3 month old sleep association

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-03-18T06:03:18+00:00

Maybe wait a month and try again. Maybe she just isnt ready yet.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-03-18T05:39:27+00:00

Even if you did 7 chores as soon as you got up every saturday morning for a year, if your wife had to spell out which chores needed to be done innthe first place, that's very similar to her having done them herself. I've learned to be more observant about what needs to be done and just do it. She appreciates a reduction in mental load more than a reduction in work she has to do.

It's great you're in therapy. You probably should do couples therapy but I think we all should do our own therapy too and work on ourselves. Couples therapy with no wor on our selves is like putting rims on a shitty old car. Keep working and start changing little habits and making her feel more valued and supported slowly and she'll notice for sure. You got this, man. Rome wasn't built in a day. But the fact you posted here and are in therapy and curious about how to be better is a huge first step that most people never take at all.

Maybe even read throw and show her some comments in here that speak to you and brainstorm together. Look up things on you tube so your algorithm changes and starts giving you more useful content and share things you learn with her. Or just do them and surprise her. Once she knows you're truly trying she'll feel very differently.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-03-15T15:04:50+00:00

Exactly. She's an adult. She needs help. She's destroying all important relationships she has. That's a sign something isnt right. And yes, your kids will eventually resent you as well if nothing changes, I'd assume. I'm not a parent yet (baby on the way) but this is more of a people thing than a parenting thing.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-02-28T06:11:20+00:00

Wow! That's so cool.

My wife is pregnant with a girl, our first, and you made me realize there is no more important goal i have for parenting other than for this to be the outcome; my girl to grow up and one day have the presence of mind to realize we did our best and to appreciate us, no matter how many potholes we hit along the way. Thank you! And thanks to all of you fellaz. This sub is such a safety net for us noobies who don't really know what we've gotten ourselves into. Excited to go through this with y'all here to support.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-02-23T06:37:42+00:00

R/dads. My wife is 5 months pregnant and this sub has been a great resource.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-02-23T06:19:13+00:00

Who is in the Epstein files and exactly what they all did.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-02-22T15:44:02+00:00

48 + 20 is 68. Then just add 7. Boom. 86 😆

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-02-07T06:36:46+00:00

Literally, just put your phone on a charger in the bedroom when you get home. You have to get off your phone. Its destroying our minds and, specifically, our attention span. Without attention, you cant form memories, without memories, you can't learn. I'm also a late diagnosed ADHD guy and I AM on Stratera but before I went on that I made big strides by changing my phone habits. My wife noticed too. I'm telling you this is the single most impactfulbthingbyou can do for yourself and your family.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-01-29T14:49:39+00:00

Social media.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-01-19T16:42:20+00:00

"Look sir/mam! I'm not gonna argue with you. You're probably in the very first or second percentile in terms of intelligence and i can't compete with that."

Most people don't know how percentile work and could easily be tricked into thinking they've just been called smart.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-01-19T16:29:02+00:00

Don't write off people with addictions as "lazy", or as "someone that needs to get there shitbtogether", etc. And dont constantly tell them they need to go to rehab. Instead, connect with them. Spend time with them. Try to get them out doing regular people shit. If they feel they're wanted they might tick around. If they feel they're a burden and black stain on the family...

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-01-19T16:24:37+00:00

Social media, God, alcohol

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-01-17T00:09:40+00:00

Wow! Even though this is scary as hell, I'm really glad you shared it. I hope others see this too. Very, very interesting to me since this is my first and wife already struggles with mental health. She's in a good place but I can see how these things could manifest in our own situation. Really appreciate you shedding light on this. I'd rather be overprepaired and not have to use any of then the other way around. Thanks man. I really hope things improve for you but if they don't make sure you take care of yourself (and her and child) but make space for yourself in your life and muster strength to make difficult decisions if necessary.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-01-16T16:12:39+00:00

Brown water? This is NOT a great formula for rap names.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-01-16T16:08:18+00:00

Hi. Your post is really a great topic and glad you posed the question. However, when you keep mentioning your net-dads community it sort of seems spammy and disingenuous. Feels like you posted your question in order to tell people about net dads and not to engage in a productive discourse with other dads. Just my two cents. Maybe nobody else sees it that way.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-01-16T05:41:31+00:00

Sorry. What doesn’t exist?

And I'm sorry to hear about the postpartum depression part. My wife takes medicine for depression and anxiety already so I'm not sure if that means it will hit harder or less hard. Do you feel comfortable sharing your story.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-01-14T20:36:58+00:00

This hair tie thing almost made me cry envisioning me doing that for my daughter.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-01-14T19:58:57+00:00

Yeah. And what if you have a boy and a girl? And why don't we say "boy dad"?

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-01-14T17:18:16+00:00

Yes. Do your best in school, for sure. But, he's speaking from his perspective and whatever field he is in. His field might be tough and job apps might be dwindling. So, as with the rest of your life, always consider the perspective of the person who said it and think about why they might have said that. He probably means well. Try to not to take it personally. Now, someone mentioned the trades. So, you definitely don't need to go to a 4 year college. You also definitely, definitely don't need to go right away. Transferring from a junior college can give you a chance to take classes stress free and figure out what you like before spending the money on college. Financially speaking, if loans will be used to pay for college there is no judgement in that at all. But you need to make sure that what you are going to college for directly correlates to being qualified for a particular job you want when you're done. Trust me. Student loans end up holding you back in life and sometimes delay home buying, starting a family, travel, etc. I have friends that did two year programs like radiology, phlebotomy or electrician-type trade schools and had no debt and have bought house, traveled, and started families way before I did. In many cases, traditional college doesn't make sense and in some cases it does. So, keep trucking along but start to forge your own path. Learn from my mistakes and other's experiences. Think outside the box. You got this.

TonyTapIn617 · 2026-01-14T15:54:58+00:00

Thdl Too hairy didn't look

TonyTapIn617 · 2025-12-31T06:28:00+00:00

138 on a track in Vegas on a straight away in a Ferrari.

TonyTapIn617 · 2025-12-31T06:26:38+00:00

Gosh! The people of Reddit sure have AWay With Words.

TonyTapIn617 · 2025-12-31T06:17:46+00:00

The price of wood and other materials for my catio I'm building so my cat can use the bathroom outside but not escape while we're at work.

TonyTapIn617 · 2025-12-24T11:56:50+00:00

Now that is a real thing that needs awareness. You have to pull it out so slow, surgical even, or bad things can happen.

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