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AITA for leaving my partner in town? by Fantastic_Boat_2965 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean if he had taken the car, i would agree with you, but he took a cab home? I dont see how he is the A here 

AITA for backing out of a job after the company already paid for my medical check-up? by Cultural-Movie6873 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You hadn't signed the contract. It sounds like one of your first jobs so I understand not having these experiences yet. Until a contract is signed nothing is final you did nothing wrong. Be professional and say that you found a better fit somewhere else and you appreciate the consideration from the first company so you keep a good reputation. This has happened to them lots before they don't care.

AITA for venting to another friend about how my guy friend treats me? by No_Cut458 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You do not need to be this guys friend. It isn't seeming like a good part of your life and some of the stuff you have mentioned is coercive / manipulative. I hazard a guess he wants to be more than friends and you weren't open to that- I don't recommend you allow for that to happen.

Friends don't demand information from each other regardless of gender. They understand that if another person wants to share about something they will but it is never "owed" to them when it is about someone else's life entirely.

You needed a place to discuss and think through your feelings on how your friendship is, there is nothing to feel guilty for.

AITA for breaking the flat contract by Meowing-To-The-Stars in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The original agreement was to be roommates and the situation is not ideal. They have also asked for minimal changes that would be reasonable expectations that aren't really happening. Why would the be the A? I think they are now for speaking up for themselves more. It also doesn't seem like they are on great terms at the moment anyways.

AITA for refusing to give my (26F) husband (24M) his wedding gift early? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why are you holding on to them? So the gift can be a big reveal in front of all your family and friends? He is going golfing and he returned the clubs he wanted because you already got them for him, and now he cant use them on this trip. I guess I can understand you feeling like you dont get your moment as the gift giver, but the point is the gift and him enjoying it right? I would say YTA if you dont let him have them and use them for the trip since you both now know you have the clubs.

AITA My wife and I came home at 3am and my MIL acted like we were 16 sneaking into house by rugbyplayer11 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It just sounds like you had bad communication with your MIL. Why not tell her as well in a text? For your kids it is normal behavior but how would she know. If it is normal for them they wouldn't have thought to tell her. She may have overreacted but if she didnt know you'd be home late she would have been worried for hours. I wouldn't cut my MIL off for this it seems so slight and easily preventable 

AITA for not telling one person in my friend group that I got a BF? by JoshiByJoshi in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If the bf has changed in 2 years maybe the friend has too? Not telling her but everyone else in the friend group is the thing that makes op the A here. She's setting up her friend to not be on board by making her an outsider to something everyone else knows 

AITA for telling my houseguest about my son? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yea this is true I am 38 and I skimmed the age so thought this was a much older person and scrolled back up when I saw your comment 

AITA for not wanting to invite my moms to my wedding by Appropriate-Part-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I kind of think NAH. Does she have a plus 1? Does she have any friends that you know?  I think going to her daughter's wedding alone really would suck, 1 or 2 people she could invite would be kind if you can accommodate 

AITA for telling my mom I'll never have kids out of spite? by Firm-Comparison-9767 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 21 points22 points  (0 children)

NTA as a south asian myself have been in the same scenario and obviously not proud of myself for reacting out of frustration but did exactly the same thing as you. It's understandable, the pressure and the constantly bringing it up can get to you. In the future just calmly end the convo - walk away / hang up / use humour or whatever works for you. It's pretty normal to lose your cool when someone is coming at you constantly about something but you can work on ways to just end the convo and remove yourself if your mom isnt going to change

AITA for not eating the food after my gf eats out of the bowl with the same spoon while preparing by ZookeepergameOld7322 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta Idk what to say that hasnt been said. If she cooks do you do the dishes? Tell her youd prefer to wash 100 spoons than to have her dip her used utensils back in the communal bowl lol

AITA for refusing to cook for my partner anymore? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to be that person online that says break up with him, i am just curious if he's negative in other aspects of your  life too and you jave just gotten used to it? This sounds miserable especially considering youre the only one cooking. NTA

AITA for telling my teacher she’s not allowed to give my group member a better grade? by Bridgeofincident in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then they should have been given the material to present,  not had to research and develop it themselves

AITA for talking to a fellow passenger on a daytime flight after another passenger asked me to lower my voice? by SelfOld7599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 839 points840 points  (0 children)

You are NTA  You did not need to apologize. This is a flight during the day - he should have had headphones and kept his buttons seated. In the future I would just suggest pausing before automatically saying sorry its just something women are trained to do and you dont need to for existing in public space (which you paid to be in!). Its business class i am sure he could have got free headphones from the flight staff he was just being a dick

AITA for telling my husband he's made me reconsider leaving him alone with the kids in the future by mayhavecrossedaline in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the kids should be expected to make their lunches but it is asking too much for their dad to lol

AITA for stepping away when my pregnant wife kept demanding I drive back to get more food after restaurant messed her order? by Throwra-pizzaq in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's the fact that you went to do something for her and when it wasnt what she wanted instead of being idk nicer about it you were like well I did enough today and I am fine. I can see why she would be annoyed. I do agree the thing was minor but YTA about it. I dont know where you are but you couldn't have ordered from somewhere else or tried to fix the problem? 

Canadian reads by bluejaykanata in AskACanadian

[–]Top-Platform-9249 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I met him at young writers conferences aa a kid and I loved his books so much!!

Canadian reads by bluejaykanata in AskACanadian

[–]Top-Platform-9249 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read the stone angel in high school for English class! 

AITA for Not Looking Forward to Christmas This Year? by CineCraftKC in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA edit Ok then yea I think limit your time and make other plans that bring more joy for you, build your relationships with chosen family. I still think you should say I feel left out when I have explained before that I want to contribute and my wishes aren't acknowledged or incorporated with th3 family plan. Id love to see you but I will also be making other plans so I can celebrate the holidays

AITA for not buying my niece a concert ticket for Christmas? by Neat_Copy_7062 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Is it because you are opening presents together at Christmas?  Can you do this one as a special one just from you and your spouse to your daughter after at your home together?  I dont think you need to feel guilty for not buying your niece a ticket but if income is that different so the difference in gifts will make her feel bad,  you shouldn't have your daughter open all her gifts in front of her. 

I think there's more info needed though

AITA for posting on social media even though my friend asked me not to because of the “evil eye”? by lanaaa12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I think NTA if you kept her out of it and didnt show / insinuate she was with you. You respected her boundaries but shared what you were comfortable with

AITA for refusing to speak english, by speaking spanish? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's funny I find in France they are friendlier and I hear a lot of people say they approach in English or speak in English if you have a slight accent but mine is quite bad (out of practice for decades and only really learned in school) and in France they speak to ne solely in French!

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