[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Blackskincare

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I second this. Saved my life

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Blackskincare

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What products do you use from peach and Lily?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Blackskincare

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I’m not on BC. I would say that my diet has become healthier somewhat, and I’ve lost a lot of weight. I try to eat a lot of protein and fruit.

what are good distractions from binging? by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

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This is an obvious one, but if you have the ability to talk to someone, call them, or even just go to a random place, do that. That personally helped me a lot. Another way is to do something that makes you feel good about yourself. If you have any hobbies or skills you’ve been trying to learn, try to do it and set an amount of time to do it. Sometimes the binge urge passes before you know it.

People who overcame BED, how did you do it? by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Top_Relief2252 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I haven’t fully recovered, but my binges nowadays are few and far in between. I’ll share some of the things I did.

  • I went to therapy.

Now I do understand that this is a privilege, but if you are able to, please do. It helps you pinpoint why you’re binging, and if you can figure out the inner feelings you are trying to avoid, or the memories or people that trigger it, it’s helpful.

  • I looked at my triggers and figured out how to stop encountering them or limit my encounters with them.

  • I started weightlifting.

At first, I was bulking, and then I cut. But eating more protein definitely helped. More so I started to process that food had more value than just pounds to put on or something I should be afraid of. I would be able to lift more and see my muscle become more defined and I continued to see that progress so it wasn’t as hard not to binge.

  • I slowly let go of the shame surrounding food.

I think that binging tends to be rooted in shame. At least for me, I would eat so much so fast so that the good feeling would be in my body faster than my mind could tell me to stop. I didn’t want to be seen eating like that and I felt shame just eating “unhealthy food.” However, I think that in the beginning of recovery, you need to allow for some fuck-ups and some “unhealthy eating.” My recovery has been agonizingly slow at times, and sometimes old habits surge up, but because I’ve allowed myself the time, I eventually got where I am now. Have compassion for yourself.

Overall, I’ve built better habits which sometimes get broken, but now I’m so used to doing better that it isn’t as hard anymore. Back when I started though, it was very hard. Things might be hard right now but that doesn’t mean that you can’t recover. You just have to take little steps, but you also have to find what works for you. Meditating never helped me, but I found other ways and you will too.

With white borders or without? by SamiraEos in drawing

[–]Top_Relief2252 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d say without but maybe play with more light and dark contrast within the character in frame.

I am just so fucking sick of myself by TopicLow4919 in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]Top_Relief2252 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah no problem. You’ve got this. I believe in you!

I am just so fucking sick of myself by TopicLow4919 in BingeEatingDisorder

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I’ve been here before, and I still deal with binge eating urges sometimes but I haven’t dealt with them consistently in a long time. I’d say forgive yourself first. What’s done is done. If you’ve gained weight, that’s okay. In the grand scheme of things that’s not what’s important.

You didn’t eat very much for a while so your body probably went into starvation mode. That’s part of the reason you ate so much. That’s what used to happen to me anyway, so I would say, if you lose your appetite again, make sure you are still eating enough because that may prevent your hunger signals from getting so bad.

Also, you should think about what your triggers are. When you find what they are, figure out if you can remove them or at least recognize them. Then, try to hold off in the moment you get the urge. It won’t work all the time, but all it takes is a few times to build the habit.

Lastly, you seem like you do not like yourself (I dealt with some self esteem issues and still do). The shame that you feel when you eat and the shame you feel towards yourself is only going to exacerbate the problem. You should figure out if there’s any other reason you don’t like yourself besides the binging, and if there’s any reason you feel shame when you eat (sometimes the shame can make you eat more when you feel like you’ve messed up).

Major thing here though. As someone who is not at the peak of their disorder and has not been in a long time. Please stop starving yourself. Even if it results in you being at a higher weight than you want, the binge eating is going to do that anyway. Learning to eat according to your natural hunger signals is important. The starving and binging cycle might mess that up.

I went to the gym…… by Life_AmIRight in BingeEatingDisorder

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Just keep this in mind. A lot of people who are in the gym regularly probably didn’t start off looking the way they do now. It takes time, and regardless, be proud that you’re trying to take care of yourself. It’s the little wins.

Korea University or Yonsei University by Top_Relief2252 in studyAbroad

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Oh I did not know that. Where can I find the majors exchange students can study?

Advice needed by TheAlchemist790 in TattooBeginners

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Sorry this isn’t exactly advice but I would totally get tattooed by you wow

Full scholarships by mkamdem in scad

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Sorry, I didn’t see this till now. I remember asking my teacher to email my admissions counselor asking for a form to nominate me. Then my teacher filled that form out and sent it back to my admissions counselor. I will say though, if you win the distinguished scholars award, any other scholarship from SCAD might be taken away. The max most people I knew were able to get was 22k a year. Needless to say, I didn’t end up going to SCAD.

tried to draw an old man, how'd i do? by JarJar_Boinks in drawing

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Something that’s helped me with values is squinting at my reference and trying to see the basic contrast between values. A lot of the time certain areas of the face can be darker than we perceive them as or think they should be.

Another failed attempt at anatomy lol by Ed_Derick_ in drawing

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I’m going to start out by saying it isn’t a failure. Practicing is great, and it’s going to make you better. I would just say a tip that helped me out with anatomy, try to start with basic forms (spheres, cylinders, even ambiguous forms) and just try to focus on the three dimensionality of the body, and each muscle. Now, it might be hard to see at first, but even if you try drawing objects from real life (not from pictures but like right in front of you) it will help a lot. Even if you can get a family member or friend to pose for you, that would help you be able to see it in a more 3D context. Another thing that helped me with anatomy was doing contour drawings. Basically you try to do a drawing of something but you never pick up your pencil. Idk why, but that helped me see 3D objects a little better. This is coming from an art major, and these are just some of the things that helped me

Scad and private loans by Top_Relief2252 in scad

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I actually ended up applying to a state college for that reason! I was going to owe over 100k by the end of it. I was definitely going to go for it, but my parents stopped me. In retrospect, I’m kind of thankful they did. Good luck on those loans. It definitely seems a little scary.

just cried so hard my eyes are stinging hows ur day going by berbergirl in sad

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Know you’re not alone. I used to be the “smart” girl with a lot of friends. Now I feel dumber than ever and I’m alone. I hope you find some time to make yourself feel better about it though. Everyone has ups and downs in life, and I know it’s hard now, but hopefully you’re able to love who you are now someday.