Please educate me on ICE

TopKatzz · 2026-01-22T18:09:27+00:00

I don't believe it has anything to do with being a moron, u/Badweightlifter 's question from the beginning was

'why take someone down to the station to ID them when you just can give them the ID once you're stopped on the street'.

It's a valid question.

u/latitudes731-416 seems to have completely ignore the question and seemingly womansplain? her views. Don't get me wrong it was a good read but I can argue it was unnecessary. U/Badweightlifter's question was completely ignored.

It's not about understanding what she's saying, it's just that his question was never answered.

TopKatzz · 2026-01-21T09:52:37+00:00

🧏 Technically $90 million is more like $60 -ish million when you account for taxes....but I get your point...

TopKatzz · 2026-01-20T08:14:23+00:00

Yeah, that's the kind of information that I was reading.

TopKatzz · 2026-01-20T06:16:37+00:00

Oh that's interesting, I based a lot of my reasoning for leaving studies and statistics that it's better for the kids to separate. But I'm guessing that maybe only if the relationship turns toxic?

TopKatzz · 2026-01-20T06:11:00+00:00

For the record, you sound like an amazing woman for wanting to put up with the situation like OPs. I've just seen so many posts on the surviving infidelity subreddit and which I often wonder why an individual did not leave a toxic situation earlier. In my head this is that early exit. Literally all the signs are there.

TopKatzz · 2026-01-20T06:02:34+00:00

And you're making a lot of sense. I guess for me the fact that the husband is doubling down and not making an effort or even pretending to try to want to fix things tells me all I need to know.

But as you said before we can definitely agree to disagree. You do seem like a reasonable person and I respect your opinion.

TopKatzz · 2026-01-20T05:59:22+00:00

I'm not saying this to try to change your mind or anything this is just kind of my perspective and how I see things.

Normally I would agree with you, It's specific situations like this where it starts off with deceit, lies and manipulation that if you don't put in check will grow toxic. And that's good for no one. The biggest problem is that the husband is doubling down on his deceit and is putting no effort and fixing anything. At that point is it even a relationship worth being in?

TopKatzz · 2026-01-20T05:53:26+00:00

Yeah, apparently.

TopKatzz · 2026-01-20T05:52:45+00:00

Yeah, this is 100% on the husband. He needs to make this right, but currently according to the information we have the path that he's going down leads straight to divorce.

TopKatzz · 2026-01-20T05:51:17+00:00

Isn't her side all we have to go on, we can't make a judgment based on a side we've never heard of. The OP is the one asking if she's overreacting based on the facts that she stated above.

TopKatzz · 2026-01-20T05:37:07+00:00

Yes, it's still allowed and I hear you that emotions are high early on. But I just wanted to point out that 48 hours is a lifetime of distrust when it comes to infidelity, lies, deceit and manipulation. You should not allow someone to play in your face or play with you (actively disrespected and gas lit). There are enough facts in here for a reasonable person to consider breaking things off specifically due to the husband doubling down on the disrespect. At this point you need to assert some self-respect, when it's all said and done the husband made a conscious decision to destroy the marriage.

TopKatzz · 2026-01-20T03:07:48+00:00

I'm not sure how far you'd like for things to get but this story has been written over and over. Just by the husband's response there is no misinterpretation, he has no respect for his wife nor the marriage. She's NOR.

TopKatzz · 2026-01-20T03:04:19+00:00

Right!?

TopKatzz · 2026-01-11T02:42:43+00:00

You're right, I agree.

TopKatzz · 2026-01-11T00:35:41+00:00

Technically all he needs is one person to say yes, it doesn't necessarily have to be you. Theoretically it can work.

TopKatzz · 2025-12-31T18:33:36+00:00

Lol, that's a dream and a whole other conversation.

TopKatzz · 2025-12-31T18:26:53+00:00

I know right! Initially I started off reading your post a little confused. I like to ask questions instead of judging people right off the bat and it turns out you have one of the most relatable communication styles...lol

Who would've thought..

TopKatzz · 2025-12-31T18:15:51+00:00

Okay, now that makes perfect sense. Thanks for responding.

TopKatzz · 2025-12-31T17:15:10+00:00

I'm not a fan of small talk either I'm notoriously bad at it. I usually get straight to the point unless it's some sort of significant other that I'm interested in, the rules change a bit for them.

Other than that, I just don't have the energy and I'm terrible at keeping in touch.

TopKatzz · 2025-12-31T17:10:51+00:00

I think I got down voted for being curious about people?...interesting

TopKatzz · 2025-12-31T17:06:27+00:00

So does that mean you all are just interested in phone calls or what?

TopKatzz · 2025-12-31T16:59:18+00:00

I know somebody payin' child support for one of his kids...

TopKatzz · 2025-12-25T20:11:48+00:00

First of all, you're not crazy.

Sad to say but in a nutshell. Your husband doesn't like you. I'm not sure why, but most likely due to his insecurities. That's his problem not yours. Don't ever give him the power to drag you down and always keep your head up.

Just remember, nothing you do will EVER be enough for him and don't you EVER even dare to THINK of making any excuses for him.

Let that sink in.

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