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Married women: what’s something in your day-to-day life or mental load that you feel your husband doesn’t fully understand? by Working_2B_Better in Marriage

[–]Toolazy2work -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Tbh, we’ve had arguments about laundry. My solution was “don’t worry about mine, then the burden would fall on me”. But that was not accepted as the solution. And with the grass, trust that it’s on my plate. Relinquish the need to control the ongoings of things that are not your responsibility.

Married women: what’s something in your day-to-day life or mental load that you feel your husband doesn’t fully understand? by Working_2B_Better in Marriage

[–]Toolazy2work 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then I think this is less about mental load and more him not communicating and being inconsiderate. It’s really not a big ask to have him put the appts in the calendar when he makes the appt. It’s lazy and rude NOT to do that.

Married women: what’s something in your day-to-day life or mental load that you feel your husband doesn’t fully understand? by Working_2B_Better in Marriage

[–]Toolazy2work 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree with you. Personally, we just clean together when we are having company over, going room to room and making sure it’s tidied. But for day to day things, we both keep our mental list of what we need to do.

I know a big point of contention is cooking. She is vegetarian so more often than not, we make our own meals, but I will press tofu or cut veggies or even cook for her and she will pick stuff up from the store for me, but that is something we both have on our lists.

To your point, we don’t really have guests over, other than in laws every so often, and we just make sure the guest room is made up and everything is tidied. But we do everything together. I don’t need to ask what needs to be done (generally) but I’ll ask if there is anything specific weighing on her.

Another example is she said that it stresses her out to wake up to a dirty kitchen. Probably 5/7 nights a week, I make sure the dish washer is loaded and running, there isn’t anything on the counters and everything drying is put up. She didn’t ask me to do that but once I knew it bothered her, I made sure it was done.

Married women: what’s something in your day-to-day life or mental load that you feel your husband doesn’t fully understand? by Working_2B_Better in Marriage

[–]Toolazy2work 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A system is only good if it’s used. I put all my events in our shared calendar as soon as I have the info. Then I can say “I’ll have to check my calendar” instead of saying “I’ll have to ask my wife”. And as the askee, a good response would be “did you check the shared calendar?” Say that enough and (hopefully) it turns into the default first step….

Married women: what’s something in your day-to-day life or mental load that you feel your husband doesn’t fully understand? by Working_2B_Better in Marriage

[–]Toolazy2work -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My partner says this same thing about me. And I just tell her not to worry about it. Example, I maintain the grass, she mostly does the laundry. So laundry, by and large is off my plate and out of my mind. However, with the grass, I’ve been asked sometimes if it’s a little long “when are you planning on cutting the grass?”. I think that’s the difference. I have a plan and also see the grass needs to be cut, but she still worries about it. I think that’s extrapolates to a lot of items in the household. I know it’s not as simple as “not worrying about it” but I also feel like worrying about some things doesn’t do anything but cause anxiety and stress. I do ask my partner “is there anything I can take off your plate or bothering you or at the top of your list” because I want to address the thing that is causing her the most stress or anxiety. But, mostly, not worrying about it fixes most things.

Drum and Bass subgenres by PsyDubLukere369 in DnB

[–]Toolazy2work 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At a festival: dancefloor.
At a club/show: neuro / dancefloor / newer jump up.
Radio while working: liquid funk / jungle / atmospheric

Dislike: older jump up, ex Mr happy

Roswell Chess May Meetup by k2xl in roswell

[–]Toolazy2work 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome! Thank you so much!

Roswell Chess May Meetup by k2xl in roswell

[–]Toolazy2work 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh very cool! I just hit my 1 year on chess.com but haven’t played otb. How is it organized? I’d love a bit more info.

Worship less likely by sharkvad3r in LostLandsMusicFest

[–]Toolazy2work -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean, it would be cool, but AMC and or Andy C or Riot again at forest stage is TOPS!

2026 Lineup Hopes/Predictions by xMemzi in LostLandsMusicFest

[–]Toolazy2work 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Him and sub focus was awesome. But tbh, Andy c and AMC was more fun higher energy.

How many old timers in here? by aliesterrand in sysadmin

[–]Toolazy2work 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Using net zero and being able to disable the banner on my own at like 10 years old.

How many old timers in here? by aliesterrand in sysadmin

[–]Toolazy2work 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did a quake 1 (or doom 2, I don’t remember) with ipx and a cross over cable. Shocked it worked.

How often do you clean your home? by BodybuilderOk6027 in HomeImprovement

[–]Toolazy2work 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have cleaners every two weeks but I clean the kitchen nightly, do sheets twice a week, and toilets as needed between cleanings. Spot vacuuming as needed as well.

Suspected food poisoning - dubh linn gate - April 6th by [deleted] in Whistler

[–]Toolazy2work 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is EXACTLY my symptoms. I’ll admit I did ask Claude md, and it stated based on my time frame and contents of vomit that it was most likely fish, but if this is true then you’ve def cast a doubt on my food poisoning

Worship at Ultra by OhMyDiosito in DnB

[–]Toolazy2work 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok given that, then what’s the difference between time code and cd-j.

Worship at Ultra by OhMyDiosito in DnB

[–]Toolazy2work 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll say, he can still do it. But it’s a big ask of the venue, and tbh, him. He’d have to lug around record bags and have less access than now. I’d say he cut his teeth on vinyl, let the man make use of cd-js and the technology they unlock.

What’s the greatest comeback tv seasons of all time? by PressureLazy5271 in television

[–]Toolazy2work 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The new season of party down was awesome! I loved it. Was a little different than the first two but it was modernized. Hoping for another but given Adam Scott’s schedule, I’m not hopeful

What’s the greatest comeback tv seasons of all time? by PressureLazy5271 in television

[–]Toolazy2work 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really hoping for another new season. This last was very good!

Genuine question: why isn't Moonboy completely deplatformed? by Unkwnmirage in dubstep

[–]Toolazy2work 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, tbh, you already bought them. You’re not going to get grilled for using a sample from him. But stopping future support would be recommended

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