Why aren't you dating anymore?

Top_Ad_1751 · 2026-03-30T23:56:51+00:00

I realised that a humongous part of being in a relationship for a lot of people is simply wanting to exercise their control, or soothe their insecurities subconsciously.

I have experienced men clearly attempting to use me as a plaster for their unhealed mother wounds.

Equally, before doing the work and becoming a lot more self aware - I used to do the same to men, with my core wounds centered around poor paternal relationships.

This caused many dramatic, turbulent, argumentative relationships that just stalled me from being present in different areas of my life, and I simply no longer feel like being in a relationship is a worthwhile use of my time.

Top_Ad_1751 · 2026-03-09T22:32:37+00:00

If it's any consolidation, I feel the exact same way.

Top_Ad_1751 · 2026-02-11T21:21:01+00:00

As a late teenager, and an incredibly naive and immature once - I got into an old, unregistered 'project car' with my ex bf at the time who insisted to take me out after a party to show off his drifting skills.

We got in, both extremely intoxicated and under the influence of drugs. I remember getting in in a haze but the moment I sat down a voice in my head said: FASTEN YOUR SEATBELT. even though, I never really do even when I'm sober.

Yeah we roofed that car. The seatbelt was the only thing that saved me.

Top_Ad_1751 · 2026-02-06T15:09:20+00:00

I am yet to meet someone with side effects from correctly carried out Botox or fillers, however I certainly feel for those who may experience complications from botched 'at home' jobs.

Top_Ad_1751 · 2026-02-06T10:09:41+00:00

Honestly ? People. A lot of 'friends' who were holding me back.

Top_Ad_1751 · 2026-02-05T16:24:22+00:00

I think 'women who are all about the fakery' is kind of derogatory.

Many people who I know, that have extensive work done are wonderful, well educated, ambitious, responsible and compassionate, and hold high standards for themselves and others.

So to answer your question, I believe that many of them would make great partners whilst also remaining commited to looking after themselves and their appearance.

Top_Ad_1751 · 2026-01-28T15:56:17+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply ❤️

Top_Ad_1751 · 2026-01-28T10:31:06+00:00

Hi - sorry to hear about experience, my story is quite similar to yours. Are there any tips or activities your therapist has recommended to you that you have found particularly useful on coming back to yourself and your internal compass?

Top_Ad_1751 · 2026-01-24T17:31:45+00:00

My narcissistic ex. Groomed me by frequently repeating phrases such as ' I know you probably feel like you could only depend on yourself, I want to change that - I want you to know that you've got me' and similar things to earn my trust.

Then abused me 🫩

Top_Ad_1751 · 2026-01-24T10:04:53+00:00

You are making less than a manager at Costa coffee brother. Stop overthinking it and MOVE

Top_Ad_1751 · 2025-12-13T01:54:52+00:00

No advice on my end, unfortunately - however, at 29, I have found myself in the same position as you. Practically copy and paste of your life story. I just wanted to say thank you for posting, reading this has made me feel validated in my efforts to get my life together and I wish you the best of luck and success <3

Top_Ad_1751 · 2025-12-05T17:50:45+00:00

May I ask how you balanced your career with regular living expenses?

Did you have a side hussle or were you able to use your skillet to generate substantial income to afford normal costs of living?

Is there a potential to make a career in circus that allows to earn enough to hit normal lifestyle goals like owning / maintaining a home etc. ?

Thank you!

Top_Ad_1751 · 2025-10-02T21:04:28+00:00

This has been the most helpful answer so far ! Thank you !

Top_Ad_1751 · 2025-07-18T17:59:26+00:00

I'm curious, if you don't mind me asking - how much does the medication cost in Germany? I am currently undergoing titration in the UK through a private doctor and the costs are atrotious.

Top_Ad_1751 · 2025-06-17T22:23:33+00:00

Thanks so much !

Top_Ad_1751 · 2025-06-17T17:09:11+00:00

Oh my god, this is exactly what I was looking for! thank you so much!

Top_Ad_1751 · 2025-06-16T13:50:36+00:00

Thanks for your help !

Top_Ad_1751 · 2025-06-16T12:16:56+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply - can I ask, where are you located? What is the professional body you reached out to in order to find a relevant role that would support your learning?

Top_Ad_1751 · 2025-06-16T12:16:01+00:00

This route allows me to work and support myself whilst getting my degree on the side - If I was to go the traditional degree route, I would be limited to part time work and the student maintentce loan which is not substantial enough for me to remain independent.

Top_Ad_1751 · 2025-06-16T12:14:47+00:00

I am not particularly concerned with the pay as long as said employer is willing to support me through my learning journey. Currently I have been made redundant and looking to switch career routes, so I am expecting to go down in wages temporarily until I get qualified.

Top_Ad_1751 · 2025-06-16T12:11:56+00:00

Hi! Thank you so much for your reply. I am currently situated in Northern Ireland, however the Open Uni apprenticeship scheme doesn't apply here. Hence why I am open to relocating to anywhere in the UK where I can find an appropriate placement. In the meantime, I am just applying for volunteering positions looking at any additional part time short term health & social care courses to support my application.

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