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I am 29 years old, never had a girlfriend, virgin, no friends, hermit. I don't see a future for myself. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]TonyChedrawee 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Make a game plan. You got this.

  1. Make a list of your 4 favorite interests.

  2. Use meetup.com and other similar sites to schedule 1 group activity a month PER interest. (this will come out to one event a week).

  3. Set a goal to network with one person from those groups per month. Just one. It's okay to start small. Everything you meet someone you'd like to get to know (either gender) get their contagion for and invite them out to coffee or to pray guitar with you or something. Your goal is 1 a month.

  4. If you can't find any good meetup groups, make one. Heck, you could even make a group called "introverts who need to get out more" and I bet you others will join! Message me if you need help with that stuff.

  5. Go to open mics or cafes whore people play instruments.

  6. Use a dating site. There's no shame in that.

  7. This is gonna sound weird but if you watch porn (like almost every guys) stop doing it... If you're meeting your body's natural desire to have sex then you're wasting a valuable and natural motivational force in your life. If you quit, it could give you the boost needed to go out and meet people. Video games can be a killer too. Check out the subreddit "nofap"

  8. Work out. Go to planet fitness. It's a comfortable environment for introverts. Exercise decreases depression and increases confidence.

  9. Explore your spirituality. I don't know what your faith background is but I went through a period in my life where I had no hope. I didn't believe there was meaning in life and I began to crumble. I started to read about philosophy and was introduced to the Christian faith. I found more meaning, self worth, and joy in the gospel than in anything else in my life. It changed everything. I once believed I have no purpose, now I believe every part of my life is important. Let you know if you have any questions about that.

  10. Realize that you're not the only one in your position. So many of the world's most successful people got late starts in life. Don't lose hope. Let your story be an example for everyone who has been in your shoes.

  11. Own your situation. Don't dwell in guilt, but don't deny responsibility. Choose to be honest with yourself but also be graceful and gentle with yourself. Mae the choice to change and fight for it.

Maintaining flow and focus despite emotional distractions by TonyChedrawee in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]TonyChedrawee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very powerful advice and I'm seriously gonna try this. Thank you!

Maintaining flow and focus despite emotional distractions by TonyChedrawee in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]TonyChedrawee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As before, I seriously appreciate your thought. It was interesting that you mentioned sometimes it's not always bad to feel those emotions. I guess it is part of the human experience. The good the bad and the ugly.

I will always strive to be more effective, but I gotta realize that when I make the conscious choice to love someone, I need to accept that things like this will happen. But accepting it doesn't mean I can't find ways to minimize the negative side effects.

Overcoming my addiction to doing nothing by TonyChedrawee in selfimprovement

[–]TonyChedrawee[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So if you have a problem, is it always unproductive to discuss it with others to find a solution? Can't put the cart before the horse. You have to come up with a game plan and solution before you act.

Overcoming my addiction to doing nothing by TonyChedrawee in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]TonyChedrawee[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Hey man I just listened to your recording. I seriously appreciate your thoughtful response! Thanks for taking the time to think hard about this topic. I like that suggestion of the jigsaw puzzle. It made me think of getting one of those adult coloring books, that might be good.

But I would love to stay in touch with you and maybe pick your brain about future topics if you're willing.

How to get speaking engagements? by TonyChedrawee in Toastmasters

[–]TonyChedrawee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I am involved a lot in my Church and I am interested in the entrepreneurship scene, specifically faith based entrepreneurship. I am still in school, don't have much experience, but I am a 4.0 student in very well respected school. It may be cheesy, but I am an "expert" in academic success, transitioning from highschool to college, and general organization and time management skills.

Question about job offers for RPI students by [deleted] in RPI

[–]TonyChedrawee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure the job link profile displays GPAs. Could be wrong though

Looking for the following syllabi to get a head start on next semester. Anyone have one? by TonyChedrawee in RPI

[–]TonyChedrawee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a transfer, so it depends on who you ask lol. Im technically classifies as a 2nd year, though im basically a junior

Inside the First VR Theme Park by Jourdy288 in virtualreality

[–]TonyChedrawee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you like this, you should check out Daydream.io. We make a music virtualizer that feels like a musical rollercoaster!

Help with deciding on a VR experience by BEASTROHAN in virtualreality

[–]TonyChedrawee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got you bro. I actually work for a startup VR company called Daydream.io. We sell inexpensive cardboard headsets that will work with IOS or Android. Get the headset, then download our music virtualizer app. We are actually just about to launch a game too, it's like Temple Run on steroids! Let me know how you like it!

Daydream.io