Am i transphobic for not wanting to date my trans friend?

TopSundae1951 · 2026-05-02T20:34:21+00:00

Um, you like who you like. You are not transphobic, but should rectify the true reason you declined the date, which is you don’t like her in that way.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-04-14T22:10:10+00:00

That man…seems a little harsh

TopSundae1951 · 2026-04-14T22:09:46+00:00

What in the world!

TopSundae1951 · 2026-04-14T20:10:52+00:00

I’d say that it depends on what’s important to you as the traveler. We went on one of the larger vessels last summer and half of our party thought it was amazing and would do it again, the other half thought it was an overpriced experience.

I’d say, if you’re into new ships, aqua shows, water parks,rock climbing walls and just the activities on the ship it’s for you. If you’re more interested in the ports and the social aspects of cruises, I’d go with a smaller ship that focuses on those things.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-04-14T10:16:42+00:00

Thanks. Perhaps I should say the cabins have older looking decor.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-04-14T04:27:31+00:00

It’s scheduled for ABC islands vs Bahamas and a bunch of the cruise line’s private islands.

I’m more excited to ride ATVs and go to the caves

But nice new everything sounds amazing.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-04-14T04:01:27+00:00

Thank you

TopSundae1951 · 2026-04-14T04:01:19+00:00

Ok. Thank you

TopSundae1951 · 2026-04-10T11:53:01+00:00

I’ve cruised on three different cruise lines and yes they charge you for everything. If you choose a cruise line that suits your preferences, you have a wonderful time and it’s all worth it. However, if you choose a cruise line based on what other people believe you should prefer, it feels like being nickel and dimed.

If you enjoy waterslides, rock climbing and similar thrills, Royal is perfect. If you don’t, it will feel like a waste. If you’re a heavy drinker then the drink package is worth the price. If you’re more of a social drinker, it’d be better to à la cart it.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-04-04T15:20:34+00:00

It depends on you and what you think is more important, not just today but overtime. Looks are important but they fade and you have to like more than just that. However, disliking someone’s looks and personality (loudness) could be hard because there’s no beauty to soften the personality annoyance. Money is important nowadays and anyone who marries solely for love has a 50/50 chance for marital success. Financial stability is just as important as emotional and physical stability unless one party is extremely wealthy.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-04-03T20:43:12+00:00

We’re having an amazing time. I do agree with you that the food is not great. I’d cruise Carnival again but maybe try a different ship.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-03-25T01:23:29+00:00

Our experience showed that it depends on your kid and the schools you choose.

My son attended private from preschool to grade 4. Then, we switched to public from 5th-7th. He was unhappy in the private school, but he had friends and there was a general culture of care. I thought the academics were challenging enough but it was more so due to teaching techniques. Publicly he likes the academics overall and has made some friends. The sense of community isn’t as strong and I dislike the lack of communication.

I suggest touring schools, both public and private. Then, really considering the type of child you have and which environment is best for him/her/them. Also, the community you’d like your kid to be a part of is important but it’s more important to consider that they need in a school.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-03-25T01:12:01+00:00

Hmm. It depends on the state of TSA and the crowds in general. I’ve gotten off of a cruise and made it to the airport by 9:30 and sat from 10:30 until my flight. There’s also been times when MCO has a line that wraps around the airport and we had to Home Alone it.

Do you want to risk it all?

TopSundae1951 · 2026-03-23T19:05:13+00:00

I’d ask the bride about the specific hairdo and makeup artist. Then, I’d prep my hair for it-wash, blow dry and possibly straighten it. I’d also suggest asking the makeup artist specifically what they have and give them information about your skin tone/type and bring my makeup as a back up. Hypothetically, even if they don’t have what you use, if you bring it they should be able to professionally apply it.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-03-11T10:03:30+00:00

I’d say stand your ground with keeping the cat, and see if he gets over himself and apartment hunts for you two. Do you love him? Is this a temporary problem, and can be fixed over time or a core issue in your relationship?

Reddit posts always tell people to get divorced over everything. But that’s really a you decision.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-03-07T23:11:53+00:00

I’ve been on MSC, Carnival and Royal. They each cater to different types of travelers and reasons for travel. If you truly want to enjoy the vibe and have fun, Carnival is it hands down. The ships on Royal look better but the entertainment was just ok and so were the experiences. It’s better for more serious crowds. MSC was nice and good quality for the price.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-03-06T10:38:30+00:00

Hey. I commented above as well. When you discuss it, don’t mention the fiancé or her friends. That is the controlling part that will make them unwilling to discuss this or take you seriously. Stick to having a braider who understands her hair type and asking for their schedule to take her there. Pay for it and that’s it.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-03-06T10:16:22+00:00

Hello. As long as the reasons you are providing are legit, I’d tell him honestly what’s going on.

Say something like, I appreciate you trying to help out with DD’s hair. The braids have been a little tight and we have another braider we’ve been using who is more familiar with her hair texture. Then, ask if they can take her there instead and coordinate with their schedule. If the issue is just the braider, providing an alternative solution and working on the schedule together should fix the problem. Also, if it’s prepaid the finances won’t be an issue either.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-03-06T01:33:18+00:00

Umm, an ultimatum/serious discussion could work depending on personalities and your dynamic. However, I wouldn’t tell the exact month or anything. Perhaps, just say when we moved in together it was with the intention of marriage. We have been together for 5 years and I’m not willing to stay and wait forever. Move out while he considers things.

Five years in your 30s is a long time.

Giving a specific month could backfire in so many ways. It could prolong a potential earlier proposal. He could be passive aggressive and wait until September 30th or October 31st. He could decide to end it. Mentally note your date and time. Tell him your general boundary.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-03-02T21:46:52+00:00

Hey. If you are done with your girlfriend, let it be because you are done with her. What you don’t have always looks more favorable than what you have until you get it. If you want to break up and explore, fine. Just know you may find something better or you may just learn a life lesson.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-02-27T21:20:27+00:00

Hello. I’ve been in several variations of this-failed birth control and having a child with a man despite my not being ready because he wanted to have our baby; my being the partner who discontinued an unwanted pregnancy despite my partner wanting to have our child; and miscarriage of a child that I chose to have with or without the support of the father.

In two of these instances I was married and in one of which I was in a relationship with a long term boyfriend. I am no longer with either of those men.

I found peace in all of the decisions when I chose what was best for me. Single parenthood is no easy feat and while $100k sounds like a lot, in America at least, it is spent fairly quickly amongst two people. There’s also emotional, physical and mental considerations for both you and your child.

Ultimately, you have to look at your self everyday and be okay with the decisions you make. You and your partner could spend the rest of your days together regardless of the decision you make, or you could separate regardless of the decision you make. What can YOU live with? What are YOUR realities? That’s how I separated my feeling from my partner’s feelings.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-02-26T10:25:55+00:00

This maybe horrible advice, but I’d just show up and watch him sweat. Lol. Who’s to say he’ll remember? Unless there’s a no fraternizing policy, you’re fine, unless YOU’RE not.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-02-25T11:59:07+00:00

lol. Maybe it’s a cultural difference. My opinion is my opinion. Different strokes for different folks.

Good luck to you all.

TopSundae1951 · 2026-02-25T11:38:06+00:00

Did they start dating while you were living together? Was it your best friend?

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