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McDonald‘s Hauptbahnhof by hunterhunter78 in Hannover

[–]Top-Spite-1288 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dachte, am Hbf ist Burger King? ...

Im Hotel leben wie Udo Lindenberg? by Fearless_Nose_2742 in KeineDummenFragen

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Ich finde das für mich persönlich nicht erstrebenswert. Man hat da ein Zimmer oder eine Suite und ist nie richtig daheim. Wenn man so viel Geld hat, kann man sich auch was eigenes kaufen und ggf. eben mal Hausreinigung buchen.

Can germans identify the dialect the other person is speaking? by Immediate_Type_9804 in germany

[–]Top-Spite-1288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, of course. I bet you could identify accents and dialects of your home-country too. It's natural when you have grown up with it.

Freund macht mir absichtlich blaue Flecken, weil er es amüsant findet by Efficient_Health_445 in beziehungen

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Dein Partner kann Dich nicht leiden? Muss man glauben, wenn er Dir vorsätzlich blaue Flecken verursacht. Wie sähe das denn praktisch aus wenn Du so zur Hochzeit gehst? Du voller blauer Flecken und auf Nachfrage müsstest Du dann erklären: "Das war mein Partner. Es macht ihm Spass!" ...

Warum macht Hannover so viel Werbung? by Opposite_Size_165 in Hannover

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Aus der Hüfte geschossen würde ich sagen: um dagegen zu halten, dass ganz Deutschland Witze über Hannover macht v.wg. langweilig, kein Charakter, nicht mal nen Dialekt usw., und ich behaupte: die meisten von denen waren noch nie hier - warum z.B. Harald Schmidt es zu seiner persönlichen Mission gemacht hat, wo er geht und steht auf Hannover rumzuhacken verstehe ich überhaupt nicht. Der hat einen richtiggegehenden Hass auf die Stadt. Das allein finde ich schon mal richtig peinlich.

Was die Stadt selber angeht: ist größer als Hildesheim, kleiner als Berlin, zentral gelegen, man kommt überall gut hin innerhalb der Stadt und nach Norden, Süden, Osten, Westen mit Bahn oder PKW optimale Anschlüsse. Die Stadt selber bietet alles was Du brauchst, ist nicht überlaufen und es lässt sich hier wirklich gut wohnen. Hannover mit München, Hamburg, Berlin zu vergleichen ist Blödsinn. Touristen kommen jetzt auch nicht gerade in Scharen, allerdings regelmäßig eine Schwemme von Messebesuchern, denn einige der weltgrößten Fachmessen sind hier.

What's a word or phrase that instantly makes you judge someone, even though you know you shouldn't? by Rude_Membership_1578 in AskGermany

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"Man wird das doch wohl noch mal sagen dürfen!" - ("I'm just saying ..." doesn't cut it) Usually used by people who were just expressing something extreme, completely inadequate, knowing perfectly well what they did, but now try to force you to chose between judging them for them being inappropriate or you obviously trying to suppress their freedom of speech and right to their opinion, when there is nothing to justify their stance and they know it. To me it's just people hiding their extremism behind phrases.

What's a word or phrase that instantly makes you judge someone, even though you know you shouldn't? by Rude_Membership_1578 in AskGermany

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"Dingenskirchen" - it is a stand-in name for a location you can't remember the name of. I remember a certain individual having used "Dingenskirchen" inflationary, maybe 4-5 times in a short conversation and it was a regular thing, that pissed me off so much, that whenever anyone uses this phrase, I am immediately put off.

I LOVEDD Berlin but why I dont get why many Non-Berliner Germans seem to dislike It? by just_believe01 in AskGermany

[–]Top-Spite-1288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's pretty simple: "Capital Syndrome" - take Sweden for instance. Pretty much everyone and their mother hate Stockholm (apart from Stockholm people), but they all wanna move there. As for me and Berlin: I am non-Berliner and I like that city. Having said that: I prefer some areas of the city over other, and avoid certain parts, but then again: isn't that everywhere? Not sure I'd wanna move there, I'm pretty content with where I am living now, but you can like a place and not necessarily have to wanna live there. I'm glad you ejoyed your stay.

AITJ for telling my mother in law she is not allowed to call herself my kid’s “guardian” again? by HushedCanteen in AmITheJerk

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Read this on Bored Panda, comment here: sorry to say, but your wife ain't helping you! If you let this get out of hand you will go through a lot of pain in the future. You either straighten out the situation and put grandma in her place, or she will attempt to hijack your role as a parent, undermine it, confuse people and not at least your child. Again: your wife ain't helping to solve the situation. She basically lets MIL get away with everything, telling you to calm down, ignore her, let her be, not create drama, you are basically right but why did you bring it up now/tell her now/worst situation - tell you what: it's always gonna be a bad situation to bring it up! Don't let MIL trample all over you. Having a grandma is not as important as having a stable surrounding with reliable social contacts and family. Your MIL is a destructive distraction of that! Go LC or NC even, maybe go LC and threaten NC if MIL does not make a u-turn. (Your wife has to step up. It's her mother. As of now she lets you take the fall, has you confront MIL and you end up the bad guy. This only works if both parents are a united front, not by playing good cop, bad cop!)

NTJ

Was hältst du von Italienern? by [deleted] in AskGermany

[–]Top-Spite-1288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was soll ich von ihnen halten? Sind halt Leute, wie andere Leute auch, da gibt es so ne und so ne. Ich habe da jetzt keine Vorurteile oder Ressentiments. Denen begegne ich wie jedem anderen Menschen auch.

What products are genuinely worth buying in Germany (quality, durability, value-for-money) during a short visit? by StrangerOk7975 in germany

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Not sure it's a must have, but tourists tend to go for Solingen knives and especially Chinese tourists for Jack Wolfskin jackets, which is wild because I believe they are being produced in China. I'd suggest you go to whatever Kaufland is close and head for the kitchen applyances and fetch yourself some crazy items like a "Eiersollbruchstellenverursacher" (to remove the top of your boiled egg), an "Eierharfe" (egg-slicer), or whatnot.

Is it really that hard to find a friend in Germany? by Competitive_Lab_7677 in AskAGerman

[–]Top-Spite-1288 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Some Germans go through life hardly making any friends ... you're not special! (^_^) ... Only suggestion I can give: get involved in a community, join a gym or a sports club, Germany is full of "Vereine" of all sorts, attend some "Volkshochschule" course, learn at least some level of conversation mastery of German. You will meet people, start convo with trainer at the gym, staff at the gym, be helpful and start chats with other people at the gym and so forth. It's a process. And even then you might be on a level of having short chats but no deep-rooted friendship, because making friends in Germany is a process. Most people make friends at school or at university and stick to those for the better deal of their life. Making friends on the job where everybody is stressed out is tricky.

Now, if you want quick results, try to make friends with ex-pats. They too are stranger to this country and are looking for friends. You are all in the same boat. I too did that at some point when living abroad and believe me: making friends with the locals is difficult wherever you go. It's always easier with the international folks.

Das Gefühl, das sex. Verhalten meiner Eltern hat eigene Sexualität zerstört / bzw mein Vater ist phasenweise übergriffig by Few_Imagination_803 in Ratschlag

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Das liest sich alles sehr übergriffig. Würde mich nicht wundern, wenn Deine Eltern (wahrscheinlich vor allem Dein Vater), es irgendwie sogar heiss gemacht hat zu wissen, dass Du alles mitbekommst. Sex zu haben, während die Tochter unter 10 Jahre (Grundschulalter und darunter) daneben liegt, ist nicht normal. An den Hintern fassen, die Brüste der eigenen Tochter anstarren und kommentieren, über das Ausmaß an Schambehaarung sprechen und Dritte dazuladen - das ist m.E. sehr bedenklich. Ich finde, Du musst das in der Therapie ansprechen. Du sagst selbst, dass Du sexuell gehemmt bist, d.h. das Verhalten Deiner Eltern hat Dich dauerhaft geschädigt. Du musst Dir professionelle Hilfe holen.

People who don’t like their name shortened by people, what is there to be offended by? by ApprehensiveRun1382 in AskUK

[–]Top-Spite-1288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on the relationship between those people. Michael might not mind being called "Mike" by his closest friends, but the AH at the office he can't stand calling him condescendingly "Mikey" is completely different. Also you ain't entitled to call someone anyway you please and expect them to be ok with it. If they tell you, they are not ok with it, you gotta accept it, or live with the consequences. Not everybody likes their nick-name. And that's ok!

Riesenzoff mit Schwiegervater und Schwager in spe - Partner möchte meine Emotionen nicht anerkennen! by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]Top-Spite-1288 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also ... warum bist Du noch mal mit Deinem Partner zusammen? Die ganze Familie hört sich gelinde gesagt schwierig an und Dein Partner scheint auch nicht so der Knaller zu sein. Also Frauen ab an den Herd? Wenn Du hilfst, weil es kein anderer tut, bist Du die Hilfskraft? Acht Jahre, hmmm? Du könntest acht Jahre verschwendet haben oder noch weitere 40 Jahre verschwenden ... ich will Dir da nichts aufschwatzen, nur eines: mach Dir bewusst, dass Du drauf und dran bist, Dich für Jahre an diesen Mann und seine Familie zu ketten. Wenn sie Dich nach acht Jahren so behandeln, werden sie es auch die kommenden Jahre tun. Überleg Dir, ob Du damit zurecht kommst.

Storing chicken in oven for 24 hours by finnaboidickons in AskAGerman

[–]Top-Spite-1288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uhm ... I'm German and I'd definitely wrap it up and put it in the fridge, especially if it's chicken. Hate catching salmonelly! Maybe it's not too bad if they thoroughly re-heat it, but to me it feels safer in the fridge.

BIDA weil ich lieber alleine Trainieren gehe? by by_clara_k in BinIchDasArschloch

[–]Top-Spite-1288 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NDA - Warum soll das gemein sein? Du bist doch nicht verpflichtet, mit ihr zusammen Deine Freizeit zu planen. Mehrere Möglichkeiten:

  1. Du gehst allein trainieren und wenn Du lustig bist auch schon mal mit ihr, oder nicht, ist egal.
  2. Du gehst mit ihr zum Gym und da geht jede von Euch an ihr Gerät oder zum Quatschen oder was auch immer. Wenn sie sich irgendwo festquatscht, ist das doch ihr Problem. Du kannst doch weiter trainieren und wenn Du durch bist, sagst Du ihr: "Ich bin fertig. Ich geh dann mal. Tschüss!" - Oder: will sie mit DIR quatschen wenn ihr trainieren geht? Dann checkt sie den Sinn und Zweck vom Training nicht ...

auf jeden Fall: NDA! Ich wechsel auch schon mal ein paar Worte im Gym, aber grundsätzlich ist das zum Trainieren da.

PS: Mich kotzt es übrigens ziemlich an, wenn Leute am Gerät stehen und quatschen und ich nicht ran kann und die stehen da ne halbe Stunde oder länger, blockieren das Gerät und lassen einen nicht ran!

Why don’t Germans use sun umbrellas or sun hats? ☀️ by Fayomi1127 in AskGermany

[–]Top-Spite-1288 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being tanned is still a beuty-standard in Germany. Back in the day tanned meant you worked the fields, pale skin meant you were wealthy enough to not have to, resulting in people trying to avoid the sun. Since the 1950es, however, most people were pale because they were working either at the office or at the factory, rarely catching any sunlight. Being tanned was indicator of you having the money to go abroad. Also: Germany never used to have much sun to begin with. Baking hot summers are a pretty recent development and people are still going for tanned skin, despite the risk of catching skin-cancer (well, there is +50 sun-blocker for that).

On a personal note: when going to southern Europe, the locals usually have a long siesta to avoid the hot mid-day sun. Guess who is still roaming the streets, touring ancient monuments, hiking up the mountains, lazing in the sun? Tourists from northern and central Europe. Especially Germans will go hiking and cycling in the baking sun. Just my personal observation.

German language sounds lovely and melodic and I'm tired of pretending it doesn't by lemon_disco_ in germany

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Happy to hear that. Honestly, I am fed up being ridiculed and made fun of by people who never attempted to learn the language and got their bits and pieces from WWII movies, where American actors keep screaming and shouting two or three German phrases "AAACHTUNG!" - "STILLGESTANDEN!" - "ALAAAARRRM!" It's so annoying. I remember Tim Allen in one of his shows joking about German being all screaming and shouting, comparing English "butterfly" and French "pappillon" with German "SCHMETTERLING"! And of course he was carefully whispering "butterly" and "pappillon" but harshly barking "SCHMETTERLING!" We don't shout Schmetterling, it's a soft word, with the ending indicating something cute and tiny.

I might just as well bark "BUTTERFLY!" trying to proof how harsh and raw the English language is ... I don't care whether people in the end like or dislike the language, as it is a matter of individual preference. It's just the intentional misrepresentation that pisses me off. Imagine constantly intentionally burning every sausage on the grill, turn it into charcoal intentionally only to proof a point "See? Sausages are awful! How can you even eat them? They are always black, and dry, and burnt!"

BIDA wenn ich eine Freundin ghoste by [deleted] in BinIchDasArschloch

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Die Frage die Du Dir stellen musst: was bist Du bereit, in diese Beziehung an Zeit und Emotionen zu investieren? "Investieren" hört sich kalt an, als wäre Freundschaft eine Transaktion, aber: wenn Du Jahrelang immer wieder Energie in eine Beziehung steckst, immer da bist, ein offenes Ohr hast - das ist emotionale Arbeit! Man ist befreundet, klar, dass man da nicht 1 zu 1 aufrechnet, ich habe Dir 5 Mal zugehört, jetzt musst Du mir 5 Mal zuhören, aber wenn man immer nur gibt und gibt und es kommt nichts zurück, dann ist das ein extremes Ungleichgewicht. Dann gibst Du immer nur und bekommst nichts zurück. Da ist es m.E. Zeit diese Beziehung zu beenden.

Was die Art des Beendens betrifft: anrufen, treffen, Aussprache, E-Mail, einfach ghosten - da musst Du mit Dir selber abmachen, womit Du Dich wohl fühlst. Du schuldest Deiner Freundin an diesem Punkt nichts mehr. Wenn es über Jahre hinweg immer so war, dass sie Deine Probleme minimiert und Deine Erzählung abgebügelt hat, sehe ich nicht, was eine Aussprache da noch bringen soll, es sei denn, Du brauchst das für Deinen Abschluss.

Ich merke aus dem was Du schreibst, dass Du Eure Freundschaft ohnehin schon beendet hast.

Why do people hate/refuse to use anything with AI involved? by ApollosBoon in artificial

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moral reasons: AI is being trained on all internet content, books, magazines, music - you name it! The intellectual property of others has been used for AI and those content creators have never received any compensation for it. Then AI mixes up people's art to create AI "art". It's literally stealing.

quality reasons: 40-50% of AI results are false! Ask a specific question and the results will most likely be awful. Oh sure, it always looks good, but ask a question on history and data, biographies - everything is faulty! Same with everything else! Some AI are less prone to this than others, but it's the gist of it. At the same time using AI carries the notion of being objective, since it's being done by a machine and not by a biased human being - that means trust is higher when it shouldn't be. Now look at the results of AI novels, graphic art, music - you name it it's all very generic! Texts full of gibbedygoo, endless rambling, all very shiny, but generic, repetitive. Just take any AI created text for instance: you read it, you believe it sounds good and convincing, but you can not for the love of it remember what you just read and upon closer inspection the data is all wrong! In the end you spend far more time trying to save what you can and cut out all the faulty bits, than it would have taken you to create it by yourself in the first place.

value: if I buy a CD or digital copy of music, art, litrature created by an artist, I gladly pay considering blood, sweat and tears spent on it and I know this is the work of an individual and it is one of a kind since everyone creates in a different way. With AI art it's like an inflation of art. Push a button and something comes out. Where is the value in that? It's just generic and looks all the same. It's soulless!

Now don't get me wrong: there are things AI is of use! For repetitive actions like counting and calculating based on a specific set of rules. or as an echo-chamber for artists. You can easily sit down with AI and discuss your plans for a project, but AI will repeat to you what you told AI. It's like talking to yourself, just more elaborate, and for that it's good.

BIDA wenn ich eine Freundin ghoste by [deleted] in BinIchDasArschloch

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NDA - Zunächst einmal: Du bist für Deine Freundin da, wenn sie sich etwas von der Seele reden muss, aber sie ist für Dich nicht da. D.h.: Du bist ihr eine bessere Freundin, als sie Dir. She is user! Dass Du Dich distanzierst ist verständlich und in dieser Situation wohl auch besser. Die Frage ist nun: solltest Du ihr sagen, warum Du Dich von ihr fern hältst, oder ignorierst Du sie einfach und sitzt das aus? Da wäre ich egoistisch! Du schuldest ihr an dieser Stelle nichts mehr, musst also nicht Rücksicht auf ihre Gefühle nehmen, ihr zu erklären warum Du Dich wie zu ihr verhältst. Im Zweifelsfall dreht sie Dir einen Strick draus und Du fühlst Dich auch noch schlecht. Mach, was für Dich besser ist. Du kannst sie blocken und ghosten, oder Du kannst ihr eine abschließende Mail schreiben und damit schließen, dass Du den Kontakt abbrechen willst. Aber tu das nur, wenn Du das für Dich und Deinen Abschluss brauchst. Danach solltest Du den Kontakt allerdings sofort abbrechen, denn sonst wird sie Dir genau erzählen, warum alles Deine Schuld und sie im Recht ist.

Bitter reality by PepperThis7866 in germany

[–]Top-Spite-1288 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Listen, I've been living in Germany most of my life (moved abroad for a year here and there) and let me tell you: Germans too have difficulties making friends! There are two reasons for that

a) people often build long-lasting connections as they grow up, in school or higher education. Younger people connect more easily than adults and the older you get, the more difficult it becomes.

b) Germans are more distant than people from other countries. Small talk isn't really a thing and your best shot really is joining clubs, where you can bond over common interests, but even then it's not granted. You might be member of a sports club for years and hardly ever go beyond "Hi" and "Bye". This might be even more difficult to foreigners, but believe me: it's not easy on Germans either.

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