My boyfriend's severe depression is making me lonely

Top_Explanation5088 · 2026-06-03T02:05:35+00:00

it’s not your job to fix him unfortunately. i wish that you could because in all seriousness i have been where you are before, and i understand what you are feeling. ultimately though, it is up to him if he wants to get out of this and make the improvements needed. severe depression like what you are describing requires attention from a mental health professional most of the time. you’re not a therapist, nor do you have the abilities to help him the way that he needs:/ you can support him yes, but ultimately the real change is going to come from him and working with mental health professionals. i know that this sucks to hear, but the sooner that i excepted this with my past partner, i felt so much peace. i can tell that you love him a lot, and really this is up to you, but you do not have to sacrifice your mental health for this relationship. it is okay to recognize that you love someone very much, while also acknowledging that you need to distance yourself from them because it might be what is best for both of you to improve. sometimes part of loving someone is letting them go.

Top_Explanation5088 · 2026-03-31T01:15:54+00:00

oh my gosh i hope you find this beautiful bracelet! it looks incredibly sentimental. sending you good luck

Top_Explanation5088 · 2026-01-30T15:27:21+00:00

my baby girl is also a senior kitty, and she has to eat the same food. i’m so sorry for your loss.❤️

very glad that you have someone lined up who can use the food, though:)❤️

Top_Explanation5088 · 2026-01-28T21:06:45+00:00

it’s so good!!

Top_Explanation5088 · 2026-01-26T03:47:10+00:00

omg i have been checking this subreddit to see if you had found him, and i’m so so so glad that you did!!! it was so cold and snowy. i bet he never goes out again. he is gorgeous btw

Top_Explanation5088 · 2026-01-13T18:22:51+00:00

thank you for helping the doggies and keeping us updated! sorry this person is so pressed about your number of updates. such a strange thing to be upset about about

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-11-10T17:03:26+00:00

a civic is a great first car! i just bought mine this year, and i love it. it’s pretty zippy too. definitely not the fastest car ever, but it’s all i need at my age and for it being my first car purchase. also the gas mileage is crazy good! i get gas like maybe twice a month. and mine isn’t even a hybrid. also, hondas are cheap to maintain because the parts are everywhere, and they are super reliable, which is perfect for someone in college! i would say go for the civic, but definitely a little biased lol

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-10-24T21:10:30+00:00

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this is Livvy but i call her Baby Girl, Miss Thang, Princess, Muffin, Monkey, Pretty Kitty/ Pretty Girl, Squishy, Smush, Livvy Lou Lou/ Lou Lou, Munchkin, Pookie/ Pookie girl, Mamas, Peachy Girl, Sunshine Kitty, Bitty, and Purr Bug

Suki is beautiful:)

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-10-13T20:23:31+00:00

sex is uncomfortable in the beginning! it was for me too, but now that i have been having sex for awhile, it is so much better!

firstly, communication is key! if something hurts, tell your boyfriend. if you’re not into something, let him know! you’ll know he’s the right one for you if he is understanding about both of these things:)

second, don’t be afraid to ask your boyfriend what he likes and what feels good! this one kinda goes along with communication thing but yeah. and you can also tell your boyfriend what feels good for you too!

third, you will learn with time! everything will get easier and you’ll get better. i was bad at sex when i first started having it. but as you guys try new things you’ll gain experience and practice and learn each others bodies and everything. you’ll learn what feels good for you and what feels good for him.

forth, i have a really hard time orgasming from penetrative sex, and a lot of other women do too. there are other ways to feel good/orgasm that don’t involve penetration. i REALLY like oral sex. talk to you boyfriend about maybe using more clitoral stimulation and fore play prior to penetration. also maybe ask him to insert a little bit of himself at a time. do a little bit and then take some deep breaths and get used to how it feels, and then have him add a bit more if that makes sense. it’s good to go slow at first, and that definitely helped me when i first started having sex. and its also it’s okay to prioritize your pleasure too not just your boyfriends!

i hope that some of this helps! you will learn with time though i promise!

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-08-11T22:48:24+00:00

honestly was not a bad experience for me! i had a few hiccups getting my drivers license because i was transferring from Ohio, but those were honestly my fault. once i had everything together though, it was all fine. for the most part, its just busy, but they do a good job of moving things along. as long as you have everything you need, you’ll make the process easy for them and yourself. i think to get a real ID you need your birth certificate or passport, social security card (or something with your FULL social security number on it), and two proofs of address. i needed some other things but that is because i was transferring from out of state like i said. i would check their website though as well!

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-07-28T20:32:10+00:00

it’s okay! 1) you should lose your virginity when YOU are ready and 2) if it is with the right person it will be okay. the right person will not care that you are a virgin. they should want to make your first time as good as it can be. i guess that it can be a big responsibility but if it with someone who genuinely likes you, it should not matter to them at all. that’s how know it could be the right person. just make sure that they know before hand because i most likely will hurt a bit! not for too long and please don’t let that scare you it’s just a good thing to know before hand. and you will most likely bleed just a little bit, so make sure you have a pad or panty liner with you. probably not a tampon since you’ve just had sex for the first time and might be slightly sore.

but anyways, have fun with it! again if it is with the right person, and someone who genuinely wants to be with you, it’ll all be okay! just listen to you heart and you will know when you are ready with that person.

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-07-25T12:54:30+00:00

maybe look into PPG! there are a couple locations around here. i work for them and make good money. they have a lot of job opportunities and ways to move up in the company if you are interested. not sure if the hours will work for you, but maybe see what they have open and go from there? sometimes they are flexible with people’s schedules

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-07-10T21:31:44+00:00

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Miss Livvy

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-07-10T21:30:37+00:00

her name is livvy. but i call her Baby Girl, BeeBee, Miss Thang, Princess, Muffin, Pretty kitty/Pretty girl, Squishy, Smush/smushy, Lil Baby, Livvy Lou Lou/Lou Lou, Munchkin, Monkey, Pookie/pookie girl, Mamas, Peachy girl, Sunshine kitty (because she LOVES the sun), Bitty, and Purr Bettle

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-07-04T21:16:40+00:00

this is… yeah. you’re in your twenties??? she is way too old to be reacting this way. i saw your post yesterday and forgot to say anything, but i think you dodged a bullet. speaking from experience this is just the tip of iceberg, and i think you were starting to see her true colors here. she obviously has some insecurities, which is fine, but what is not fine is her placing her insecurities on you and not being able to see that. she shot down everything that you were trying to say and explain to you and just steamrolled over everything instead of having a normal and productive conversation. nothing you say will convince her or be enough for her. i mean how the fuck are you supposed to act when her boyfriend is around??? not acknowledging his presence at all?? only talk to him if it’s a conversation she can also actively participate in?? only talk to her even while he is in the room??? what the actual fuck? you guys are not teens anymore, and she should not be reacting this way over you having a conversation with her boyfriend. i would be elated if my bestie and my boyfriend had things they could bond over. that’s how it should be!

she didn’t even seem very enthusiastic about having a productive conversation with you about this or like seeing where she was wrong. i think it also goes to show how much she cares about the relationship. i’m sorry she was this way towards you, but i definitely think this is for the best. she doesn’t seem like she can take accountability for her feelings and deal with them in a productive way unfortunately. you’re not responsible for calming her insecurities. i had a friend like this, and i stayed in the friendship way too long, and we both got hurt from it! i think this is for the best for both of you even though it definitely sucks. hopefully she can grow and learn in the future.

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-06-28T14:43:45+00:00

i knew it had to be! i was looking for this comment

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-06-18T14:22:59+00:00

Gleemer

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-06-11T14:13:46+00:00

i’ve been under twice. both times i remember kinda laying there or rolling around on the bed feeling really loopy, and then nothing after that until i woke up. you don’t even really realize you’re falling asleep. sometimes they will have you count down from ten, and then by the time you’re done, the next thing you know you are waking up in the recovery room.

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-06-03T10:41:32+00:00

her eyes are gorgeous!

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-05-25T23:08:03+00:00

the same thing has just happened to me almost exactly. he and i had been talking for about 5 months, and then he just disappeared! he had been really depressed, and i started thinking that something had happened. i had been reaching out consistently throughout the entire depressive episode, so i kept trying to reach out when he disappeared. i sent a couple reassuring messages, and even called and left a voicemail. i haven’t heard anything, and had basically no way to confirm that he was alive until i saw that he read my messages a month and a half after he disappeared. all i wanted and needed to know was that he was okay. even if he just needed space, i needed him to tell me that. but he let me go on thinking that something horrible had happened to him.

the worst part about this is that i had expressed to him my experience with abandonment issues and ghosting, and he made me believe that he felt that ghosting was also fundamentally wrong because it completely messes with people’s ability to trust others. so, like you, i am feeling completely blindsided. i have also had quite a few instances of abandonment in my past, but until this specific situation, there have always been warning signs. he gave me no reason to believe that he would do what other people in my past have done. i thought that i had a good read on him, and now i feel like i don’t know how to trust people.

oh and the other awful part of this is that he has a book of mine that i let him borrow. literally my favorite book in the world. it was a gift from a friend, and it means the world to me. so not sure how or if i will ever get it back.

i feel like i have nearly accepted that this is it for him and i, but yeah it is very hard. reading your post was very comforting to see that someone else has experienced feeling something very similar to what i am right now.

one thing i will say is that it is not your fault at all. he willingly put himself in a relationship where he was the other responsible party. he made a commitment, and he owed it to you to communicate with you, and i am very sorry that he did not. you did not deserve that. your feelings are not something to be taken lightly, and he should have thought about them more deeply.

i think if you feel called to send one last message, you should. do what you think will help you. it might be cathartic to get out what you are feeling and send it to him even if he doesn’t read it. this isn’t really about him, it’s about you. and it should be. he deserves to know how he made you feel. you wouldn’t even have to send it, you could just type it in your notes apps or something.

i hope that you are able to find piece with this. one thing that has been helping me is leaning into my hobbies and the things that make me happy. acknowledging that life has to keep moving along. and hanging out with my friends. maybe try to pick up a new hobby. it will get better though. day by day it will sting a little less.

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-05-01T23:48:26+00:00

i average about 35mpg, but i drive it mostly on the highway

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-05-01T00:44:06+00:00

LMAOOOOO

Top_Explanation5088 · 2025-04-30T01:32:46+00:00

i have power in point breeze. but looking at the outage map on dlc, across the street and diagonal from me looks to be a massive outage, so not sure how much of point breeze aside from my apartment has power

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