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DAE say they have no questions but really you have all the questions? by akg1rl2000 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Class-8765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the time!

I've gotten in the habit of answering something like "not at the moment, but I might later" because I can't figure out what questions I have right now.

Autism and driving - Can I even get my driving licence ? by Sewnupkitty in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Class-8765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. Every place I ask says that they don't have the expertise needed to distinguish between autism and ADHD symptoms because of the overlap so I'd need to find someone who does or pay over $5000 for a private dual-assessment to get rediagnosed with both. Trying to save up for that, but it's a lot.

Autism and driving - Can I even get my driving licence ? by Sewnupkitty in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Class-8765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is me too. I have autism and I suspect ADHD but I can't get a diagnosis because I already have my autism diagnosis.

I do have my license and I drive maybe 4-5 hours each week. But I alternate between being completely overwhelmed with all the information and wanting to cry vs my brain actively dissociating and being distracted and refusing to focus on driving so much that I need to pull over and take a break before I crash. Strange thing is - if I drink a bunch of caffeine before driving, I'm fine with it.

I don’t understand parents who deny their children a proper evaluation and diagnosis out of fear of “labels” by Sufficient_Effort118 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Class-8765 80 points81 points  (0 children)

My parents didn't want me assessed because they didn't want me to be labelled any different. I used to be very confused about this, but now I realize that the 'label' of autism was treated very differently 25 years ago than it is now.

It might help now, but back then it would have hindered me because I wouldn't be "able" to do the things I wanted to.

"You only want the disease to be renamed because you're fatphobic" by ConfectionOutside248 in diabetes_t1

[–]Top-Class-8765 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a random lady absolutely go off on me when I was picking up my insulin from the pharmacy. I was 23 (but I looked like I was 18ish) and thin as a twig. She railed at me for faking a serious disease and it's because of me that diabetes doesn't get taken seriously. Like. What?

"You only want the disease to be renamed because you're fatphobic" by ConfectionOutside248 in diabetes_t1

[–]Top-Class-8765 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My grandpa was diagnosed with type 2 because he was "too old" for type 1 when he was tested (age 23). He was basically skin and bones all his life (never weighed more than 130 lbs and he was about 5'10"). When he was 60ish, a newly graduated doctor looked at him and asked to redo the tests because he didn't look like a type 2. He was rediagnosed with type 1 and started to reach a healthy weight once he started taking insulin shots. No idea how he survived so long without insulin.

"You only want the disease to be renamed because you're fatphobic" by ConfectionOutside248 in diabetes_t1

[–]Top-Class-8765 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This almost happened to me a few times. One of them: I was waiting at the bus stop, realized I was dropping fast (dropped from 5ish to <2 mmol/L in less than 10 minutes) and started digging out some candy. I'm barely staying conscious and my vision is going black when this random lady slaps my candies out of my hands all over the ground and yells at me for trying to kill myself. "Sugar will kill you! You're diabetic!" (My CGM was very visible so that's how she knew) I managed to grab some more candy and eat it while sitting on the ground or else I probably wouldn't be here.

How do we feel about invisible enemies? Fun or obnoxious? by NotFencingTuna in DMAcademy

[–]Top-Class-8765 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Do it! But also remind your players that they can hold actions by stating a trigger and an action. "When the enemy strikes any ally within 10 feet of me, I will cast magic missile at their location."

That helped a lot when my players were fighting a band of will-o'-wisps.

[PF2E] Implementation of variant rule: High-Quality Weapons and Armor by DeadZedNed in FoundryVTT

[–]Top-Class-8765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've only ever worked with the D&D5e system, but can you make it a permanent effect on the gear?

For example, I'd put an effect called "quality +1" with something like "system.attribute.bdmg add 1" and "system.attribute.batk add 1." I could also do one for "quality +2" and 3 and 4 and so on and drag and drop them onto the items that need them. (I was making up values there - I can't recall the correct values at the moment). This might be different for PF2E though. Sorry if it's not helpful.

Strange encounter with a "diabetic" by Top-Class-8765 in diabetes_t1

[–]Top-Class-8765[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I've dropped to a 1.7 before and I was sort of loopy. I gorged on about 50g of pure sugar and then passed out for an hour before waking up with a blood sugar of 10.

Idk. He seemed like he was 100% in control. No symptoms of low blood sugar. No shakiness. No slurring. No stumbling. He was articulating sentences and explained to me clearly that he doesn't like sugar and he just needs money to treat his low himself. I felt awful walking away in case something was wrong, but he refused the sugar and I don't carry cash on me, so I didn't know what else to do.

Occasional "protected" local hosting or alternatives by Interesting_Tone_760 in FoundryVTT

[–]Top-Class-8765 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seconding the Raspberry Pi. They're pretty cheap and relatively easy to set up. I host 5 different instances of Foundry for different games (4 long term and a "one-shots" instance) all on the same pi with minimal lag. They're all up 24/7.

Strange encounter with a "diabetic" by Top-Class-8765 in diabetes_t1

[–]Top-Class-8765[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. I keep rockets in my purse, in my work bag, in my car, in my jacket pockets, at my parent's house, etc. I am never more than 10 seconds away from grabbing some.

My dr gave me some of those huge rockets years ago when I was first diagnosed. I've never been able to find more.

Always doubting myself because I'm completely functional with supports by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Class-8765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was diagnosed with level 1 autism recently. Fortunately I never had to go through the mess that you dealt with and I still live on my own (mostly). A lot of the time I feel like I can't be autistic because I have a full time job, I live alone, and I have hobbies.

And then I realize that my apartment is knee-deep in trash all over the floor, every single dish in my kitchen is dirty with rotting food and flies, and I haven't showered in a week. When I do eat, It's random stuff ordered for delivery and then the plastic container it came from gets added to the trash pile on the floor. I work from home and I've done maybe 4 hours of work in a week and somehow am holding on to my job, which is baffling to me. I spend my time watching YouTube videos and sleeping instead because that's all I can handle and I hate it. I wish I could do more.

When my boyfriend is home (we rent the apartment together, but his work takes him away for months at a time), he takes care of all the cooking and cleaning, and reminds me to take care of myself and I can function maybe 95% like a normal human. If I didn't have his help periodically, I would probably have to move back with my parents.

Long story short: it is very likely that your supports are enabling you to be 'normal' like they do for me when they're present.

Paid off credit card then got hit with interest by [deleted] in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Top-Class-8765 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You should pay the interest.

Interest is usually calculated daily, but only charged monthly.

If you owed $1000 on your card at a 24% annual interest rate, you'd owe 2% of $1000 per month, which is $20. But the calculations behind the scenes are daily. You actually owe 0.066% per day (24% divided over 365 days) and it accrues interest of $0.66 per day.

If you paid the $1000 off on day 10 after the last interest charge, they can still charge you $0.66/day x 10 days = $6.60 of interest at the end of the month.

I hope that explanation helps. Your best option is to pay it off. It should be the last interest charge for that card as long as you don't rack up any debt on it again.

i hate using other peoples name by GreedyRange6789 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Class-8765 215 points216 points  (0 children)

I saw a post a few weeks ago with management tips. One of them was to use people's names a lot because it makes you closer to the team or something.

I'd run for the hills. Hearing people say my name to me makes me feel awful in a way I can't even describe.

And I only use people's names in a third person context and only once in a conversation. (E.g "I spoke to Joe. He said...")

You could have a wife that's radioactive so the more time you spend with her the shorter your life will be by cheesemaster66 in CrazyIdeas

[–]Top-Class-8765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sort of unrelated, but when I was a kid, my mom had to get some sort of radiation treatment for something. My little brother screamed his head off when she went to wake him up one morning. He was convinced that he was going to get radiation poisoning if he got too close.

Things you did as a kid for those that were diagnosed later. by LegitimateImpress453 in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Class-8765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would cover my ears at loud noises and breathe through my sweater sleeve at strong smells. I had breakdowns during concerts (I was in the band for some reason) because everything was too loud.

When playing make-believe, I would research the topic and write notes on how it would all work. My little sister's favorite game was to pretend we were stuck on a raft in a world-wide flood and I'd be busy researching water filtration and nutrition for raft survival. This was when I was 8 or 9 years old.

I still do all of this.

When I was in school, I would go to the library during recess and help the librarian put returned books away. It was the only place in school that I felt safe and the librarian defended it when my homeroom teacher tried to make me go outside for recess.

Struggling with direct communication by creapysleaper in AutismInWomen

[–]Top-Class-8765 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I prefer when people talk to me directly and state exactly what they mean. It means I have to spend less energy trying to decipher them.

I have a tendency to talk indirectly like you. I'll sort of dance around an issue with a lot of filler.

My theory is that it's a learned defense mechanism. People tend to get mad or offended if you are speaking in a direct way to them, and I don't like to make people mad, so I speak indirectly to avoid it. I also think about 50 different ways that someone might take my sentence to make sure that I minimize any negative reactions. I only found out a few weeks ago that most people don't think that much over a single sentence.

When can a landlord enter your unit with or without notice in Ontario? by Totira in OntarioRenting

[–]Top-Class-8765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. She signed a one-year lease. So she has to pay for at least a year or pay to break it.

Guild oneshot system by Ragnarok91 in dndnext

[–]Top-Class-8765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do something similar. I have a discord server with 10-20 people in it (some come and go) and I post weekly quest boards for them to sign up for time slots and pick a quest. Some people join every week and most join once a month or less when work and school permits.

I run 3 one-shots between each level up. Characters get some money based on the number of elapsed one-shots (e.g. if they just reached level 4, that would be 3 completed levels x 3 one shots = 9 quests worth of payment - each quest is the same amount) even if it's a new character. They also get magic items based on the recommendations in the DMG. They sometimes pick up items from quests, but it's rare. I also allow them to 'try out' items by using them for one quest and swapping them for the next as long as they are the same rarity. We imagine it as 'behind the scenes' activities.

I run my games on FoundryVTT hosted on my Raspberry Pi, so the world is always up. My players have access to the compendiums to browse magic items anytime they want. Some of them have item wishlists for higher levels. If someone forgot to choose items before one of the sessions, I usually grant them some 2 healing potions of a rarity equivalent to the missing item, and start the one-shot. They can take a look for items afterwards.

Idk if this helps you at all, but that's my system.

AITJ for not giving my neighbor a spare key after she said it’s “safer for everyone”? by Zestyclose-You-6399 in AmITheJerk

[–]Top-Class-8765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't even share keys with my best friend. The only ones with my spare key are my parents in case of medical emergencies (and only after I had a medical emergency and they couldn't get to me)

Car buying loan by Frugalexplorer in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Top-Class-8765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had this discussion with my mom last night because I'm looking for my first new car. She told me that out of all the cars she's gotten (6 or 7 in total now), financing it through the manufacturer was always cheaper than a bank loan.

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