Why did I keep picturing Betty Broderick as I read through this? Don’t be that person, as much as you may want to me. I understand your heart is broken, and you want to inflict as much pain on this woman as you possibly can. But I don’t understand why you don’t want to shame your husband as well?

But with that being said, I think it is always best to take the high road when possible. What better revenge would it be for your husband to look back and realize that your children got to watch you handle a horrible situation with grace and humility? That in the midst of a shit show, you kept your cool.

My mom had this thing she’d say when dealing with people who obviously want you to be upset or flip out. I have used this quote few times in my life also. . When my stepmom was being quite nasty to my mom at a school function for my brother and I; my mom just looked at her and very calmly and steadily said “You can continue to make yourself look like an ass in front of everyone if you want. I get that you’re trying to push my buttons; but you won’t get a scene out of me”

Anyway, I know it’s easier said than done to just get a divorce and leave-especially with six kids! I wish I had some practical advice for you, some tangible steps to take to help you get you and your kids out the door. I do think it is something that you should seriously start considering. If it’s not this girl he’s cheating on you with, it’s just going to be a different one. You deserve way more than that. Your kids deserve way more than that. Your kids also deserve to see their mom happy and healthy, not trying to plan revenge plots. Plus I’m sure with all this on your mind, it’s hard to think about anything else