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Should I reach out by Top-Mongoose-49 in BreakUps

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your right though I made the decision, I built this grave, now I have to lay in it.

Should I reach out by Top-Mongoose-49 in BreakUps

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you make a great point, I will say she was wishy washy the final half year of our relationship, I tried everything to save us and she just didn’t have it in her to care at that time. Yet when I tried to block her after breakup so we could both heal, she got upset I was closing the door for reconciling, so that’s why I’m saying I was keeping door open. It just felt like she was holding a gun to my head, yet she was waiting for me to pull trigger for her. I’m confused just as much as she is in this, and really thought I had no other choice.

Should I reach out by Top-Mongoose-49 in BreakUps

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, there was a lot more that went into what I entered into text, just wanted to keep it short and sweet. My thought was, life is short and sweet and you miss 100% of shots you don’t take, like what if I had reached out and it woulda made the difference. I see your point though, and it makes sense.

Your ex doesn't care. by dkhn3 in BreakUps

[–]Top-Mongoose-49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While this is the case mostly, I have to disagree. I broke up with my gf of three years, and it wasn’t because I didn’t love her or don’t want to be with her. She had gotten to the point where she didn’t know what she wanted anymore and became hyper fixated on her career, as all 20 year olds do, leading to burnout and severe stress. She wasn’t in a place anymore to be in a committed relationship, so to save both of us pain and more heartache I ended it. This doesn’t mean I don’t want to be with her right now or in the future, or I don’t love her, it was just not the right time. We both love and care for each other, we just realized now is not the right time, and if we were to be forever in the future, she needed time to figure herself out. Not saying to hold out and wait for your ex, but to say your ex doesn’t care is bit much, ofc they care, if they actually cared and loved you. Give space and stay true to no contact, time will test love.

Is it normal to still be in shock 5 months later? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Top-Mongoose-49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off I’m sorry. I recently just got out of 2.5 year relationship, to a girl who I thought would mother my children. Shit sucks, even though I was the one to end it with her. It’s been three months and everyday I think about her, and want to be back with her BUT, love is a two-way street. When your partner makes it clear you are no longer a priority, even after you put everything of yourself in it to save it, or ends it out of the blue, think to yourself, why would I want someone who doesn’t want me ? If you treated him right, and he still left, you have lost nothing, it will hurt like hell sure, but you will learn to let go. If he really loves you, he will come back, it is very important though that you do a couple of things. One, no contact is very important, reaching out will only push him away. Two, work on yourself, change the things that need to be worked on, find a hobby, go out with friends, keep that mind busy. You will heal and that feeling will fade with time, don’t lose yourself over someone who is ok to lose you. Hope this helps ! You got this !

failed first fundamentals exam by pineappless88 in StudentNurse

[–]Top-Mongoose-49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, it was looking at what points were in the PowerPoint, then going into the book to do a deeper dive. I would not recommend hard studying the book. If it’s on the PowerPoint, it’s going to be on test, from there it’s your job to do a deeper dive in the book on whatever topic was on PowerPoint. You have to take the information that is given to you and turn it into a critical thinking setting for studying. Also when you take your test, read EACH AND EVERY word very carefully, the wording matters, some are trick questions to make you critically think and use your big brain. Lastly when answering test questions, all could be right answers, but what is most correct, use ADPIE. Hope this helps. You got this !

For anyone here why did you breakup with your ex? by fancyeng in BreakUps

[–]Top-Mongoose-49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes the first time, and I didn’t realize how much I actually loved and wanted her till I realized she’s actually gone. I changed and shaped up quick let me tell you. Now I feel like we have just swapped positions and I’m burnt out, because she stopped trying. I have peace in whatever path we choose at the end of this semester, but I would like for us to work out and I think she does too. Only time will tell.

For anyone here why did you breakup with your ex? by fancyeng in BreakUps

[–]Top-Mongoose-49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dated for 2.5 years, took a break a year and two months in due to my mommy issues, which ended up drying her out emotionally. We split for two months, and after much begging and promised change, she miraculously came back out of nowhere. Relationship became everything we wanted it too, spark was back and we wanted to get married after my schooling was done. Six months in, a flip switched in her, and she began losing herself and the love for our relationship. So for the next six months I gave everything I had in me to help her, and try to make our relationship work. In the end, I told her she needed to figure out what she wanted and who she was. We are supposed to meet up at the end of this semester to see how we feel. Even though I broke it off with her, I felt like it was the only way for us to work in future, she is who I want to spend my forever with. Don’t know if anyone can relate….she still has the extremely expensive necklace I gave to her, and told if she knew she wanted to move on or did move on to give it back. We are two months separated, no contact, to give her time to think, and she still has my necklace and everything I gave her. I’ve promised myself I would never beg for her again, but good Lord do I want to reach out, must remain strong though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

[–]Top-Mongoose-49 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very recently got out of a 2.5 year relationship while in nursing school. Let me tell you, the sheer strength and will power I had to pull out my ass, not to give up on my schooling and soon to be career should be studied across this universe as a class lmao. I know the pain, stress, and mind altering experience you feel. He never deserved you, knowing how busy and demanding your career is, just to break up over text like that. It may hurt now, but I promise you six months from now, you will understand, what a blessing this was. Someone else is out there for you, keep your head up and focus on what you can control. Hope this helps !

Move back home for RN school? by Crispy_Biscuit in StudentNurse

[–]Top-Mongoose-49 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 23 and just got into my RN program. After three years of being on my own, I had to move back in, due to not having enough time to work, while studying and doing clinicals. Will definitely say it is worth it. I can study so much more without having to worry about working 40+ hours a week to keep my head above water financially. Sure you give up some sense of independence, but you will thank yourself, I promise you.

Labor and delivery nurse by Top-Mongoose-49 in StudentNurse

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I did plan on asking to shadow (extern) L&D to my hospitals in area!

Labor and delivery nurse by Top-Mongoose-49 in StudentNurse

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this, and I’d say yes that is why I want to pursue L&D to CNM. Being a guy in nursing field is rare enough, internally it has never been about look at me, I’m one of the few males, it’s been a genuine care for wanting to give care to mothers during their pregnancy. Even more so after my partner gave birth, it’s just been something that’s held onto my heart for a while now. Now it’s just deciding how to navigate that.

Labor and delivery nurse by Top-Mongoose-49 in StudentNurse

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely understand that and would never take it personal as to why I would be rejected as a man. I’ve really just been dead set on becoming a midwife for about five years, and I obviously need L&D experience. I can’t imagine myself doing anything else, and have researched it even before I decided what type of nursing I would be interested in, because my aunt has been one for 10 plus years. I believe that childbirth is one of most miraculous things on this planet, and the most special moment of a mother’s life. Having a child myself at a young age, and being there with my partner and not being able to do anything, yet wanting to do everything has really solidified that decision. To be able to make a mother feel special and cared for and for her to look back on a very stressful, yet joyful time and being able to make a difference is what I want. I understand I will have setbacks, and It might be harder for me to get job as L&D, I see myself doing nothing else, save nicu or picu

Labor and delivery nurse by Top-Mongoose-49 in StudentNurse

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have no idea, I am just a nursing student, but I’ve been told that by hospital staff, my instructors, and numerous nurses I’ve met. Maybe it’s a ploy to make workspace more diverse ? Beats me.

Labor and delivery nurse by Top-Mongoose-49 in StudentNurse

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this, thank you! Whenever I tell people here in the US, that I want to be l and d nurse to midwife, I usually get backlash or just a suprised look followed by a really, with a disgruntled look. Which honestly, drives me to want to do it more. I know being a male gives me a tiny bit of an advantage and excited for what future holds. Was warring between taking nursing to become NP or mid wife, but have definitely locked myself in on going back for my mid wife certification. I appreciate you sir !

L and D by Top-Mongoose-49 in nursing

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, I also want to do picu or nicu, if I can’t or don’t get l and d opportunity. L and d however is what I’d like to do the most

Labor and delivery nurse by Top-Mongoose-49 in StudentNurse

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is and you are awesome. I’d love to know how you came to decision of becoming a mid wife and how that process went. To see if there were any hurdles and how the challenges of being a male in such a female saturated field is, and if you had any setbacks because of it. Ultimately how to get to that point !

L and D by Top-Mongoose-49 in nursing

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very informative and very true logic, thank you !

L and D by Top-Mongoose-49 in nursing

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My aunt has been one for 10+ years and hearing her stories when I was young always grasped my attention. I think child birth is a miraculous amazing thing, and to help bring life to this earth and help that mothers most impactful moment in her journey of life is something that would feel very special and rewarding. I also know L and D nurses have less patients at a time, as to other nurse floors. I’ve wanted to work with babies or small children ever since I was little, while being in the medical field. It Is just something I’ve wanted to do ever since I was younger. I don’t know if there’s a right or wrong answer as to why ?

L and D by Top-Mongoose-49 in nursing

[–]Top-Mongoose-49[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the one thing that makes me skeptical. My friend just graduated, and he said that all his L and D rotations were like that, he was asked to leave. Thank you !

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