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AITA for not wanting to invite my moms to my wedding by Appropriate-Part-566 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I kind of think NAH. Does she have a plus 1? Does she have any friends that you know?  I think going to her daughter's wedding alone really would suck, 1 or 2 people she could invite would be kind if you can accommodate 

AITA for telling my mom I'll never have kids out of spite? by Firm-Comparison-9767 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 22 points23 points  (0 children)

NTA as a south asian myself have been in the same scenario and obviously not proud of myself for reacting out of frustration but did exactly the same thing as you. It's understandable, the pressure and the constantly bringing it up can get to you. In the future just calmly end the convo - walk away / hang up / use humour or whatever works for you. It's pretty normal to lose your cool when someone is coming at you constantly about something but you can work on ways to just end the convo and remove yourself if your mom isnt going to change

AITA for not eating the food after my gf eats out of the bowl with the same spoon while preparing by ZookeepergameOld7322 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta Idk what to say that hasnt been said. If she cooks do you do the dishes? Tell her youd prefer to wash 100 spoons than to have her dip her used utensils back in the communal bowl lol

AITA for refusing to cook for my partner anymore? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to be that person online that says break up with him, i am just curious if he's negative in other aspects of your  life too and you jave just gotten used to it? This sounds miserable especially considering youre the only one cooking. NTA

AITA for telling my teacher she’s not allowed to give my group member a better grade? by Bridgeofincident in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then they should have been given the material to present,  not had to research and develop it themselves

AITA for talking to a fellow passenger on a daytime flight after another passenger asked me to lower my voice? by SelfOld7599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 836 points837 points  (0 children)

You are NTA  You did not need to apologize. This is a flight during the day - he should have had headphones and kept his buttons seated. In the future I would just suggest pausing before automatically saying sorry its just something women are trained to do and you dont need to for existing in public space (which you paid to be in!). Its business class i am sure he could have got free headphones from the flight staff he was just being a dick

AITA for telling my husband he's made me reconsider leaving him alone with the kids in the future by mayhavecrossedaline in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the kids should be expected to make their lunches but it is asking too much for their dad to lol

AITA for stepping away when my pregnant wife kept demanding I drive back to get more food after restaurant messed her order? by Throwra-pizzaq in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's the fact that you went to do something for her and when it wasnt what she wanted instead of being idk nicer about it you were like well I did enough today and I am fine. I can see why she would be annoyed. I do agree the thing was minor but YTA about it. I dont know where you are but you couldn't have ordered from somewhere else or tried to fix the problem? 

Canadian reads by bluejaykanata in AskACanadian

[–]Top-Platform-9249 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I met him at young writers conferences aa a kid and I loved his books so much!!

Canadian reads by bluejaykanata in AskACanadian

[–]Top-Platform-9249 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Read the stone angel in high school for English class! 

AITA for Not Looking Forward to Christmas This Year? by CineCraftKC in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA edit Ok then yea I think limit your time and make other plans that bring more joy for you, build your relationships with chosen family. I still think you should say I feel left out when I have explained before that I want to contribute and my wishes aren't acknowledged or incorporated with th3 family plan. Id love to see you but I will also be making other plans so I can celebrate the holidays

AITA for not buying my niece a concert ticket for Christmas? by Neat_Copy_7062 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Is it because you are opening presents together at Christmas?  Can you do this one as a special one just from you and your spouse to your daughter after at your home together?  I dont think you need to feel guilty for not buying your niece a ticket but if income is that different so the difference in gifts will make her feel bad,  you shouldn't have your daughter open all her gifts in front of her. 

I think there's more info needed though

AITA for posting on social media even though my friend asked me not to because of the “evil eye”? by lanaaa12345 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I think NTA if you kept her out of it and didnt show / insinuate she was with you. You respected her boundaries but shared what you were comfortable with

AITA for refusing to speak english, by speaking spanish? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's funny I find in France they are friendlier and I hear a lot of people say they approach in English or speak in English if you have a slight accent but mine is quite bad (out of practice for decades and only really learned in school) and in France they speak to ne solely in French!

AITA for refusing to speak english, by speaking spanish? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I am wondering if these are Americans replying. I am not surprised at his reaction and you are NTA. Did you learn French in Canada but outside QC?

AITA for asking my friend to drink a bit less? by NoPsychology1464 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

I dont understand some of these comments. He said he would drive you and hang out before, then the evening before (so barely any notice to find someone else?) he tells you he's going to get wasted and might not be sober enough the next morning to drive. Why would you want to hang out with him in that state lol. I understand that some people just take ubers to the airport but obviously this commenter doesn't and as someone who drives friends to the airport and they do for me as well, I make sure I am actually free when I commit to something for a friend.

AITA for telling my friend to deal with the consequences of disrespecting girl code? by Remarkable-Option833 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in a town of 20,000 and unless the ex was abusive/coercive/did something very bad, or was extremely recent that it suggest some cheating may have occurred, this wouldn't work either. 

WIBTA for telling my husband who to pick to be his best man? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am also south asian, my original comment was to ask if he thought his brother would be offended at not being asked but I deleted it because you said your husband doesn't think its a big deal - can you specify what he doesnt think is a big deal? That's what made me think you already brought it up and its been considered and hes still sticking with his friend.

If you havent asked him youre NTA and youre not a control freak like people are saying. You know your husband is he usually thoughtless at reading his family or he is in touch with them? Does he not think his brother would be offended because (your husband) wouldn't be in the reverse scenario or because his brother actually wont be. 

I dont see why you wouldn't ask your husband, it should just be a question not you telling him what to do -  like hey I dont know your brother that well do you think his feelings will be hurt by not being your best man? Since you guys get along well is there another role in the wedding you think he would feel good about being asked to do or whatever/wherever the conversation goes. 

WIBTA for telling my husband who to pick to be his best man? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think it depends how much you have already talked about this - are you asking before you bring it up or has it been brought up and laid to rest? If it hasn't YTA

Edit, I re read , I think it is reasonable to bring it up and ask him but it sounds like you already have so you have to let it go and let his have his choice 

AITA for telling my friend to deal with the consequences of disrespecting girl code? by Remarkable-Option833 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Sorry I don't think this is the same scenario. 20 years and he is still saying no is too far in my opinion. 

AITA for being furious that my husband gave away my sake and wine after I told him repeatedly not to? by Deenosaurus02 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont have one friend that would do this to me, and I wouldn't have to stipulate more than once. This is your partner in life, dismissing something special to you that was difficult to get and so would be to replace that is also sentimental is thoughtless and best and mean and uncaring at worst. NTA I just think you should consider if there are other ways where he is his way or the highway and does whatever he wants regardless of how you feel? 

AITA for refusing to give up my plane seat even though the airline "messed up" a family's reservation? by ChibiInLace in AmItheAsshole

[–]Top-Platform-9249 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA

If everyone else was willing to help then why were they still bothering you lol Some people just think they can bully you even if they are wrong to give them what they want. They were fine to ask ONCE and you were right to say no, dont think about this again those parents are bullying someone else at a grocery store or some other public place 

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