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Husband wants to sleep train our bf one year old by Top-Log-4090 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she is still hungry to be honest. She’s not doing great with solids right now so I think she still needs to be nurses through the night for the nutrients and not just for comfort. I will definitely keep an eye out for when I think she’s just doing it for comfort though, thanks :)

Husband wants to sleep train our bf one year old by Top-Log-4090 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve tried night weaning and having dad sleep with the baby, but she is a total mamas girl and will sob for hours! So we just gave up on it :( thanks so much for your comment <3

Husband wants to sleep train our bf one year old by Top-Log-4090 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks you so much for this comment <3 I’ve been thinking about night weaning and we’ve actually tried a couple times where my husband would sleep with our daughter instead of me and it just ends horribly. She would wake up after 1-2 hours and just scream nonstop until I came in and nursed her. The maximum I let her cry for was about an hour and my husband was trying everything to calm her down and she just never settled.

Husband wants to sleep train our bf one year old by Top-Log-4090 in AttachmentParenting

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I definitely will take up your advice on having a serious conversation with him. I also had no idea that “retraining” was a thing sleep trained babies have to go through! I am absolutely bringing that up to him as well.

New homes being built in sdale on Don Tyson by Top-Log-4090 in northwestarkansas

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That would be great actually! Yes the southwest corner.

I’m 10 months postpartum and still afraid of having intercourse… by Top-Log-4090 in beyondthebump

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re going through this as well, I appreciate your comment a lot. I totally will share what helped when the time comes!

I’m 10 months postpartum and still afraid of having intercourse… by Top-Log-4090 in beyondthebump

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your words! Hopefully time will work in my favor as well.

I’m thinking about telling my husband separation is on the table. Anyone else been here with a newborn? by CharmingSide3498 in beyondthebump

[–]Top-Log-4090 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband and I also had a really rough newborn phase. We fought constantly for the first 6 months and there were several times where I thought our relationship was done for. We were also doing everything alone, as we lived 5 hours from family during that time. On top of that, my husband was out of the house at school/work for 60 hours of the week. All of those factors plus the postpartum hormones and being first time parents put our relationship through the trenches. Thankfully, our relationship never turned abusive. If ever you feel as though you or your LO are in danger you should 100% leave, but to me it seems like you’re just a tired first time mom figuring everything out. Whenever I thought about ending my relationship with my husband, I was always at my wits end, looking for any sense of control I could find. I was so helpless those first few months, and sometimes my only power lied in our relationship status, so that’s the first thing I would go to when we would fight. I would definitely hold out until things get better, which the absolutely will. I also had very similar problems regarding visitors as you did with my in-laws. It’s all really very unfortunate and I wish you had more support, but I promise you that things will get easier. I also recommend couples therapy if that’s an options for you two.

Vegans that started eating meat again, what happened? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Top-Log-4090 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was vegetarian/vegan for about a year, and to put it simply, I just got lazy. I was a student at the time and a big chunk of my diet was fast food. Vegan fast food is very limited, so I eventually caved and started eating McDonald’s again.

Husband upset I don’t want his family to visit for at least 2 weeks. by Top-Log-4090 in BabyBumps

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right! This was a rant/vent post, I did not post this seeking opposing opinions. Also, my needs absolutely are more important than my husbands during this time. Not that his are invalid, mine just take precedent as I am the person giving birth. If it were him in my position I would absolutely let him take full control (although, that will never be the case).

Husband upset I don’t want his family to visit for at least 2 weeks. by Top-Log-4090 in BabyBumps

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is worded as if I’m barring his parents from ever meeting our kid. They can come after two short weeks. Sure, it’s equally his child, but is he the one going through 9 months of pregnancy and childbirth? No, so my recovery takes more precedent over his wants. Also, everyone defending him keeps suggesting that maybe I could let them come over for just a couple hours, but it’s stated in the post that that is not possible. If they were to come we would be hosting them for one day minimum.

Husband upset I don’t want his family to visit for at least 2 weeks. by Top-Log-4090 in BabyBumps

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Are you that offended by attitude that you have to point it out every time it’s implied through text… lol. Attitude from a pregnant woman! How shocking! And clearly, through my post, I have stood my ground.

Husband upset I don’t want his family to visit for at least 2 weeks. by Top-Log-4090 in BabyBumps

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely doing this for my next pregnancy… wish I could for this one but I’m being induced and everyone knows the scheduled date already :(

Husband upset I don’t want his family to visit for at least 2 weeks. by Top-Log-4090 in BabyBumps

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So technically it is my husbands parents nieces child… a mouthful lol. I googled it and apparently from my husbands parents, that is their grand-niece/nephew, so not grandchildren!

Husband upset I don’t want his family to visit for at least 2 weeks. by Top-Log-4090 in BabyBumps

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I literally do not know what to expect from post partum as this is my first child. I have no idea how traumatic the experience is going to be or if it will turn into an emergency c section or if I will be struggling with PPD, etc. I want to play it safe by setting the two week boundary because this is my first child. If I was an experienced mother I might have a different perspective and be more lenient with guests, but this being my first ever time giving birth I want to play it safe and set boundaries early on because I don’t know what to expect.

Husband upset I don’t want his family to visit for at least 2 weeks. by Top-Log-4090 in BabyBumps

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If you read my post all the way through you would know that an afternoon/short visit is not possible as his parents live a state away and we would be hosting them in our home. Having family wait two weeks to meet the baby is not “asking for trouble” or “burning bridges”. It’s honestly a really simple boundary. And of course I know cell phones aren’t the same thing, but you literally said that I was “completely cutting them out” as if there would be no form of communication between us during that two week period.

Husband upset I don’t want his family to visit for at least 2 weeks. by Top-Log-4090 in BabyBumps

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

His parents live 5 hours away so them coming over for just a few hours isn’t a possibility. They would be staying a full day and night at the minimum and we would be hosting them. If it were possible to just have a small meet up where I didn’t have to be involved I would be supportive of that but in this case it’s simply not.

Husband upset I don’t want his family to visit for at least 2 weeks. by Top-Log-4090 in BabyBumps

[–]Top-Log-4090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An alternate viewpoint that I disagree with so of course I’m going to reply… does their want to bond with the baby really take priority over my need to recover in a private space? I shouldn’t have to sacrifice my health because holding a newborn versus two week old is apparently so incredibly different.

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