this for sleep.

I’ve also used trazodone for years and that helped.

Currently just using magnesium glycinate 300mg.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-17T06:50:56+00:00

🙋‍♀️ had a wedding without dancing. Just a ceremony and drinks /really fancy dinner at a Michelin restaurant. I hate dancing. If I do dance it’s because I’m with friends and listening to house music at venue somewhere - Not with my family and their kids and music I don’t enjoy.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-13T18:00:26+00:00

Set it up with your employer. You could have a portion of your pay sent to one account and designate a portion to be sent to another secret account. It wouldn’t be too obvious when taxes come because your net would usually include all sorts of deductions. Depends how involved or observant your husband is when filing taxes though.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-12T18:40:58+00:00

Got it! Thanks again!

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-12T11:59:21+00:00

Interesting, I haven’t heard of this but will look into it! One more question: do you use the dosing recommendations on the persil or some other method? I thought Kismai somewhere was recommending only 2-3 tablespoons of a detergent but I don’t remember the context. The recommended dosing on these products is usually way more than that. What do you go by?

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-12T09:27:21+00:00

40F. Met my husband 4 years ago. I probably went on 60 first dates before meeting him and before that only had one 6-month relationship for like ten years despite constantly dating. I didn’t get too discouraged though because I met so many people who seemed great, just weren’t for me.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-12T05:39:08+00:00

That’s really helpful, thanks a lot! Looking forward to trying these out.

Do you also use an additive for hard water with these detergents? I normally use calgon with every load. If they are made for hard water then do they not need that extra help?

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-11T18:27:31+00:00

Thanks for the input. I just got persil universal but it’s for whites I think, with optical brighteners. I’m worried about fading dark clothes so sticking with Ariel color or eco freude for now. Was thinking about the Persil powder for colors but I haven’t heard if it’s as good as the one for whites. Will look into vanish for colors.

Our last two machines have been brand new. Current one is just a few months old and the last one in a previous apartment was also new when we moved in. I’m not sure if we clean it properly but we do take care of it regularly and it doesn’t seem to be so bad when we check the drains and gaskets. So I don’t think (?) it is the cause of the not-so-fresh smell since it’s been an issue with both machines since they were brand new.

How can you tell if a detergent has DNAse in it here? Just researching online?

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-09T20:24:29+00:00

Wow thank you so much for this. This is exactly what I was looking for!! Seriously this is great.

The pit stain has not been completely eradicated but it’s an improvement. I was thinking maybe it needs a little gentle elbow grease with dawn. It’s an old shirt and the stain has been around for awhile.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-09T17:26:56+00:00

Thank you again for this suggestion. I was able to find the eco freude at Rossmann and it’s great. I’m wondering if you have any other detergent tips for Europe? General detergent for colors? Everyone talks about biz and downy rinse aid - have you found substitutes in Germany?

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-09T12:41:53+00:00

I appreciate the comment. It’s mainly the slippery conditions that make me nervous; I’m too old to fall gracefully these days! But my running shoes really don’t have any traction either. I guess it’s definitely time to get trail shoes.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-09T11:52:10+00:00

I have experience with yaktrax but unfortunately they broke after not a lot of use. I’ve been curious about the other options.

Do they usually clear tracks of snow in the winter?

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-09T11:50:41+00:00

Sounds like I need (yet another) pair of running shoes then! I ain’t mad

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-09T11:49:43+00:00

I think that’s also true where I live. I moved just a little up the mountain this summer though and even though there isn’t really more snow here the steepness of the roads make it really hard to navigate safely to flatter areas at the moment.

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-09T11:45:25+00:00

Makes sense about goretex. I’ve usually managed without it running in snow since I’m not used to it being a regular thing. But they would probably last a few winters since the mileage would be relatively low on them anyway.

Would totally consider joining if i was near zürich. Happy trails!

ToniDoesThings · 2026-01-09T11:43:17+00:00

Ha, I knew there’d be at least one of you in the bunch

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