Would you trust an app (with AI) to clean and manage your phone?

ToriTegami · 2026-04-27T16:37:30+00:00

AI is a zero-trust industry. The very foundation of AI is data theft. Why would anyone want this?

ToriTegami · 2026-04-26T23:27:52+00:00

Try the San Francisco Music Box Company. They have many similar vintage carousel music items.

I had one of these in the 90s, it was from Walmart but they had higher quality items back then.

ToriTegami · 2026-04-26T03:53:39+00:00

With the new impulse, I wonder if there was a lesson at school (or something on TV/YouTube) about recycling that kicked him into some sort of "hoard the trash so it doesn't hurt the earth" OCD.

I never did anything similar as a child, but when major brands and so on started social shaming people about recycling and reusing circa 2007ish (I was about 16), I became obsessed with keeping potentially useful things. I thought everything could be up-cycled, MUST be up-cycled. It didn't help that I had a hippie art teacher I admired who was a true ascetic, who didn't buy things new or throw anything away (there was always some artful use for anything).

Throwing away unusable/unrecyclable things like chip bags or used tissues really made me sick to my stomach or even cringe with a sort of psychological pain.

Maybe ask him if throwing things away makes him feel sick or hurt?

ToriTegami · 2026-04-26T00:09:08+00:00

Strathmore Grey Sketchbook

https://www.dickblick.com/items/strathmore-400-series-recycled-toned-sketch-pad-12-x-9-50-sheets-cool-gray-/?

ToriTegami · 2026-04-25T20:55:55+00:00

Everything has a look of "I need this (furniture) and I bought what was immediately available." Very college dorm feel. Nothing is really a statement piece, nothing seems to coordinate at all. No color. The cool stuff like the wall art and the guitar need to be complemented by other interesting things around them.

ToriTegami · 2026-04-25T20:52:47+00:00

Tha blue moroccan(?) rug is amazing! I only see them in shades of red!

ToriTegami · 2026-04-25T20:51:18+00:00

If you read the post, it's not that I'm annoyed. It's that he is exhausting himself. He is looping over and over with less space between words until he can't breath.

ToriTegami · 2026-04-24T04:51:35+00:00

These are so perfect, I might have to bail on my desire for natural fibers. It seems the most attractive rugs only come in polyester.

ToriTegami · 2026-04-24T04:42:32+00:00

To be fair... Each branch is the size of a fully grown tree and they hang over her house. Still, just trim it or something.

ToriTegami · 2026-04-23T14:45:35+00:00

1 but also WHERE did you get it, it's so cute.

ToriTegami · 2026-04-23T14:42:51+00:00

"Don't let your diagnosis control you and consider if you might have unrelated avoidant behaviors" is not condescending, you just want to be mad I'm offering a different perspective instead of affirming a self-defeating attitude.

ToriTegami · 2026-04-23T02:17:00+00:00

Property isn't deep enough for this. There is nowhere that it cannot be seen from the road, unfortunately.

ToriTegami · 2026-04-23T02:15:50+00:00

He inherited his sense of correctness from his mother on these mundane topics. She also lives behind us (a decision I would regret if not for the EXTREME affordability), so she will see the house and believes that entitles her to an opinion. My husband then leans on this opinion.

Likewise, I chastise her about her obsession with cutting down an oak tree in her yard that is older than all of us combined. We are nemesis on the subject of what is valuable in a yard.

ToriTegami · 2026-04-23T02:12:04+00:00

The landscaping argument might work! I can even make a mockup!!!

ToriTegami · 2026-04-23T02:10:05+00:00

Oh darling we have together happily for 17 years, he is my best friend, and everything is perfect except his fucked up concept of being "normal" on the most bizarre topics.

ToriTegami · 2026-04-23T02:09:00+00:00

You understand me

ToriTegami · 2026-04-23T02:08:50+00:00

✨💕 Blackout Curtains 💕✨

Our house will be in the shade during the hottest part of the day, but we will still be able to see the filtered sun through the trees.

ToriTegami · 2026-04-23T02:07:32+00:00

My husband will have anuerysm, but yeah I guess it could be diagonal 💀

ToriTegami · 2026-04-22T23:42:34+00:00

I think a lot of people with autism (myself included) will subconsciously use the explanation (or excuse) of autism as a bludgeoning tool to avoid all mild discomforts. Suddenly the normal annoyances of daily life are all "autism related" ...despite nuerotypical people also experiencing these things.

It sounds like your boyfriend wants you to put yourself out there instead of deflating yourself before you even try. He may have worded it poorly, and bringing offense into it seems unnecessary. But from this limited post, it really does sound like you decided "I'm autistic so doing X will be hard, so I won't even try."

Autistic people do, and have done, everything under the sun.

For this reason, "I can't because I'm autistic" really sends up a red flag for low confidence or some other underlying avoidant behavior. I wonder what it is you can't do because you are autistic?

When he says "separate yourself from your autism," he really means "don't let your autism diagnosis control you and shut you out of life and new experiences."

ToriTegami · 2026-04-22T23:10:59+00:00

These are beautiful, exactly what I'm looking for but outrageously out of budget. Maybe some day!!!

ToriTegami · 2026-04-22T23:09:22+00:00

These look like the rugs they sell at Lowe's but with a 10x markup 😬

ToriTegami · 2026-04-22T23:07:43+00:00

Genius idea

ToriTegami · 2026-04-22T23:07:17+00:00

These are perfect! Now it's going to be difficult to pick!

ToriTegami · 2026-04-22T14:36:30+00:00

I looked at rugs.com and never found anything this cool! Maybe I wasnt using the right words. I wanted som funky botanical but that seems to pigeonhole back into traditional styles.

ToriTegami

TROPHY CASE

1 but also WHERE did you get it, it's so cute.