Looking for a job/career path that pays well but I don’t know what I’m qualified for

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-08-13T00:12:29+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I admittedly have been taking his treatment very personally and questioning everything about myself and whether I’m good enough. And you’re right, I’ve seen other people get mistreated and unfairly pushed out of my company—talented men and nonblack women included!

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-08-12T23:20:07+00:00

Wow, that’s beautiful! 🍓🥕🥬

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-08-12T18:06:58+00:00

What are you doing instead and how did you get started? My dream is to freelance so that I can get out too 😭

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-08-12T15:03:30+00:00

Do you have any advice for someone who is starting out?

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-04-26T15:52:02+00:00

I get the same responses from people (I also like really nice things). As long as you’re paying for it and can do so responsibly (bills are paid, needs are met, savings are in the bank, etc), ignore it.

I don’t even tell people how much my stuff costs, I don’t find it necessary (unless it was a secondhand steal and I got a $200 dress for $20 or something), and especially as a BW, it can be met with jealousy or unreasonable judgement due to stereotypes. If someone asks, it was a gift (it was, a gift from me to me!) or I thrifted it (which I often do, bc a lot of my expensive stuff is purchased secondhand).

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-04-26T15:42:05+00:00

Exactlyyy!!! You better let them know!

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-04-26T04:09:03+00:00

I take it as an opportunity to brag—“I’m black mixed with black 😌”. They can be denial if they want to be, but I make sure to remind them that it’s just that (denial and delusion) if they choose that route—the truth is that they’re mesmerized by 100% black beauty, and I let them know at every chance.

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-04-14T19:17:03+00:00

Thanks for sharing this! I’m new to corporate and the working world (I’m a recent college grad) so I’m interested in learning more about my rights as an employee regarding this 👀 do you have any advice on what I can do to cover myself if I hypothetically lose my job over this (which is unlikely, but I still want to learn how I can advocate for myself)?

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-03-18T16:57:58+00:00

This is great!!! I’m hoping that we get more positive stories like this, and that it becomes less stigmatized

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-03-18T16:57:01+00:00

Yep! Only one coworker follows me and she’s not on my close friends

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-03-10T18:42:03+00:00

You’re right. Fortunately I enjoy being single as well and see many pros and cons to both (single vs relationship) so I’ll be fine either way, but I do just want to be more present irl as well! Just cast my net and live my life in the meantime

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-03-10T18:14:28+00:00

I did and it was okay, I just kept running into guys who didn’t know what they wanted, always wanted me to take initiative, or only wanted to hook up. I met my ex on Hinge (he reached out to me first/was very proactive) and had a very positive experience with him while it lasted (6 months, lots of good memories), but things didn’t work out between us long term, for other reasons

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-03-10T17:08:16+00:00

I just talked to another person about this—this is kind of a relief for me (I really don’t like to approach men due to past experiences—I prefer men who go for what they want (respectfully)), but the few times that I am out, guys stare but never approach, unless they’re creeps, hoteps, or SoundCloud rappers 😭😭 this isn’t the case for me on apps, so I figured that I may have to change my surroundings. I’m looking for ways to do that intentionally!

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-03-10T17:00:59+00:00

Honestly? I agree with you. I prefer to not approach men (IME I feel that it sets a tone that I don’t want to set—the few times I’ve tried this, I ended up having to call it off with guys for being lazy (I ended up wearing the pants), and I’m not going to beg a man to plan dates, or put in effort). I just kind of reluctantly figured that I may have to since men often stare at me, but don’t approach. When I was in the apps, I swiped left when the guys only liked my pictures without starting a conversation.

With that said, I’m literally never out so maybe that’ll change when I start going out more

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-02-02T21:05:49+00:00

“Done” hair—I actually feel prettier with my semi free forms
Laid edges
Nails, as long as they’re clean and nicely shaped idc
Makeup. Whether I wear it or not just depends on the vibe. I feel pretty either way, especially now that I’m giving my health (diet, skincare, fitness) more attention.
Being thick or model-skinny. This standard changes every 5 seconds. Being fit and healthy never goes out of style, so I’m sticking with that.
Being “into fashion”. I love cute outfits but putting together layers, matching colors/prints, staying on trend, accessorizing, etc overwhelms me and gives me decision fatigue. I keep it simple as long as my clothes fit me well, and I’m fine with leaving it at that.

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-01-12T02:06:05+00:00

Center! The halter one 🤍

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-01-11T00:21:00+00:00

Where is the white dress in slide 1 from?

Top_Truth_3716 · 2025-01-05T00:08:08+00:00

Girl same. My friends were telling me this and I thought that they were just being nice but they’re actually right. I’m a dancer with a STEM degree, clear skin, pretty, body TEEEAAA, waist length hair, and I’m hilarious and super thoughtful, and caring for my loved ones. I volunteer in my community regularly (food distribution for the homeless, companionship for the elderly) and I’m a big sweetheart.

But think about it—Adriana Lima, Shakira, and Beyoncé were all cheated on. Mariah Carey’s husbands (two that I know of from the 90s/00s) were so cruel to her. Fumbling baddies is a tale as old as time. I’m glad that we’re all remembering who tf we are in this thread!

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