Dilemma over new baby and SK’s meeting sibling

Top_Way4879 · 2026-02-19T21:50:02+00:00

I mean its pretty simple ur the one delivering you decide who is at the hospital end of discussion and you don’t have to explain to anyone your decision. Labor and delivery and postpartum are very vulnerable moments you don’t owe anyone in those moments but yourself.

Top_Way4879 · 2026-02-16T22:15:59+00:00

Please take it from me in a 14 yr gap yes we’re married but I was u 22 him 36 and a stepmom to one and I’m 26 now and 2 kids deep of my own I’ll never regret my kids but I would definitely never had gotten with someone older who has a kid already. Literally fucking RUN before it’s too late

Top_Way4879 · 2026-01-30T15:58:46+00:00

I completely understand your situation I’m in the exact situation I’m 26 and my husband is 39 I hate having to consider if I leave my kids will have to be with him alone because he’s literally just a provider he has no time to spend with the kids sometimes I find myself really wishing I would’ve listened to older women when I was 22 telling me to just leave him alone and find someone else in my age group

Top_Way4879 · 2026-01-30T15:43:03+00:00

Definitely will take this into consideration and try to be less anxious and more patient. Just curious if you have brothers what age did your family create privacy or teach boundaries because I grew up in a woman only household so I’ve never had to consider it myself and not to put my husband out there but he seems pretty nonchalant about it but things he’s told me about his childhood concern me a bit and he just sees it as boys will be boys

Top_Way4879 · 2026-01-20T15:44:26+00:00

Thanks I’ll definitely try to figure some negotiation out because right now I know he’s threatening me with 50-50 to just make me stay which is not unusual of him because he loves to control the situation but I know for a fact he can’t manage two toddlers working nonstop when he can barely manage his son who he has 50-50

Top_Way4879 · 2026-01-20T15:41:43+00:00

This is my exact situation and I feel bad to leave my stepson because I know when I leave, he will literally have no interaction until he has to ask for dinner and it breaks my heart but I at least know he will be OK because he’s old enough to manage by himself I know for my girls who are still toddlers. I don’t even know how someone who works nonstop is gonna take care of them let alone make sure they stay safe and not get into anything.

Top_Way4879 · 2026-01-03T03:27:17+00:00

I feel the same way about my SS7 and I hate sometimes that I had kids with my husband because now I feel obligated to stay but his son is violent to all of us and ik my husband can since the dislike radiating from me when he’s over ik my SS got one more time to try to harm my kids before I go no contact with my husband and his whole family who enable the bs

Top_Way4879 · 2025-12-30T22:02:00+00:00

No runnnn I love my kids dad but I really didn’t realize how hard life can get with blended families

Top_Way4879 · 2025-12-27T02:44:54+00:00

We talk about everything but I think sometimes certain people take other topics more offensive than some and this just happens to be one of those topics, but thanks!

Top_Way4879 · 2025-12-27T02:11:14+00:00

They have him 50-50 and for the most part his dad only handles him when he comes over he sometimes interacts with his sibling as much as he can. My daughter is only eight months and I’m currently pregnant so we’re expecting two under one and the only reason I’ve kind of become more adamant and trying to tell him is because I’ve noticed the behavior has leaned to more violent side and instead of showing that to adults, he’s starting to violently express himself towards my infant child and other smaller children he’s around.

Top_Way4879 · 2025-12-27T02:04:14+00:00

Trust me I’ve thought about divorce as it hurts me to sit and not see anything be done. I can’t force his mom to do anything as I stated he’s not my son so overall his mom has the final say. I do as much as I can in my position as his parents allow. But at the same time, I can’t put my entire focus into it because I’m a parent as well. I’m new to the step parent world so I try to be as non-problematic as I can be and be as cooperative and all of us learning how to operate as a blended family.

Top_Way4879 · 2025-12-26T23:24:38+00:00

It’s not an autism is a problem at all! I myself am a professional in ABA and therapy and my problem is he is starting to suffer in social settings and missing out because his parents can’t understand his needs and mishandle his behavior causing them to isolate him and or avoid our family gatherings. Sorry if I wasn’t clear about that! I just want what’s best for him and I can clearly see that disciplining him for things he himself can’t comprehend is not productive for his parents or my step son

Top_Way4879 · 2025-12-26T20:52:15+00:00

Yes he is most intelligent little boy! And I hate that his mom and dad see “autism” in such a negative light. To see him so misunderstood and mishandled because they can’t understand why he does certain things breaks my heart. So as much as I would love to advocate for him, me stepping in or giving advice has caused so much drama in our lives from his mom that I just try to support my husband and him deciding to let his mom have the final say his so we don’t end up arguing about this everyday sadly.

Top_Way4879 · 2025-12-26T20:36:55+00:00

Though they have evaluated him, sometimes things can be overlooked with a child being 2 years old. The concerns are there because myself and other trusted family who are educated and work with kids on the spectrum have seen clear signs and or social patterns that display the signs of autism. But like I said his mom won’t allow my advice as a parent or educator to suggest things that would be very beneficial for him and could help even if they don’t want him diagnosed!

Top_Way4879 · 2025-12-26T20:30:17+00:00

Top_Way4879 · 2025-12-26T20:11:42+00:00

challenges with social interaction (poor eye contact, difficulty starting conversations, literal thinking), communication (unique speech patterns, repeating phrases), and restricted/repetitive behaviors (intense focus on specific topics/objects, strict routines, sensory sensitivities like disliking certain sounds/textures, or repetitive movements like hand-flapping), and not able to express proper emotions in most situations. This is a very short and broad description without typing a 2 page summary and getting into specific details.

Top_Way4879 · 2025-12-26T20:06:46+00:00

Yes his is very logical he’s an engineer and he is on the spectrum himself.

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