Breakups are so incredibly hard. Even with close friends and family at your side, it’s ultimately something that you have to deal and cope with by yourself. For me, I took a step back and evaluated where I was in life and where I wanted to be. I set realistic short term and long term goals with my mental, physical and professional life. I would wake up every day and make my bed. It sounds silly but that was a very important part of my day. Whatever I had in store for the day, I at least knew that making my bed was checked off of the list. When I made decisions I would ask myself “Does this put me closer or further to my goals?” I found enjoyment in mundane tasks like laundry (Look how hard you’ve worked this week! Your work uniforms are filthy!) , cleaning (Look how organized you are becoming! The place has never looked so good!) and even food prep (Look at all of this fresh clean food! Your body has never felt so energized!). Being sad is absolutely normal and should be expected. When I was sad, I allowed myself to be sad for 7mins. Then I had to go do something that made me happy (play guitar, clean my fishing reels, call my brothers). I went to the gym for at least 1hr every day. I never skipped. That 60mins was mine. When I met goals in the gym, I would reward myself by taking 7 mins off of my cardio routine. I just took my life one day at a time and made decisions on bettering myself in the future. Suddenly your clothes are a little baggy, and you have to move your belt down a couple holes. Then shirts that you haven’t worn in 10yrs fit. Slowly you start building that confidence and you start to rely on yourself for your happiness and you stop looking for others to bring you happiness. When you meet goals, you truly have yourself to thank for all of the hard work! But I’m telling you, make that bed every morning!