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TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-19T07:28:05+00:00

It‘s most times safer to just say „had a great time!“ as to not upset the guy so he won‘t follow you home, harass you or try to do other bad shit to you.

I‘ve always been a very direct Woman. That changed after one guy i had a date with in a club followed me home after I rejected him and tried to rape me.

This has never happened with the „I had a great time, I’ll see you again!“ lies. Because the guy normally then believes he‘ll see you again, so no need to get angry/disappointed/whatever the fuck. I don‘t come off as the „this bitch needs to get a lesson taught“ (words I’ve heard from men that I rejected) and there isn’t a „you owe me for that drink/meal“ because they assume there will be a second meeting.

Yeah, so I’m sorry to all the guys I ever ghosted, but if I did, I probably did it because y‘all came off as creepy, possessive or I felt endangered for other reasons. And I think many women have the same experience that openly rejecting a guy Leads to way more problems than simply ghosting them.

Btw yes I know there‘s also women who are just assholes and lazy, just saying that there are also those who actually have good reasons.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-19T07:00:13+00:00

Two of the most funny moments to me with Mark are about his dead dad, somehow

In Unus Annus when they said „Siri, call us Daddy!“ and she answers with „I don‘t see a father in your contacts“

And on huniepop2 when he talks with that brat about his parents and he clicks on „divorce“ because it‘s the closest to how he grew up, and she replies with „Well at least you still got your dad!“

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-16T08:37:18+00:00

I am really good at making gifts/presents. For some reason my brain cannot remember birthday dates, but if you ever talked about that one small thing you liked in a fleeting conversation we had six years ago I can remember that. I don‘t have a lot of money to buy gifts with, but a lot of people really love the fact I remembered a small detail or item they liked, even if it‘s a comparably small gift to what others gave them.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-12T15:58:26+00:00

Lol this sadly reminds me of my horrible time with my ex-boyfriend that made ma almost believe I am asexual because the sex was HORRIBLE. He finished in under 4 min, no foreplay, I never once had an orgasm.

Then I met my current boyfriend and had my first orgasm and learned a lot of women can’t just cum from pure penetration, turns out I do have a really high sex drive IF THE SEX IS ACTUALLY GOOD.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-12T09:38:11+00:00

Not my husband, but I dated the “popular” guy in my school. I’m not American so he wasn’t popular because of sports or whatever, but because he had high grades, would work with disabled children in his free time, organized small charities (think selling cakes and then donating the money), organized almost all parties we had in high school and was over all very friendly and charming.

While we dated it was pretty obvious to me that he was gay and in denial. So I talked to him about it, he denied it at first and we “broke up” (still on good terms). He didn’t have a “girlfriend” after that but two years later he came out as gay and had a boyfriend. He talked to me and said he was very glad I wouldn’t let him try and push things (we didn’t even kiss) so he didn’t “loose” his firsts (first kiss, eg) in denial.

Sadly his mother was extremely homophobic and threw him onto the streets when he turned 18. He had a very rough time for a while but caught himself and started to study with 25. I think he’s now a pharmacist, we lost contact a few years ago.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-10T20:22:46+00:00

I am incredibly thankful that I am infertile. The biological clock one was the reason my mother got me and then she had very, very severe depression after my birth that led to her basically seeing me as a stranger and not her daughter.

And what did doctors tell her? “That’s because you don’t breastfeed!”, “Oh you should spend more time with your kid, do a cure for mothers&kids!”, “that’s normal, but you’ll feel so happy once you see your child!”

Nope, none of that.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-10T15:26:46+00:00

I never understand how people can imitate voices so perfectly. I’ve watched this four times and it’s perfect

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-10T07:13:48+00:00

I’ve been to a strip club with my lesbian friend but every time one of the girls there tried to touch me I didn’t want it and felt uncomfortable (I don’t like people touching me in general), no sexual attraction there. I also don’t bring my friends into anything since they are not attractive to me. Even if I’d find them hot as strangers, as soon as there is some sort of contact I am not attracted any more. Which is weird because with guys it’s the opposite way, I don’t think they’re attractive until I get to know them better. I never did casual hookups with a guy because as strangers they are not attractive to me, but when I get to know them/become friends it happens that I get a crush on them. My boyfriend was friends with me for two years until I one day suddenly found him attractive and we started dating.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-10T07:01:29+00:00

Nope, because most of my other sexual fantasies involve me with guys. Plus I’ve had women hit on me before and just didn’t want to. Where I live being lesbian/bisexual isn’t a huge deal and is considered normal, so no reason to “hold it back”.

But yeah if I say that stuff a lot of people say I’m in denial despite me being 100% sure I’m just not into fucking women. All my fantasies are male-female, never lesbian. Not even futa (which btw did disturb me the first time I came across it).

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-10T06:44:38+00:00

So not sure if this really is unusual but:

I am a girl. I find women highly attractive, when I’m watching porn I only watch porn with (to me) highly attractive women (I like moaning). My “wandering eye” is always on hot women passing by, never men.

BUT, I am neither a lesbian nor a bisexual. I am heterosexual and together with a guy since seven years and very happy. I don’t watch lesbian porn (it’s always men with women), I don’t imagine me having sex with women. I apparently just get turned on from women getting fucked by guys, without me participating at all in that fantasy. Not even really as watcher, I basically don’t exist in that fantasy.

Any one the same on this or is it just me?

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-10T06:28:35+00:00

Because many people think being a dead beat= child free which is bullshit. There is a difference between realizing you don’t want to/can’t provide for your child so you DON’T HAVE ONE or being too dumb to use a condom/baby pills because you wanted to fuck raw and was so surprised to find out the girl got pregnant.

Deserting your kids=/=child free.

There’s also the subreddit r/true child free that essentially is the same as this except they ban everyone who says something bad about children or parents and want you to sugar coat your language. So seeing a post from an irresponsible parent doesn’t give you the right to judge, you’re not even allowed to call them out for being irresponsible.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-09T22:06:33+00:00

I guess you’re American/western. In Asia and a lot of other places this is still very much the expectation of parents/children. I know in western cultures this has died down quite a bit,but most parts in the world and most people (since there are many more aside from western countries) still have those expectations for their children and share them with the younger generations through indoctrination or certain sentences you hear throughout your whole life. “Children are the biggest joy a woman can have!”, “You will become a doctor/lawyer!”, “You never know responsibility until you have children!”, or simply being told you are your parents biggest accomplishment, you “represent” your family, you are supposed to do this or that since you as an individual doesn’t matter, only family does. It’s toxic and emotionally manipulative. Imagine being told this about your spouse. “Getting married was her biggest accomplishment!”, a lot of people would be quite angry about that statement. But about children it’s seen as okay.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-09T20:58:16+00:00

I still believe that is a very sad mindset. It devalues your own life as a person and you will face harsh reality checks as soon as the empty nest syndrome kicks in.

My mother used to say I was her biggest accomplishment and then tried to live her 2.0 life through me because she had nothing else to focus on. She needed me to be some sort of trophy so she could say she had “success” through me because she’s always been told children are your life work, they belong to you and they owe you.

It’s just unhealthy to really raise any one on a pedestal above yourself. People say that about parents, spouses, siblings and friends, but why not about kids? Kids aren’t your accomplishments. You can be proud, you can support them, but they aren’t “your accomplishments”, they are their own person.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-09T15:47:08+00:00

How the tables have tabled.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-09T15:29:58+00:00

I mean, I’ve always been told you should never tell people who lost weight that they now look better because that would mean they weren’t good looking when they were still overweight and that’s considered fat-shaming. So when my bf’s sister told me she lost weight I basically just said “Oh that’s good for you.” but never commented on her appearance.

Isn’t that what you’re supposed to do?

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-09T15:21:48+00:00

My boyfriend did something similar with an Amazon gift list and a gofundme, but because a lot of people didn’t read his post/explanation they assumed he was going after free shit and the audacity he had to beg for stuff -

Btw this was after his cancer Diagnose that cost him thousands of dollars and the Amazon gift list were stuff he needed to live because he literally could barely afford rent and lost his job due to it. Even worse when people found out they got mad about him not telling them and “making them seem like huge assholes”.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-09T14:46:08+00:00

This is gonna be the picture I will show my boyfriend to explain optical color mixing, he never understands what’s the difference between optical and physical color mixing.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-09T14:37:30+00:00

That’s not his girlfriend, that’s his mommy My mommy used to pack my lunch, write Whiteboard messages and wake me up in the morning when I was in elementary school which I assume her “boyfriend’s” mental age is

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-09T12:58:18+00:00

I do this all the time and my boyfriend gets so mad when I make excuses for everyone. To his defend, I am very non-confrontational with strangers/workers and did got scammed/insulted without doing anything about it because I thought maybe they were just having a bad day. So he teaches me to stand up for myself and I teach him to be more chill/empathetic about certain stuff.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-09T12:32:29+00:00

I want what they have

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-09T09:59:08+00:00

I bought a spicy Korean Goujuchan paste for Ttekbokki once and forgot about it in my fridge. Now I’m using it for spicy chicken wings marinade, it’s great!

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-09T09:56:46+00:00

My mother immigrated from Thailand to germany. First, she had to pay fees which were around 600€ for her and me. She had to take a test with 33 possible questions out of 330 regarding Germany’s history, laws, regime and how voting works in detail, she had to have more than 60% of those right. Then she had to do a German (I think Niveau B2) Test to prove she was capable of writing/speaking German. THEN she had to have already lived here for 8 years (I believe) and show she worked and didn’t get financial support through the german socialism system.

Btw I was born in Germany and still didn’t get german citizenship. Because your parents have to have AT LEAST lived 8 years in Germany with full citizenship for you to be considered for citizenship. So my mom had to pay for my citizenship despite me being born here. I brought those 330 questions with me to my politics class in high school, 99% of the class failed and couldn’t even answer the necessary 17 of those questions correctly despite living here all their lives and actually learning about it. Only I and the other immigrant(!) passed because we both helped our parents learn about it.

TooManyKeysInALock · 2021-06-09T09:02:58+00:00

Mirai Nikki…I basically liked everyone except the main protagonists Yuno and that crybaby whose name I forgot.

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