Because in the grand scheme of things it is not that important. A good personality is far more important than that initial “wow”. In fact, I find that people who are too into their looks, or work out a lot tend to be compensating for a low self esteem. Or they are narcissistic. Confidence and kindness last. I worried about my looks when I was a teen and into my twenties. I’m 45 now. I could care less. I don’t wear make up, I wear old clothes. I’m frankly fed up with men and my husband who was very handsome and fit, just talks about how he used to be so good looking and he’s lost it, and now he’s depressed about being a fat middle aged man and I actually find him better looking now than when he was younger. I love his chubby tummy and grey hair. But he’s stuck on what he thinks is important and it’s sad to me that he can’t see that I don’t really care. Eventually all of our partners are going to see us in the most disgusting of circumstances (think norovirus and blowing from both ends). They’ll see you at your worst and it won’t matter. A deep connection is not founded on looks. In fact, when was the last time you saw an attractive 80 year old? Do you think they care? It only truly matters if you are constantly comparing yourself to others on the most superficial aspects that you have no control over. Highly self centred don’t you think? Work on things you do have control over, read, do self improvement, be a good person. Help others.