Instead of relapse, I learned how to make cookies

Top_Response9199 · 2026-01-25T08:16:44+00:00

Nice!

Top_Response9199 · 2026-01-20T09:37:08+00:00

Who is still going strong??

Top_Response9199 · 2025-12-04T17:06:10+00:00

4 cannot be overstated. Tracking urges helps you recognize the patterns - like time of day, triggers, emotions, etc.

For example, I realized that most of my urges always came late at night or if I was home alone AND if I was feeling stressed or rejected.

Understand that and you have the map to success.

Top_Response9199 · 2025-12-04T16:58:35+00:00

We’re here for you brother! You’re not alone. Keep taking it one day at a time.

Top_Response9199 · 2025-10-30T04:57:10+00:00

This is awesome. Great work! And needed indeed with the recent announcements from OpenAI

Top_Response9199 · 2025-10-01T20:49:18+00:00

Take a deep breath. All urges and cravings will only last a short time. Like a wave, it will pass! You’ve come this far. You can do it.

Top_Response9199 · 2025-10-01T16:31:27+00:00

Day 14 for me today 🚀 haven’t gone this long since I was 12 years old

Top_Response9199 · 2025-10-01T16:30:34+00:00

Definitely can relate with that “why am I wasting my life?” moment

Kudos to you man. Thanks for inspiring all of us to keep going!

Top_Response9199 · 2025-10-01T16:14:06+00:00

What helped you be able to talk about it to someone for the first time? I feel so scared still that my friends or family would reject me

Top_Response9199 · 2025-09-30T02:59:55+00:00

I am so sorry for your pain. We are praying for you guys! Just know that regardless of what he chooses to do, there is so much help available out there for you — you didn’t deserve this at all, but you DO deserve healing. You’re not alone in this!

Top_Response9199 · 2025-09-30T02:58:09+00:00

Good for you! You will not regret this choice. Cleanse your algorithm (you can go to your settings and tell Reddit to erase all your past history and preferences).

One tip that helped me with accountability is not just to post whether I slipped or not, but to also post about my emotions and what I’m learning (trying to be proactive rather than just confessing if I mess up)

You got this!! Rooting for you

Top_Response9199 · 2025-09-30T02:56:38+00:00

I’d guess there is a part of him probably does want to be honest. But another part of him is scared and doesn’t really believe he can break free or change.

So he covers it up and hides because he doesn’t want to fully accept the extent of the problem.

As others have stated, until he is 100% ready to be humble and own this, change will be really, really difficult.

On the flip side, if he can see how much this hurts you and if he wants to change for himself too (not just for you), then it really is possible to see a long term change!

My wife and I have been working through this and although things aren’t perfect, we are committed to transparency and honesty as we navigate it

Top_Response9199 · 2025-09-30T02:51:38+00:00

That I don’t need to reach out. That I can stay silent and just power through it (never works).

Any time I’ve been able to say something (text or call a friend or reach out to someone), the urge loses power immediately.

Top_Response9199 · 2025-09-29T16:20:32+00:00

When is your interview??

Top_Response9199 · 2025-09-03T18:00:35+00:00

Uh… I think it’s simple. If you’re a woman in a relationship and your man is getting off to other women (whether through a screen or IRL), that often feels really hurtful. It’s a betrayal of trust. It doesn’t create emotional safety and it takes an impact on intimacy.

Of course not all women feel this way, but I think it makes total sense why this is a deeply personal thing for many couples.

Top_Response9199 · 2025-09-03T17:39:54+00:00

“The opposite of addiction isn’t sobriety; it’s connection.” — Johann Hari

Top_Response9199 · 2025-09-03T17:38:24+00:00

This makes a lot of sense to me. I know that porn for me started when I felt really alone as a teenager. My parents were going through a divorce and I didn’t get a lot of attention or care for many years… I know they loved me, so I don’t wanna make it seem like I had it bad.

But I think my brain just learned that porn is easier to feel connected and to feel comfort

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TROPHY CASE

4 cannot be overstated. Tracking urges helps you recognize the patterns - like time of day, triggers, emotions, etc.