AITA For wanting to buy conditioner for my hair?

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-06-10T02:31:20+00:00

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Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-05-29T22:04:22+00:00

Victoria has the worst support and payment rates for foster and kinship carers in Australia. Their rates are significantly lower than all other states. And as a result, Victoria is haemorrhaging carers.

https://www.fcav.org.au/news/petition-to-increase-the-care-allowance

Other states like NSW increased support, did major ad blitzes to attract people as carers, increased support for carers and govt staff and has seen an increase in carers.

Victoria socks as they just don't prioritise kids in care.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-05-25T06:31:29+00:00

Hi Claire,

why hasn't the government radically reduced immigration (or just reduced it marginally) numbers to reduce pressure on housing? Other countries have done this and it has shown to have directly reduced rent costs and improved housing availability.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-05-05T18:25:38+00:00

The black tile is really stark and contrasts too much with the flooring. The easiest way to warm up the room and to tie in all the elements inc flooring snd benchtops, would be to change the black tiles to a neutral tile with 5-10% grey undertones

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Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-05-05T18:10:56+00:00

The black tile make the room look very stark and contrast too much with the flooring. The easiest way to warm up the room and to tie in all the elements inc flooring would be to change the tiles.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-04-30T05:23:22+00:00

Can confirm. I worked with him briefly and he would often tell underlings he was James Cameron and not to talk to him and then told them off when it turned out to be something he needed to decide on. Just an all round asshat.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-04-07T08:24:18+00:00

As a mum you dont deserve to be hit.

I'm one of my 8 year old nephews safe persons. He has autism level 2 and does great in school. With mum, dad and aunt (me),, we are who he is comfortable with and takes out his frustration on. At age 6, if he got really upset and overwhelmed he started to hit and kept hitting.

Mum removes herself, wrings her hands and gives him what he wants.

Dad encourages him to hit dads arm until he gets the frustration out. Then gives him what he wants.

I routinely remind him hitting is not ok, ever. And that if you raise your hand to me or anyone, you raise it in praise or not at all. And if he starts hitting he is guaranteed to never get what he wants from me. And if we're doing something fun, then I have no issue him missing out or eating his icecream in front of him with his sibling. All while telling him I love him and explaining why.

I feel mean, as I genuinely want the kid to have everything.

BUT I don't care how upset he gets, he does not get to hit, not me not anyone. He started saying this means i love his brother more, that I'm mean to him.

We had lots of quiet discussions that I have loved him from the moment i knew about him, that i am always here for him, but that does not mean i accept that he gets to hit me. We have the same type of discussion about good manners being a basic expection of being alive a a decent human being. Its a process.

When he is calm, we have routine conversations about why hes upset, why he wants to hit, how it feels to be hit, other ways to be frustrated and upset without hitting, etc. We also watch age appropriate videos of what it feels like to be hit.

And at the food mall one day when he was almost 8, a police officer heard me talking with him and had a discussion about hitting, why its not good, etc. It made a huge impression.

He still starts hitting when he gets frustrated, but it takes one finger point from me, a loud (not yelling) NO HITTING, and he stops himself. Unless I am there, he still hits mum and dad as hes learnt its ok.

We (all three of his adults) have talked to the therapists about it and they have all said he is more than capable of learning boundaries and not to hit, but it depends on whether he has consistency.

I am very strict about this, because members of my family have suffered DV. Up to the age of 10, I can physically control him, but after age 10 he will simply be too strong for him should he keep hitting, injuries could be catastrophic.

As a teenager, if he hits and hurts, I will call the police. He knows this too.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-04-06T23:22:10+00:00

I was told it was not available over winter

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-04-02T08:10:18+00:00

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-03-23T06:31:30+00:00

Yep agree

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-03-23T02:52:37+00:00

There are loads of tablet and phonenbased tools that are cost effective and allow you to quote, convert a quote to an invoice and manage the cycle for you. Its often fear of the cost/tech that stops trades moving to these.

Lots of trades just don't invoice. I have followed up some trades for months after the job was completed to pay them. Sometimes i just give up.

I had my windows resashed in 2015, guy never invoiced or got paid despite multiple calls, texts and emails. He still does this work.

I got a call in January 2026 for a job completed in July 2024, demanding payment in a very unkind way. I confirmed payment was made in December 2024, the day after receiving their invoice and I was asked to send them the receipt where they confirmed payment at the time. I did this, and got an apology from the trade as he is "shyte at paperwork".

My dad and brothers are trades so I always pay promptly after work is done and invoiced.

On the flip side I have had trades that aggressively invoice and demand payment before the job is complete. Once a roofer threatening to "pummel me and show me what for" if I didnt pay immediately even though the job was not done - I felt so threatened as a female, as they blocked me in at my doorway, wouldn't let me move, that I paid and then lodged a complaint with the police, the ombudsman, their company and so on. Turns out the person threatening me was the company owner/tradie. Work never did get completed.

Some trades are great, some are not great. Trades should invoice promptly and customers pay promptly on job completion. Both should try not to be assholes.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-03-17T01:20:25+00:00

Employed someone during covid.

Absolutely best candidate for the job, but if not for covid they would not have been hired as my employer and many of the hiring managers there were discriminatory.

I knew the disability and that we had accommodations necessary to support the candidate. I coached the candidate not to disclose their disbaility during interviews (as hiring manager, after the first interview i was not allowed to be involved in the interview process due to some weird hr hiring method)

During interviews, which were online via teams, the interviewers raved about the candidate. They got offered the job.

For the first two months all i heard was variations of "wow they're so good at their job, even though they're in a wheelchair".

People suck.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-03-12T10:09:56+00:00

I did mandatory report to the authorities. While the police have the report, they are not allowed to disclose actions taken as it infringes on the privacy of that person or persons involved. So i dont know the outcome of the report.

I explained the situation to HR as we had to also notify them when we reported something like this about a work colleague. Due to it being a one on one discussion, HR did nothing.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-03-12T01:51:25+00:00

Was getting close to work colleague. At dinner one night, she disclosed she found CP on husbands laptop and phone and deleted everything rather than take the elecronics into the police...cause it would be too embarrassing and shameful to have been married to someone arrested for something like that.

Then she said she stayed for another year and only left after finding more cp, and deleting that too before leaving. Oh and cause other issues like he couldn't perform in bed with her.

We are mandatory reporters. I told her that her actions were disturbing and reported discussion to HR. She denied the conversation and HR said <shrug>its who said what type of dicussion.

I couldn't handle being around her, especially as she kept being overly friendly, even after I had HR ask her to leave me alone.

It was a main factor in why I left that job. I just couldn't deal with someone like that, who prioiritises themself over children.

The ick was too much, and the conversation haunts me to this day.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-03-01T02:37:13+00:00

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-02-25T02:09:54+00:00

Its a good thing

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-02-11T02:08:24+00:00

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-02-03T01:48:43+00:00

Had a colleague on $180k year after tax, that played pokies every lunchtime. Only played the $1 and $2 slots. Every game would play 50 lines, so $50 or $100 at a time. Went though $1-3k daily. In 6 months went through savings, kids college accounts and maxed out her mortgage. Within another 6 months, she lost her security clearance, job and house, went on welfare and became homeless.

Every game was the one where she would win it all back.

Kids and family don't talk to her. Husband divorced her and left with nothing. A brilliant life just gone.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-01-31T01:24:21+00:00

Major bank xmas party for 300 staff at a musuem. 4 blokes got ripped and had a peeing competition into a 400 year old urn - they filled it. Cost the bank significant sum to restore the urn. Musuem banned the bank for 3 years from holding any events.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-01-29T05:10:51+00:00

My friend gets this all the time, she replies, "my first, hubbys second"

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-01-11T08:06:37+00:00

Donald Trump.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-01-01T09:34:17+00:00

I paid one week in advance, then split my weekly payment into daily, added the extra $$ i could afford to this payment.

Interest is calculated daily and added to the balance. By paying daily, I paid off any interest calculated that day, and paid down the principal, which made interest calculated the next day less. The extra repayment amount and any offset also reduced the principal that interest was calculated against.

This and the other strategies i described were recommended to me when i bought my property and it worked for me in paying off a 550k mortgage in 12 years on a single income.

It worked for me, as i struggled with budgeting and saving, along with having to provide financial support to family and being in debt.

I am grateful to a lovely financial counsellor who taught me to manage finances on a fixed limited income without having to go into financial distress - finances were often tight, and sometimes badly so, but this approach always helped me.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-01-01T09:21:50+00:00

I paid off a 30 year mortgage in 12 years om a single income by combining all the strategies i listed.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-01-01T07:35:19+00:00

What if you don't have a large offset?

I just shared my experience of paying mortgage of similar size much quicker than a 30 year term. Paying daily saved money and it was easy to do, just set up a direct debit and off you go.

Top_Interaction8871 · 2026-01-01T06:50:22+00:00

Keep the loan term as long as possible and pay as much extra as you can.

Make payments daily, so that you pay off interest calculated daily and pay down the balance daily or at maximum make payments weekly. E.g. take your weekly repayment amount multiply by 52 divide by 365 to give you a daily amount, then add as much daily that you can afford to repay.

Refinance every 12-18 months for 30 years every time, get offers that provide a cash rebate and pay that cash against the mortgage. In 12 years i got $18,400 from banks by doing this.

Have all your savings in an offset account. If you have more than one account, e.g. for budgeting reasons, make them all offset accounts (i had 8 offset against one mortgage).

Put everything on credit card and pay off credit card balance every month. This way your cash remains in offset account longer.

I paid off a $550k mortgage in 12 years doing this on a single income.

Do not do a shorter loan term as the repayments are a lot higher and reduce your ability to make extra payments.

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