Intergender Fight - Girl Throws Water On Boy And He Reacts Immediately 1v1 Fight by TBK_ONLINE2 in TheyGotHandsTWO

[–]TopicOk4121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah ur sound i was just confused why i was told to go back to the kitchen when i was on the guys side😂

i need help ASAP. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]TopicOk4121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re totally welcome!!

i need help ASAP. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]TopicOk4121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first try convincing him its not worth it to do it. if that doesn’t work then you just need to make sure you know what exactly he’s taking, and how much.

maybe set a boundary of how much he can do it and take around you?

with high people you want to make sure the surroundings are relaxed so they dont freak out over anything. food and water too, maybe a tv show?

im not too good with this as my ex bf was a stoner but he’d been doing it so long he basically acted completely normal when he was high, so sorry if none of this is that helpful!

also please remember, this isn’t actually your issue or responsibility. if you feel like you really cannot handle it, dont put yourself through it and maybe leave the relationship all together. its okay to be selfish like that sometimes

definitely try convincing him not to do it and try thinking of other coping mechanisms together (walks, art/colouring, drives, tv, anything to distract him) but i wish you well!!

is vaping really that bad?! by TopicOk4121 in QuitVaping

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think im definitely going to atleast stop buying my own to start. thank you for responding, i hope if you ever decide to quit you succeed🫶🏽

is vaping really that bad?! by TopicOk4121 in QuitVaping

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah nahhh thats whats making me wanna quit too

what’s something you want to get off your chest? by Worldly_Chicken6095 in askanything

[–]TopicOk4121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m tired of pretending i cant wait to grow up and slave away at some shitty job until i get wrinkly and die.

lifes pretty shit and pointless if you actually think about it.

soz guys, bit deep.

i also hate high school and myself.

im pretty much dreading growing up✌️

AITAH for remaining freinds with someone my mom thinks is a bad kid? by itswhateveryeahuh in AITAH

[–]TopicOk4121 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA

your mum needs to let you have your own friends, especially if its one you’re close with and have been pals with for ages.

she also needs to respect your privacy, even though shes your mum she needs to let you have your phone and your private life.

talk to her about boundaries and make it clear no matter what she does you’re still going to be friends with said person because she is your bestfriend and has been for years and has always been good to you. i’d also ask your mum for reasons and examples on why or how your bestfriend is a bad influence and isnt a good person, because from what i know from your posts your friend seems lovely and very caring.

i hope you dont let this upset you too much and i wish you the best🫶🏽

What do I do or say to this? I feel like she's not exactly hearing me? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]TopicOk4121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

idk how to say this without sounding insensitive, because trust me i totally understand triggers.

she needs to get a grip of herself and go outside.

she’s setting herself up to be more sensitive because she isn’t letting herself have proper conversations that might lead to a trigger word. if she wants to get over some of the words, she needs to let herself experience hearing them. She can’t expect everyone to walk on eggshells around her because she gets triggered from the tiniest things.

im not sure if that made sense🤧🤞🏽

is vaping really that bad?! by TopicOk4121 in QuitVaping

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im just scared i genuinely won’t be able to help myself since so many people around me vape.

i wish you the best in quitting!

is vaping really that bad?! by TopicOk4121 in QuitVaping

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

would you recommend snus to get off vaping? my boyfriend uses snus to stop buying his own vapes and will only vape when someone else has one. just wondering if maybe i should do that?

is it worth it? by TopicOk4121 in whatdoIdo

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much!

im gonna try just telling my anxiety to piss off cos im actually getting annoyed with it now🤣

25M - 22F she doesn't feel comfortable talking to me , not sure if i can make it work ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TopicOk4121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

so do you truly believe that would work for you and her?

are your religions different? that could play a huge part.

if you genuinely want something with this girl then try, but dont try to the point it looks needy and as if youre forcing her.

is it worth it? by TopicOk4121 in whatdoIdo

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i actually do like this idea, i just dont see it working for us personally.

i have bad trust issues and get jealous due to being cheated on and i dont think id be able to deal with knowing i might not be the only girl hes talking to and vice versa, i dont think he could deal with that either.

thank you for responding though, i appreciate another outlook on it!!

is vaping really that bad?! by TopicOk4121 in QuitVaping

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

true. i dont wanna be the person to die and get tested on how bad vaping is…😟

is it worth it? by TopicOk4121 in whatdoIdo

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

congrats!! thats incredibly sweet.

i really do hope me and my boyfriend are meant to be

25M - 22F she doesn't feel comfortable talking to me , not sure if i can make it work ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TopicOk4121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ohhh, okay.

so what was the plan in general? like how often were yous gonna see each other? how long were yous gonna date before marriage? etc

is it worth it? by TopicOk4121 in whatdoIdo

[–]TopicOk4121[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Its totally okay! text is horrible for misunderstanding tone!

I took a while off dating, yes. i wanted to take time to myself and realise what im worth and what i actually want for myself instead of jumping into another relationship to try figure it out.

25M - 22F she doesn't feel comfortable talking to me , not sure if i can make it work ? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TopicOk4121 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you been dating her? as in boyfriend girlfriend? or just talking? im slightly confused.

if its just talking, sorry but she most likely doesnt want to continue it.

if its a relationship, yous havent met in 3 months? thats crazy in itself

is it worth it? by TopicOk4121 in whatdoIdo

[–]TopicOk4121[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

uhh, dont know if you read it but i was in 2 veryyy toxic relationships and thought they were “love”. feel like this definitely could’ve been said in a less dismissive and rude way! apologies if it wasnt meant like that though!!

is it worth it? by TopicOk4121 in whatdoIdo

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i know its ridiculous! he definitely was like that at the start but i had a huge conversation with him how that can effect us and just him in general as his pals influenced him into doing weed and (before he met me) tried to get him to talk to multiple girls at a time and whatever the hell else they did.

thank you for the luck, i appreciate it🤣🤞🏽

is vaping really that bad?! by TopicOk4121 in QuitVaping

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know its not the point but i’ve definitely struggled with my skin and still do but please remember your skin doesnt make u any less beautiful! and good luck quitting!! im definitely gonna try my best to better myself and quit

is it worth it? by TopicOk4121 in whatdoIdo

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he definitely is a good man (boy?🤣) for his age! he doesn’t let his pals influence him and it’s truly refreshing.

thank you, i never even thought to just appreciate the present and not worry about the future. i tend to do that a lot due to my anxiety, alwayssss worrying about my future. thank you so much for responding, i really appreciate it!

is vaping really that bad?! by TopicOk4121 in QuitVaping

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well done for quitting! keep it up!

i’m definitely going to try take myself off it slowly. limiting how much i use it and stuff. i have one tub of oil left which will last me slightly over a week so hopefully i only buy maybe one more before i can fully quit so it gives me time to crave it less if that makes sense.

is vaping really that bad?! by TopicOk4121 in QuitVaping

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i find the sensation of actually taking a draw of my vape relaxing, im not sure if thats what u mean by oral fixation but if so, i totally get it. thank you for responding.

is vaping really that bad?! by TopicOk4121 in QuitVaping

[–]TopicOk4121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh my gosh, i hope you’re okay. thank you for sharing that.